158. Do All That You Can, While You Can.

Today we are going to dive deep into full acceptance of a mentality that will change your life. It'll change the way you show up into any room and any group that you're in. It'll relieve you of the stresses and tensions and anxieties that you may be facing right now. When you, when you witness a mess or a conflict, it's going to relieve you of these things. And the more you let this mentality not just into your mind, also into your heart, it will completely change the posture that you carry and the way that you perceive everything that once used to bear such a burden on you. And I want that for you. So welcome back to the momset podcast. Today we're going to be discussing doing all that you can while you can and conditioning your mind to understand the real value in that, the real value behind it. So you can get out of this perfectionist to do list checklist people pleasing approach of life where you're just focused so strongly on outcomes. Become free of all of that so you can become the person that you really want to be. I, I truly believe that every single mother is worthy and deserving of being who she wants to be in the exact season that she's in. And I know, I know with absolute certainty that nothing in our life needs to change before we do. Our children do not need to behave better in order for us to handle it better. Our spouses do not need to change their communication style in order for us to communicate better. Our home, we don't need a bigger home or a smaller home or a different location to live before we can take care of what we have, who we choose to be in any room and in any group that we're in is ultimately up to us. And that's a very powerful thing for us to keep in mind. So the conflict in this, though, that I've really noticed and the difficulty in accepting this, this mentality of do all that you can while you can, why is it so hard to accept that in the beginning? Or maybe you've been trying to do that for a long time, like you want to be someone that does all that she can while she can. But have you seen my kids? Have you seen my house? Have you seen my husband? Have you seen my parents? Have you seen my neighborhood? Whatever it is, there's that big but in the way that we convince ourselves needs to move before we can, it needs to change before we can. So we come back to this ultimate truth. Nothing and no one needs to change before I do. That is so true. And once you allow yourself to change, change your mentality, change your approach, change your emotions, change your behaviors, change your perspectives, everything else changes, too. If you can just let that part in right now and just accept that on this episode, I'd say you're winning. You are doing an excellent, excellent job. And there's more than that in store for you, though there's more than that available to you. There is an ultimate freedom available to you right now in the exact car you're driving, with the exact children you have, with the exact marriage you're in, with the exact environment, with the exact childhood you have, with all of the same factors. There's an ultimate freedom available to you right now. And it's in your own heart, it's in your own mind, it's in your own being, and you get to access it. Although you will reject all of that if you reject doing all that you can while you can. And that's when the victim mentality comes in. And this is where I believe mothers are portrayed as victims. And so much of the content that we consume and the podcasts that we listen to, and even the music, the movies, the TV shows, and all through social media, all of it, we're just portrayed as such victims. And if you're consuming that type of content and that style of messaging and you see yourself as that victim, too, and we all have a victim mentality. And consuming things like that is like putting logs on the fire. Like, it's already painful, it already hurts, it's already unhelpful. And then we go out and fuel it too, by consuming all these things. So positioning moms as the victim and these messaging, marketing, messaging that we see, forms of entertainment that we watch, when that's happening, it sounds something like this, the house will be a mess. And just imagine that you're watching a TV show and the house is a mess. And the mom walks in to the home, sees this huge mess. Her kids are playing, her husband is working on something or playing with them, or scrolling his phone, whatever he's doing. And the mom goes, why should I have to clean up all of this? Why? Why does it all fall on me? Everything falls on me. This isn't fair. This isn't. What I'm just made to do is be your guys made. And she takes the position of the victim. Now, the interesting thing, and if you keep awareness of this, you'll see it everywhere. The interesting thing is moms are never the victims. Never. We are never the victims. And what we choose to do next is our decision to make. So if I'm choosing to complain about the mess, that's on me. If I'm choosing to clean it all up myself, that's on me. If I'm choosing to keep those objects in my home to be cleaned up over and over and over again, if it's been proven that I'm the only one willing to take care of these things and I keep them in the home, that's on me. The messaging though, that we're the victims, it feels stronger in the moment. Like it seems like this strong complex. There's anger there and there's rage and there's control and there's argumentative defensiveness and it just looks strong. So strong. And what I've learned to be true about the victim mentality and when I experience myself there is. It's incredibly weak. It is incredibly weak. You are relying on other people and other things and other places and everything else outside of yourself to determine your internal state. So while you try to control everything externally, you feel completely out of control internally. That's how I feel in the victim mentality. And I can see it in the portrayal of it. Even in entertainment, in fake setup environments, I can see the portrayal of it in that and I can see the portrayal of it in genuine hard moments that we face and experience. And it's just so interesting to me that it comes from our own mind. And if we would just let a little bit more truth in and sit with that truth and experience the vulnerability of where we make things so complex and where we self sabotage and where we literally give our power away, we give the power over ourselves away. And this is why it takes us back to this mentality of do all that you can while you can. Not because you're a perfectionist, not because you're a people pleaser, not because you're afraid of what other people will think of you if you don't. It's not for performative reasons. It's not to perfect, it's not to prove, it's not to please. You're doing all that you can, while you can so that you have an accurate understanding of who you are and what you're capable of. You see every time you walk by something that you know is out of place and you noticed it. That is a strength of yours. It is a strength of yours to notice things. And when you overlook the things that you notice, all that you do is teach your mind to stop noticing, stop paying attention, stop observing, stop keeping track of the things that we have and the things that I own. And what happens then? Well, we start to feel very. A lot of discontentment in our life. Nothing's good enough. We don't ever have enough. Why? Because we stopped looking for what we already have. We stopped approaching things with gratitude. And we certainly. We certainly forgot of all that we're capable of. So now we really feel helpless and hopeless. And what do we do when we feel helpless and hopeless? We procrastinate. We numb, we avoid. We distract ourselves. And that's by means of scrolling our phones instead of keeping our commitments. Just tossing something in the closet, tossing it in the cabinet, leaving it out, whatever it looks like. Instead of doing the really rewarding and fulfilling act of putting it away, paying like you already paid attention to something, you already noticed it, and then you took action on it. What does that teach your mind? That teaches your mind that it is a rewarding thing for me to have this strength of noticing. And there is an outcome that I enjoy associated with this. And it builds up who I believe I am and who it is that I'm becoming along the way. So this messaging to moms that we should be doing less, you shouldn't do all that. It's too much like. It's like this fear of abundance. In my perspective, it is a fear of abundance. There. There are two real drivers to negativity. Victim mentality. It is fear and hurt. Fear and hurt. And I would say that fear is more common than the hurt. So when I personally show that I clean my kitchen every single night before bed, every single night before I go to bed, I make sure my kitchen is clean. And I know that this is such a value of mine, and I find it to be so rewarding that I get my kitchen clean long before I go to bed. I do not spend the last hour I'm awake cleaning my house. Absolutely not. No. I spend that last hour that I'm awake hanging out with my husband, like, talking with him, doing something that I enjoy doing. Maybe we'll read a little. Maybe we're talking about our dreams, we're talking about our goals. We're watching a show like, what do we genuinely want to be doing together that enriches and benefits our marriage? Intimacy is a huge priority of mine. Like, that's what I want to do the last hour that I'm awake not cleaning my house. And over the years, I have made it a habit that I have basically two points in the day that I do a real cleanup in my house. I have a morning power hour and then an afternoon power hour. So at two hour points in the day. And I understand that I'm extremely fortunate to work from home, be relatively a stay at home mom. Yes, I obviously work. You're listening to this episode. And that's always just been a really big priority for me in any season. And schedule that we had was, I had this morning hour that I get the house just as I want it and I just do what I want done in the house. And it's so rewarding. Instead of it being like, okay, here's the schedule that someone else told me to follow to keep up with my home. I. You are perfectly capable. I am perfectly capable of looking around my home and noticing what I want done. And it's that. It's that key thing where you refuse to teach your mind to do less than what you're capable of. You refuse to teach your body to do less than what you're capable of. So it takes us back to that mentality, do all that you can while you can. So if you notice something out of place, you should be the one to take care of the thing you notice out of place by whatever means that is by putting it away in its appropriate spot, paying the bill that you noticed on the counter, bringing up that conversation with your spouse about the schedule or the time commitment or the activity that's planned, whatever it is, whatever it looks like, I'm not just talking about cleaning up your house. I'm talking about acting on the things that you notice. It's extremely important to do that because it holds onto that strength that you have, which is a part of who you are. It's a part of who you are. It's all an intricate, overlapping design. Everything is connected inside of you. If you have these limiting beliefs in your home and you have these negative thoughts about what things are left out or, gosh, it's just so hard to clean up. Yeah, that belief. It's so hard to clean up. I never have time to do those things. Those beliefs infiltrate every single other area in your life. They come into your marriage, they come into your motherhood, they come into your health and fitness. They come into your finances. They go everywhere. Limiting beliefs are touching every single part of your life. So that's why I am relentlessly eliminating negative and limiting views from my mind, from my vocabulary, from my perspective. I will relentlessly eliminate all of them. And sometimes it's a really painful process because it does put more accountability on me. It does require me to take an extreme amount of ownership over who I am, what I'm doing. What my life looks like, how I'm talking to people. Even if I could be justified to do something different, I could be justified. It's been a really long day. I'm gonna leave the kitchen. I'll just do it in the morning. I could be justified to do that. However, if I know I'm completely capable of cleaning the kitchen tonight, I'm just giving myself an easy way out. I'm letting myself off the hook. I'm the one that sleeps with that feeling. I'm the one that. That confirms the wrong belief system in my mind. So when I clean my kitchen before bed, I don't look at it as like, oh, I just gotta check this off the list. I still have to get that done. Absolutely not. This is part of my empowered mentality, the standard of excellence in which I will hold myself to because it's who I want to be as a person, not because I'm the victim. And it's so often, I think, an extreme disservice to moms. Yet I can see how it. The messaging of moms have to do the cooking and they have to do the cleaning and they have to do the social scheduling and they have to do the errands and they have to do blah, blah, blah, like they have to do all these things. I can understand that the majority of the time it's truly a connector piece. It's truly seeking to validate and to recognize the work of mothers. It is endless. It is non negotiable in a lot of senses. And it is tiresome. And it is a lot. It is a lot. And I get that. I've got four kids. I do. I just. Is it so much that we would let go of who we really want to be in the process? Do I have so much on my plate that I'm willing to sacrifice who I envisioned myself being as a mom now that I have the kids here, the way I daydreamed about it when I was pregnant with my first, and now my first is almost eight years old and there's a little brother under him and a little brother under him and a little baby brother under him. I've got these four incredible boys. And yeah, there's a full plate. And yeah, I've said yes to a lot of things over the years that I've decided to commit myself to. And there are things that I've. I've given my time to in motherhood and professionally and spiritually and personally in every realm of my life. I have put things on my plate and I Have much of what I dreamed I would when I was pregnant with my first. And I just think it would be an extreme disservice. It would be so, so heartbreaking, devastating to see us give up who we envisioned we would be when we finally got there. Give up being fun and light hearted or spending an hour reading chapter books with your kids one Thursday morning to give up just being present, laying on the ground and playing with toys with them all because we have all these other things to do. That's, to me, that's, that's sad and that is different than what's possible for us. And I want us to pursue what's possible for us, not just what is commonly viewed a certain way. So it does require us to view things a little bit differently than what is trending, what went viral. It does require you to think differently and it's so rewarding because now you're going to have a full plate and you are going to have all these same commitments and you are going to have all the same children and you are going to hold yourself to a higher standard with such purpose that it always feels fulfilling. Every night that you sacrifice doing something that you said you wanted to do, like, oh, I really wanted to watch that show and then that kitchen, like maybe things did get pushed back later. You are joyfully and delightfully cleaning the kitchen rather than doing the other thing. Because to you it's about character. To you it's about your integrity to follow through, to do the things that you said you're going to do, to reward your mind for paying attention to such things and to show it. This is a strength. And I'm grateful that you, I'm grateful that you showed me that sock out of place, that crumb on the counter, those dishes in the sink. Thank you for paying attention to those things and I will act on them immediately. That's how our brain feels. Reward is when we act on the ideas that it gives us, when we acknowledge the things that caught our eye and we really take the time to grow the picture of that and to act on it, that is rewarding to our minds. And so it looks for those things more. But what we're told to do, and a lot of this messaging mothers are the victims. You shouldn't have to. We're told to do less and doing less. What does that teach your brain? Why leave something for tomorrow that you can do today? Well, because social media told me that I shouldn't have to. It's 7 o'. Clock. I should be off the clock by 8. Someone else told me to view it as a job. And I have a clock in time and I have a clock out time. And there's an hourly rage and there's all these things and it's just like, okay. And you choose to view it that way and then you feel completely discontent and you feel overwhelmed and you feel anxious and you feel overstimulated and you just, when you feel that way, you just want to numb. So then you're spending time scrolling your phone because you should have time to scroll your phone. You shouldn't be cleaning the kitchen. You should be able to scroll your phone. You shouldn't be reading one more book at night. You should be able to start your show. You shouldn't be folding the laundry. That clothes, all the people in your family that reminds you of every single person and what they were doing when they wore that piece of clothing and when you got that for them and what it was like. And I mean some pictures that you took in certain things and how much they adore lightning McQueen that's on this specific shirt. Like, no, you should not be spending your time doing that. You should not have to do that. You should be able to go enjoy the glass of wine on your couch, pop your feet up. The mess will be there tomorrow. The mess isn't going anywhere. So we teach our mind to stop, utilizing our observations of strengths. And when you teach your mind and body to do less than what you're capable of, what happens? You slowly start to lose pieces of yourself until you can hardly recognize who you see in the mirror. Cleaning your house has nothing to do with perfectionism. It has nothing to do with people pleasing. It has nothing to do with this performance act of what is everybody else thinking? And I have to do check all these boxes. I'm a stay at home mom, so this is just what stay at home moms do I have to do this? Oh, no, no, that's not it at all. This is you defining every single day who you are, reaffirming it, reshaping it, recreating it. Maybe it's not who you were before. Yeah, thank God for motherhood. Now you can be whoever the heck you want to be. That's the way I see it. The ultimate experience in life is for, for me. I'll speak personally on this. The ultimate, ultimate experience I've ever had is becoming a mother and understanding that my kids will understand that I am who I've shown them I am, not who other people could possibly tell them I am. Or I was in high School and junior high. Like, I just used to feel so afraid of that. So afraid of someone telling my kids, oh, did you know your mom is blah, blah, blah, she's done xyz. And I used to feel so afraid of that and so shamed by it. And then when I met my son, I realized the only thing he will know to be true about me is what I show him. And it completely changed, completely transformed who I believed I was. And I was able to practice it and execute it so excellently around him. And I. I set that mental intention of become the person you really want to be. What else does he know? I can be whoever I want to be around him. Yes, of course we're active. We go on daily walks. Yes, of course we're intentional. Of course we're super healthy. When, I mean, there's just so much transformation that's taken place in my life, from binge eating hot Cheetos and Red Vines to juicing and eliminating dyes from my diet and seed oils and processed food. It's like the transformation that's taken place in every literal cell of my body. And who I am as a person is absolutely insane over the last eight years. It's completely insane. And the only way it could happen was for me to realize I'm my own person, I can be whoever I want to be. And motherhood is the absolute best opportunity that I'll ever have at this. Because these are brand new people that know nothing else than what I show them. They know nothing else about me than what I. They experience with me, who I show up as, who I prove to them that I am. I really believe. I honestly look forward to it. I'm sure my kids are going to hear a story about me and teenage years or whatever at some point in time. And I just think it's going to blow their mind. Like, I think it's going to really inspire them to decide and create who they want to be in this life. Because you can truly be whoever you want to be. Whoever you want to be. And so empowering. However, are you going to be who you can be? Who you are completely capable of being? Are you going to be that when you're doing less than you know you can. No, you are not going to be who you want to be if you are doing less than you know you can when it comes to the small details of your life. Small details. Picking up the sock, wiping down the counter, cleaning the dishes in the sink, paying the bill that you notice on the counter, being someone that acts on the things she notices is how you build out and hold onto this identity. Even when there's an entire marketing program out there positioning moms as victims. How do you stay above that because you know who you are? It does not matter what someone on social media says. All moms are blah, blah, blah. I remember what really inspired me in this work and starting to share these perspectives. Cause I didn't even know it was something that I had in me or I was doing. I ran a workout community. I. What I didn't know that I was doing mindset stuff. I. It's so cool how things have just worked out this way. But I remember I saw a reel on. It was when, like, reels were really first coming out. And it was a super big Instagram account on. Or obviously on Instagram. It was a super big account on Instagram. And she had posted a reel that said motherhood is monotonous. And she went on and on to say how motherhood is so monotonous. It's the same cooking, the same cleaning, the same here to there, pick up and drop off. And it's so monotonous. And that's why moms feel how they do, because motherhood is so mundane. And that really struck me. It just lit something in me that has yet to extinguish. Like it is just blazing still to this day inside of me. To share something that I believe to be more truthful than that. Because motherhood is monotonous is just a perspective that is one single person's opinion. And to say motherhood is monotonous as if all of our motherhoods are. Is completely false. It's so inaccurate, such an inaccurate way to describe something so complex. And it would be. It would be fair, it would be truthful to say my motherhood is monotonous if she had created the content in that way. My motherhood is monotonous. That's like, okay, yeah, sure. You. Your motherhood is monotonous. What does that say about you? That means that you have created a monotonous motherhood. That you view things as dull and mundane, that you take little joy and little. And you have little intellectual stimulation in the things that you're doing. You. You lack engagement, you lack vision in all the little things that make up your motherhood. So you describe it as mundane. Our words. Our words reflect who we believe we are. There's very little power in describing something negatively. There's literally no power there. You are just hurting yourself. It doesn't change what's actually happening. It just shows Other people that you are someone that's going to think negatively about it. That's it. And that is an identity thing. And it starts with a mindset thing. And the identity thing feeds the mindset thing and the mindset thing feeds the identity thing. And it's like this ongoing cycle of creating harm and inflicting harm and inducing harm and creating harm, and like, it just keeps. Keeps on going. So if you're facing motherhood with certain key descriptors that even you are like, I wish it wasn't like that. Well, friend, good thing, it's not. It's just the way you're choosing to describe it. And that's. It's so freeing, it's so powerful. And again, how I said, it takes you back to the weight and the severity of accountability and ownership. And that is honestly what keeps most people from doing it, because it just feels too painful to accept this is the way I've made it out to be. And so we go back to the victim mentality and we start blaming our kids for leaving the sock out and blaming our husband for putting the count the crumbs on the counter after his sandwich and blaming this person for leaving dishes in the sink and it's all everybody else. Instead of looking at each and every one of those things as a way to create, shape, and affirm who it is that you are and having the intention behind it, it's so powerful and it's readily available at your fingertips right now in the day you're in just to notice something that needs to be thrown away. And throwing it away, acting on it, doing all that you can while you can, builds out identity. So again, why leave something for tomorrow that you can do today that only teaches your mind and body to do less than you're capable of. And then what happens? You slowly start to lose pieces of yourself until you can hardly recognize who you see in the mirror. Not because you lost yourself in motherhood, not because you lost yourself in this life, because you gave up what you once gave, utilized one overlooked sock on the floor, dish in the sink, and crumb on the counter at a time. Doing what you can, the best you can is living out your life while you can. And when we're living out our life, what happens? We grow, we accelerate, we accentuate, we illuminate. When we are living out our life the best we can and living out the life, your life, the best you can, it's acting on contributions that you can make. Not because if it's fair or unfair, if it's My turn or his turn, or just the great balancing act that everyone says you have to keep perfect harmony in at all times in order to be happy. All of these rules, all of these things, parameters that we've set in place to decide and determine our happiness and our expression of it is so limiting. You have to understand that if you need people to do XYZ for you to be the person that you want to be, how free are you? If you need your children to clean up after themselves and follow your instructions the very first time and obey immediately in order for you to be the mom that you want to be, and heavens help us, they may never experience conflict with one another. In order for you to be the mom that you want to be, how free are you? If you need someone else to acknowledge their mistake before you're willing to forgive them? How free are you? How free do you want to be? I guess that's a better question. How free do you want to be? I personally want ultimate freedom. I want to be able to walk into any room and be around any person or be in any group and love who I am. I want to love what I'm thinking. I want to love what I'm doing. I want to love what I'm saying. I want to love, at the most core way possible, who I know I am, who I would describe myself to be, what evidence I would leave behind for others to describe who I am. I want to love all of that. And does it feel challenging every single day to execute on that? Yeah, most days. Most times it does, because you're choosing to do it, to do what's right over what's easy. And when you live in a world and a messaging system that's constantly telling you to do less, you kind of start to wonder why. Why would someone want me to leave this mess for tomorrow? Why would someone want me to believe that someone else should do the thing that I noticed? Why would someone want me to believe that the only way I can forgive someone is if they apologize in exactly the way that I want them to apologize and acknowledge all the things that I have been harboring. Why? Honestly, friends, I don't have the answer to that. I really don't. I do know that we can be free from it without the answer. And sometimes we think we have to have all these things figured out before we can make change, before we can be free from them. And I've just personally experienced in learning about this work and challenging myself to be the best version of myself in every single circumstance. While I do Fall short of that, I absolutely slip out of alignment. I also find a lot of good grace and inspiration and encouragement and empowerment in the way I show up next. So I'm also okay with the times that I slip out of alignment because I'm so inspired by what I choose to do next, by what my mind says. You know, it'd be a really good way to have redemption in this, to repair this. Like, yes, you raptured that. And this would be a very inspiring and telling way about who you are if you handled it just like this. Just like this. And I have many of those moments, far less than I did eight years ago, still just enough for me today. I have just enough of those moments for who I'm still trying to become. And that's the point of life, to continuously seek becoming. And that's really. It's not. How are you going to become who you want to be if you let go of the strengths you already have, noticing the things that are out of place, acting on the inspiration that you have to run? Right when I, when I mentioned, like, when you choose to do less than you know you can, you just teach your mind and body to do less. So if you're going for a run and you tell yourself, I'm going to run three miles and then you feel really tired at one mile and you're like, okay, I'm just gonna make it back to the house. Like, I'm over this. And you let yourself have that out. Instead of completing the three miles, you've just taught yourself to do less. You just taught yourself to do less. And that will carry over into the time that we get home. We told ourselves we're going to cook at home and now we're feeling really tired and it's 4 o' clock and we're like, well, I'll just order something or I'll just have my husband pick something up on his way home. And it's like, okay. And you knew you could finish the three miles, you just didn't feel like it. You knew you could cook dinner from home, you just didn't feel like it. You knew you could get that load of laundry done, you just didn't feel like it. And we're acting on the wrong feelings. And when we act on the wrong feelings, we create more of those feelings. If you act on the feeling of discouragement, you create more discouragement. If you act on the feeling of tiredness by stopping the run, avoiding the things laying down, you create more feelings of tiredness. And before the all or nothing Extreme mentalities come in. Oh, what, we're just never supposed to rest like before? That hits you like a freight train. Let me spare you the blow and help you to understand. You'll know when you're doing all that you can while you can, you'll know. It's not for me to determine. It's not for your neighbor to determine, and it's definitely not for that social media influencer to decide for you. It's for you to decide all on your own. That's the magic piece in here, is for you to know yourself well enough that you hold yourself to the standard in which you know you can keep the commitment you know you can keep the standard you know you can reach. That's the key. I know with every fiber of my being I can go to sleep with my kitchen clean every single night. I know it. I know I can put the thing away that I see out of place. I know I can keep my commitments at bedtime, in the morning I can fulfill. I can do the things I said I was going to do. If I said I was going to do something, it's because I believed I could do it. And now to me, the most important part in that is to follow through on it because it affirms to me who I am so that when I look in the mirror, I recognize myself and I'm. I'm experiencing growth and transformation and accessing maturity and wisdom because I was willing to follow through on the commitment that I believed I was capable of before I ever did it. I thought I. When I woke up that morning and I thought I was capable of having this great day with my boys and having homeschool completed with them and spending time reading and involving them in the cooking that day or, you know, dropping a meal off to somebody else. It's not a. You have unrealistic expectations for yourself. What if you don't? What if you don't have unrealistic expectations for yourself? What if. What if it's all perfectly capable, perfectly possible, and you are charged to figure out the way in which it can all be done and what it looks like to do that. And yeah, it takes some trial and error and you can have a great attitude through all trial and error. The point, though, is to hold on and to do the things that you can while you can, do all that you can while you can. All that you can while you can. That's it. That's it. And you get to decide and define what it looks like in this season. And these are pretty much my thoughts on it to its entirety. So I sincerely hope that this landed in just the way you needed it to. We're all in such unique circumstances and positions in this life, and one thing is the same. We can be who we want to be. No matter where we go and who we're with. We are created by something much higher and much greater than any of us individually. And when we work collectively to share ideas like this and inspiration and empowerment, we can go so much further than we could have when we were isolated and doing it individually. So rather than trying to drag one another down, I say let's see how high and how far we can go together. Share these mentalities. Challenge yourself to think positively, to remember your empowerment, to remember you are the one defining and shaping who you are. So why are you walking around every day saying, I am exhausted. I am angry. I am overstimulated. I am overwhelmed. I am. Is that who you want to be? If it's not who you want to be, then you are responsible to decide who you want to be and start programming that into your mind through the same use of I am statements. You did it with negative I am statements and it worked. Look how you feel. Look at what you're doing. It all is connected now. You can do it with positive I am statements and it will work just the same. Your mind is showing you how powerful it is. Start using it positively. Start allowing and accepting these mentalities. Do all that you can while you can into your mind. Let them sink deeply into your heart and change your posture. It's. It's all connected, friends. It's all connected. And I know 2026 is just the right time for us to be pursuing and doing this together. So I am inspired by you every single day. I love pursuing this greater and best version of ourselves in all the amount of time that it takes. It just takes the amount of time that it takes. So we're just going to keep going. Okay? I will see you guys really, really soon. You're doing an exceptional job. Apply this today. Do all that you can while you can.