163. "Let Things Be" Less Control, More Blessings

Hey friends, and welcome back to the Momset Podcast. It's Tessa, and I've had so many wonderful lessons click for me this past month. So this episode's gonna be dedicated to one lesson in particular that humbled me very greatly. And in that humility, I have acquired so much freedom and there's been many fruits of this lesson. And I knew that it would make such a great podcast episode because I can see how the majority of moms do the exact same thing that I was doing. And instead of going and like spiraling in some guilt spiral or shame spiral and letting negative self-talk win the way with me and take my lessons, I love to repurpose them. I love to be purposeful with what I'm learning. And I think humility is such a beautiful thing, and it usually comes from the process of embarrassment, what could be humiliation. That's the key ingredient though to becoming more humble and living life with great humility is having experiences that humble you, AKA humiliate you a little bit. And definitely have had my fair share of those. Um, so yeah, I just know that I win in motherhood. I win in my mind. I win in my heart. I overcome pride and ego when they absolutely get in the way and have held me back in certain areas. I do that by remaining vulnerable and humble enough to recognize my faults. And I always want to create a space that you feel encouraged to recognize your faults in it. Um, I think sometimes as we're committed to working on ourselves, we fear, we fear the, the truth in that. We fear the ownership and the accountability that comes with it. You can only grow yourself if you're willing to be accountable to where you're at and what it is that you're doing. You can only change what you're doing if you're willing to own it instead of blaming our kids, blaming our spouse. And I just really enjoy our conversations here on the podcast because I feel like we have the time and the space. It's not about hooks and clever lines and make sure you keep people's attention like I have conditioned my brain to do on social media. Admittedly, um, the podcast is so much easier for me to paint the whole picture and pace myself. So if you notice a difference between my social media content, my podcast content, it's honestly just storytelling. On the podcast, my brain says tell a story, and on Instagram, my brain says have a hook, like teach the thing as quickly as possible because people are scrolling. And, um, you know, that's, that's one of my downfalls, um, as a creator and in this space. And I can see where it comes across difficult to take in the way that I intend. So this is just my heartfelt way of saying I'm always in your corner. I'm always cheering you on. I always wanna see you be the mom that you wanna be and strive for that. And the hard truths that come with that and the painful tinge of accountability and ownership that we must experience to work through it and even see what it is that we'd like to change. All of that is to be expected. And I'm a friend that enjoys talking about those things with you. That's all it is. I'm just, I'm someone that really enjoys the— I've referenced it as being sanded down. I really enjoy that feeling of being sanded down, and I want that for you too. So in this, in this humility though, my most recent lesson is I'm coming to see and understand this last month how I disrupt so much of what could be natural, easy, and harmonious in my family and in my home I disrupt that. I literally single-handedly, in a micromanaging, controlling, and just constant coordination of others, and constantly giving these instructions of others, thinking that it's up to me to decide what they do and when they do it and how they do it. I, I was taught, I was shown this past month how in my doing that, I'm constantly disrupting the flow of how things could just be. Letting things just be. And I know that there are many other moms that do this too. It's not just me. You and I and a few of our other friends have a tendency to make things more complicated for ourselves, make them harder for ourselves by trying to control, micromanage, give instruction, coordinate everybody when to do it and how to do it, what to say and how to say it, and make all these little corrections. And that's really what it stood out to me is in this story that I'm going to share with you, the whole picture of it in this evening with my son, it was so unnecessary. And that's what I want you to listen for in this episode. Is just kind of giving you like a foreword for it, is when in your motherhood and how often in your life are you commentating in a very unnecessary way? You provide additional instruction unnecessarily. It's completely unnecessary to say some of the things that you're saying. It's okay if they do it their way. And I am finding in this last month of obtaining this lesson that it takes an enormous amount of discipline and self-control to be quiet. I do. I'm serious. To be quiet, to just let people be. If you have a habit of correcting and interjecting and putting your two cents in there and constantly coordinating and instructing other people, if you have a tendency of that, which I completely do, It is requiring so much discipline and self-control to teach myself to just be quiet and honestly to see how things work out without my interjection. That's been the most wonderful part about this lesson. And I'm still trying to figure out what the name of this lesson really is. Maybe just let things be. The lesson is to let things be. I think there's many things that we could call it, but Yeah, just, just look forward to that, hearing that and applying it in your life in this episode, that things can be so much better if you would just let them be than if you were trying to control and coordinate everything. So the reason why this came about was 3 of my boys sleep in one room together. My 3 older boys sleep in one room together, and my oldest son sleeps on the top bunk and then it's my middle guy and then it's my 3-year-old on a trundle bed. So it's a triple bunk bed. I absolutely love it. My kids absolutely love it. And they're asking me when the 4th boy is gonna sleep in their room too. So my kids love sharing a room and I love my kids sharing a room. So anyway, that's kind of like the bedtime dynamic that I want you to understand because normally, I look at bedtime as I'm kind of sometimes a little bit of a drill sergeant about it without the like aggression and very much the structure. Like, this is the time we're coming into the room. This is how long we're going to read books. While I read you books, you are quiet. While I'm reading books, you are sitting on your beds and like our toys are put away. And I just, I get very much in that pattern of things. And as a stay-at-home mom, and I also work, and I'm trying to run a household, and I, I have these values, and I, I have these things that really matter to me in this vision of my life, I know that structure and discipline and routine is the only way I can accomplish what I want most for my family. It's the, it's the only way that I'm gonna have my early bedtime, my early morning, be able to take care of myself to the level and degree that I want to take care of myself and to see my kids as rested as I'd like them to be. I do know that structure routine and the discipline to fulfill on them and to see, to carry them out is extremely necessary. It is a strength of mine. And sometimes if I get a little unintentional with my time and maybe a little distracted in my mind and I'm just thinking of what's next, I get very just too orderly about it. Like my flexibility gets, uh, pretty wound up. Like it I lose flexibility and that grace and gentleness and nurturing that really matters to me as a mom. So I'm constantly always striving to see more nurturing, gentle demeanor and mannerisms in myself. And it's definitely a learned style for me. That is not my natural disposition. And I'm learning and I've made so much progress and I'm extremely inspired and I love the progress that I've made, it aligns so much with the way I see who I'm called to be as a mother, especially as I read through my Bible and what I want to be really good at in my disposition and my demeanor and my heart posture. And it is sometimes like the gears just get caught in my brain and in my body. And instead of working very smoothly, they need something to be able to work. So anyway, there are definitely times that I'm looking at bedtime as, okay, we come into the, just everything's very structured. My kids are in the bath at a specific time. And I mean, it's not this very stressful thing for me. It's just a, it's a flow. We eat dinner and we get in the bath and we get out of the bath and we get dressed and the boys play a little bit and we finish cleaning up the house and then we go into our room and we read books and yes, we all snuggle together and toys are put away and this is where we sit. So I don't feel very stressed while doing this. I feel like it's the next natural step to take and it's what I wanna see happen. And there are totally times though that I interject in very harmless things. And that's what I want to see less of in myself. That's what this lesson for me is about, is in the harmless things where I know it is so unnecessary for me to say something and correct someone. I want to eliminate that from my tendencies and habits. I want that to be out of my motherhood. If it's harmless, and instruction and correction from me is truly unnecessary, it has more to do with my comfort than their safety and their character, then I'm gonna let it go. I'm gonna just start letting these things happen. So now that you know what it typically looks like, we're doing bedtime and we read the books, we do the things, and now I'm laying on the trundle bed with my youngest, my middle guy's on his bunk, and then my oldest is on the top bunk. And the lights have been out for about 10 minutes, their sound machine's on, and we lay quietly. That's what we do every night is we lay quietly and they'll ask me a couple questions or tell one last story. Like, again, it's not like no one's allowed to talk, crazy stress. It's just our flow of things. The expectation is that we are ready to go to sleep. So we close our eyes and we close our mouths. And I totally get my kids are gonna have stories and like last minute things to say. And I try to just be mindful of how much of that I entertain because it can quickly turn into planning their next birthday party. And to me, like, we can do that in the morning. So, um, and I also just really wanna hear from my kids. So it's this tug and pull and, and balance where I know kids can open up more at night when they're, when they're supposed to be going to sleep. It's a dark, quiet room. There's less stimulation. They are in their thoughts a little bit more from the day. We just talked about their favorite thing that happened that day, or maybe something challenging that happened today. And I do want to hear from my kids what is on their mind, what's on their heart. Do they need something from me? Is there something that they're considering, something that they'd love resolved, or prayers for, anything like that? Like I do wanna hear all those things. So again, there's no like crystal clear one approach to parenting human beings. So please, please hear me when I say that. But anyway, so we do bedtime, the room's dark, all my kids are laying quietly, and at this point, like the talking was done and now we're, we're laying quietly. And I hear my son, my oldest son, on the top bunk just like softly talking. Like, I, I couldn't quite make out what he was doing, but I could hear him just enough to know he's up there and he's like making noise and he's talking and chatting about. And I had this urge to tell him to stop. And I felt it. Like, I felt that I wanted to correct him and interject and tell him, it's time to go to sleep, we're all done talking. Like, even with my yes language, right? I don't have to say, uh, you know you're not supposed to be talking right now. Like, it doesn't have to sound mean. It's just, even if you use yes language in that moment, it's still unnecessary. And that's the part that's really striking me in all this is when am I speaking unnecessarily? When am I correcting unnecessarily, even if I use yes language to do it? And I'm just gonna bless myself in this. You know, Tessa, you're still really young, you're figuring things out, and you're quick as a whip, girl. You're learning, okay? You're learning and you're open to lessons. So I have tons of grace for myself. And when I had this urge though to tell him to stop. Like, it's time to go to sleep, bud. We're all done talking. Close your eyes, close your mouth. It's time to go to sleep. And I almost did it. Like, I had the words ready, I had the tone prepared, I knew I was going to deliver it kindly, and something stopped me. And I really personally, I feel like it's the Holy Spirit for me since I've been reading my Bible more and just getting familiar with my faith and understanding when does the Holy Spirit really interject in my life? What are those little pauses and nudges that take me away from the single-minded thought that I was going to act on? Who put that other perspective there? And I just so fully believe that it's the Holy Spirit. And my imperfect human self with ego and pride and selfishness and my my honest, honest-to-God pure desires to just be the best version of myself that I can. Let go of all grudges, all resentment, all anger, live a life of insane amount of generosity, ridiculous faith, and just obnoxious amounts of gratitude and delusional optimism and endless forgiveness. Like, I just wanna be someone that forgives immediately, that sees little distractions and little inconveniences and chooses to forgive them immediately and goes out of my way to serve others. Like, I know exactly who it is that I want to be, and Lord knows I need a Holy Spirit to tell me how to do it, because your girl, your girl has other ideas that sound very prideful, egotistical, and selfish. And I'm constantly trying to just retrain myself and by our God-given design, we have neuroplasticity, so we are able to truly shape our mind to match and mirror exactly who it is that we want to be. And this is where I think it gets really cool, is you have an urge to do something that's out of alignment with the mom that you want to be, and you have a vision of the mom that you want to be, and it's in that gap. Like, it's, it's the gap between where you're currently at and where you wanna be, and we bridge that gap with a new behavior. And when you really pay attention in your life to those times that you're laying in the bed and you have this urge to kindly ask one of your children to stop talking, you have that urge and then there's a thought that comes like, is that even necessary? And you bridge the gap from where you are to who you wanna be by following the is that really necessary thought. And challenging yourself to just let things be, see how they play out without your control. And that, that, that's for me been the most exciting part. How does this play out without my control, without my thumb on it, without my hand in it on the control and deciding what everyone says, what everyone does? How does this play out without me? And it's been the coolest experience And this is probably something that so many of you listening to this episode are like, well, duh. Like, life isn't gonna be nearly as good when you try to control every little thing than if you were to just let other people contribute and show you who they are and take greater interest in their lives. And again, these are all things that I'm learning. I think, um, my natural disposition is really selfish. I'm learning that a lot about myself. In the last year especially. And just making those little corrections has— where it tore away from selfishness and being able to recognize what it really is. And all— and discovering it all in good time too, because it doesn't do me or you any good to try and push and force our understanding further than it already is. Like, we have to let our understanding Click. We are going to understand at the exact moment that we're meant to understand. I really believe that. So if someone were to tell me 3 years ago, wow, you have like a really selfish approach to motherhood, or wow, that's like really selfish of you that, you know, you care so much about watching a show with your husband tonight that you feel so frustrated with your kids wanting more time with you at bedtime. If someone were to tell me 3 years ago that that's a really selfish thing, that would exceed my level of understanding at the time, and I would've rejected it, denied it. I justified myself. And now I believe my understanding's at a place where I've caught up. I can really see how selfishness is something for me to be mindful of and working on. I have been doing that and it's been extremely relieving and fulfilling and rewarding to just truly want to put everyone else before you. And that sounds like, oh man, it's just, it's been the best, the best feeling, the most humble and generous feeling. I wish I had better words for it. And this is just new to me. I'm I learned early on to take care of myself. Look out for yourself. You get a job the day you're old enough to, and you work 3 jobs so you can pay your own bills and sign up for your own phone plan and have your own car insurance and buy your own car and be able to afford the things that you want because no one's coming to save you. No one's going to do this for you. And I am grateful for the opportunity to see how I see how capable I am in this life. And at the same time, there's negative consequences to that where you eliminate opportunities that other people would want to serve you and they would want to contribute with you. You, you have an unconscious way of removing those opportunities from other people in your life without even knowing that you're doing it. And just in the last year, I've gained more awareness of where in my life I'm doing that. And still so much grace for myself that I even found myself in that position in the first place, because I get it. That was the best way for me to feel safe and honestly survive in some senses growing up. And when I look at it that way, like, wow, Tess, like you got here, you did it now. Now let's enjoy it. And it comes back to this whole overarching lesson of letting things be, seeing now that my life is at a point where I can just let things be. And that requires a different gear. How I said sometimes it feels like the gear just slips, it's not quite catching. Yeah, it requires a whole new gear in place, the type of gear where you can count on other people and other people really look out for you. And, uh, it's just so, it's so beautiful. And now I can see as an adult that I really wanna put everyone else before me. And that contradicts some of my selfish tendencies and perspectives that I grew up with. And those are the same tendencies and perspectives that helped me grow up. They helped me create a life that I really love and see how much I'm capable of and take ownership and accountability and put it in my own hands. And now I see, especially with my faith, it's not up to me, it's not in my hands, it's in God's hands. And that's been so freeing to make that shift. So it's fascinating to me though, that it's at bedtime in this so, very simple story that I understand I'm jumping around from. And you know, we just— we're here for the discussion, friends. We like it. So continue leaping, Tessa, you leaping girl. Um, so doing bedtime and I hear my son and I have this, this urge to tell him to stop. Even if I was going to do it with a kind tone and kind words, I'm still just interjecting and coordinating him. And it's so unnecessary. And I just love that a thought came to me, is that necessary? And it just helped me see like it's completely harmless. And then my mind went down this whole road of how, you know, I love to chat with my husband as we're falling asleep. He knows that. I love to talk with him. I love to think about my day. I love talking with my kids. So just shifting my perspective to let him be and elevating my own emotional state simultaneously, where I'm like, yes, this is such a good thing, this is so enjoyable, and I'm glad that he has these self-soothing ways too. Like, my mind just like made a whole 180 and my whole body just felt completely relaxed, completely present and safe in the moment. And then here was my, here was my confirmation that I know I made the right choice. I'm telling you, this happened in like a 3-minute time span. He was chatting for a couple of minutes. I had this thought to tell him to stop, followed by a sweet, gentle guidance of, is that necessary? And then a minute after that— so I go through this whole thought and emotional experience within me, and then it was probably a minute after that that I just laid there quietly listening to him. He said, Mom, do you want to hear my song? And I just— oh my gosh, I seriously just smiled so big because it just— it was confirmation. It was confirmation. Of course I want to hear your song. I would love to hear your— that's what you're doing up there? You're sticking— you're coming up with your own music? Oh, I love that. Yes, I want to hear your song. And then it just reminded me of how when I was a kid, I loved to come up with songs. I love to write lyrics, and I would be, you know, outside riding my bike, riding my rollerblades, and I would just make up these songs. And I still do it to this day for my kids, especially when I'm walking them around the room, putting them to sleep in those nighttime newborn days. I come up with songs, and it just intellectually stimulates me to remain relaxed and present. And not get caught up in these victim stories. So when he asked me, hey, Mom, do you want to hear my song? It was just the clearest confirmation for me that it is such a gift. And you receive blessings when you let some of these harmless things be. It's harmless. Let it be. And this is, this is the reception of a blessing that I would have missed I would have missed this. He would not have said— if I would have said, sweetheart, stop talking and go to sleep, he would not have said, oh, but Mom, I just came up with this song. Do you want to hear it? No, he would have just stopped and been quiet, and he wouldn't have asked me if I wanted to hear his song. And it got me. So here was his song though, guys. It was— it gets 10 times sweeter than this, let me tell you. And my first son is a real tender guy. He's a real tender heart. And so he always does the sweetest things. So he goes, "Mom, do you want to hear my song?" And I was like, "Oh yes, I would love to hear your song." And he goes, "Majitos, I can't wait to see you again. Majitos, I can't wait to see you again. I hope my whole family goes to heaven. Grandma Josie, we miss you." "¡Mijitos, I can't wait to see you again! ¡Mijitos, I can't wait to see you again!" That was his song. And I remember it so clearly 'cause I thought it was, one, the sweetest thing, and two, it just amazed me that he still remembers his great-grandma. So his great-grandma is Grandma Josie, and she passed away 2 years ago now. And my son is 7, and he talks about her, oh, Several times a week, several times a week, he brings up Grandma Josie and how we're gonna see her again in heaven and what she's probably doing in heaven. And if there's a pretty sunset, they're like, oh, there's Grandma Josie. Like, they're just so, so sweet. And he was saying my hijitos because his great-grandma would say, mijitos, mijitos. She would say, mijito, are you going to be the President of the United States of America? And it cracks me up because she would say that to all 9 of her grandsons. All 9 of them, her great-grandsons, she would say, "Mijito, are you going to be the President of the United States of America?" I was like, we're gonna have a lot of presidents in this family. But it was always just so, so sweet. And I just hearing that song from him and he's saying "my hijitos" instead of "mijitos," and it was so sweet. And again, it was just, guys, I would have missed all of that. I wouldn't have been given any of that If I were to have interjected and coordinated and controlled, and it's so unnecessary towards such a harmless thing, I would have missed out on a really great gift. And the follow-up thought to this over the last month that I've really been having is how often I'm missing out on really great and exceptional things in my life because of my refusal to just let things be, to just see how my kids handle it, to see what they're gonna say, right? To really just listen and hear them out and see how my husband would have done something before I say like, oh, do it like this, or, or tell my kids, oh, uh, come this way, or it's time to go to sleep, okay, we're all done talking, like How often am I just turning off the faucet of blessings that were just very naturally flowing in my life and filling up my cup? How often do I just go over there and turn off the faucet? Because what, I don't want it to overflow? I don't want the mess? Like, it's— when you think about it that way, if you've got your cup under under the faucet. If you would just let it run and let things be, let your children speak, see what happens next. If you do give them 1 or 2 more minutes, do they fall asleep on their own? Do they ask if you want to hear their song? Let your husband come in the door and greet him warmly and see what he does next instead of harping right into what you want him to do and how he's not meeting that expectation. And you're trying so hard to control things that are harmless and okay and function even better without your coordination of them. And that's been so beautiful for me this past month. And I, I'm just doing all the things that I can to stay in this headspace and stay focused on it. So I'm bringing it into my journaling. I'm seeing where it just confirms these things in scripture. And, and it's been, it's been so peaceful. And I wanted to encourage you to, to let things be in your life a little bit more, because there's going to come a time where one of your kids is chatting quietly like that. It's still so clear that they're trying to be considerate, they're trying to do what they want and respect what other people want or what needs to be done. You know, maybe they're playing a game while they unload the dishes because you asked them to load the dishes and they start playing a game while they unload the dishes. Do you have to tell them to stop playing the game while they unload the dishes, or can the game be played? And is it harmless for them to play a game while they unload the dishes? And I'll— I have And another quick reference to that, I have a friend that was telling me about how her teenage boys, she had asked them to unload the dishwasher and she was working in her office and then she came out from her office 'cause she heard really loud music playing and it had been about 40 minutes after she had asked them to unload the dishes and they were unloading the dishes. And in that 40 minutes though, they blasted country music, each of them put on cowboy hats and flannels And one of them was like shirtless with a flannel wrapped around his waist and the other one had it all buttoned up and they have their boots on. They're like two-stepping in the kitchen with the music while putting the dishes away. And I remember her sharing a very similar lesson with me, how, you know, if I only let it be done my way, I would never see country two-step with my teenage boys in my kitchen, because that would never be my way. That would have never been my idea for them. And just keeping space, allowing the room in your life for other people's ideas to come forward, and for blessings, the faucet of blessings, to stay on and running. Letting things be, letting things work out better than you could have forced them to. In life, I'm learning— and I feel really slow to this lesson— but I'm learning that life is so beautiful with routines and structure and discipline. And there is enough room in any routine, structure, and discipline for fun and spontaneity and flexibility to coexist there too, and for beauty and lightheartedness and play and laughter to join in the bedtime routine. And honestly, like, I say that I'm slow to learning this, and I do feel pretty slow to learning it, and at the same time, my oldest is only 7, so I think I'm making good time. I'm making good time. We're all making good time, making great progress. So keep your ears open for stories that inspire you. Keep your eyes fixed on things that you find to be lovely. And you can tell that there's blessings there. And, you know, we hear that saying that, um, there— if God could like print us a receipt of things that he spared us from, uh, it would be, it would be long-lasting. It's from those little prompts that he gives us in our life, like, oh, go back inside and get your phone, or, um, you know, something, something that you just felt urged and called to do that put you in the car 3 minutes later than you would have been, and then you, you drive by a car accident and you're like, whoa, I wonder, you know, if I had left at the time that I was supposed to be leaving, like, where would that have put me in all this? And you just never know. You truly never know. And I've been thinking about this, like, letting things be I really— I'm really finding in my life that when I let things be, I actually see more blessings. I see more blessings taking place in my daily life and playing out continuously. They're, they're everywhere. So just as you could have a receipt of, of all the things God has spared you from, you could also have a long-lasting, a long-on-running receipt of all the things that you have been exceptionally rewarded and blessed with and generously given, like your son singing you a song right before bed that brings tears to your eyes and helps you see the full bigger picture of, wow, like that was such a beautiful thing and I would have missed it. I would have missed that. I almost told him, do not sing me a song. That's basically what it comes down to is how many times in my life in my trying to control harmless things? How many times in my life am I saying, don't give me that blessing, don't give me that reward, don't give me that moment of peace, don't give me that laughter, don't give me that joyful connection with you? How many times do we do that? And then, you know, obviously if I were to have said, it's time to go to sleep, We're all done talking, it's time to go to sleep. How would my son have felt if he's singing a song about his great-grandma and his mom's telling him he has to stop? And obviously I didn't know that that's what the song was about, but then again, I'm the one trying to control harmless things. So did I need to know the song was about his great-grandma in order to give him permission to do it, or could I just first recognize that this is a harmless thing? And he can do it. And then just see how things play out from there. And I'm learning, my kids will sing me songs about their great-grandma. And that is just really special to me. To me, that's worthwhile. So I am personally conditioning myself to overcome these tendencies of altering the way things can be to the way things that I can make them instead of just letting them be. And I wanted to share an episode with you that encourages you to let things be, friend. If it's harmless, just let it play out. See what they say, see how they handle it. Let it be revealed to you what they're working on and what they're doing. Just, just let it, let it happen. Let it happen. Just seems so simple. And yeah, it's just such a profound part of my 2026. So I adore you guys, um, just really so inspired by our community here and our desire to become the best versions of ourselves. And I absolutely know that we can do it. And the more that you're in your scripture, the more it is confirmed to you. And if you have never spent any time in scripture, I encourage you to do so. And I totally relate and understand where you're at because it took me a really long time to ever get into scripture. So You're just at a great place, you know, and when it clicks for you is the right time for it to click for you. That's it. You don't have to rush it. You don't have to force it. It will happen. And when it happens is exactly when it's meant to happen. And I do wanna let you guys know here that I put ticket information in the show notes below for my Yes Mom Live event happening in St. George, Utah on May 16th. So if you love this work that we do here together, and you love Yes! Language, and you wanna be a source of positivity in your home where you always have something kind, true, and lovely, positive, and uplifting to say about every single person in your home, then you would absolutely love coming to Yes! Mom Live. I promise you that these tools are 100% within reach for you. It's just the things that you're putting in the way that keep you from using them very naturally and very well. And those are the things like limiting beliefs, Fear, identity, and that's what I wanna help you resolve at Yes Mom Life. So more than just the tools, it's a really intense and immersive experience working side by side with other mothers that understand this. So you're gonna have a really strong community feel. It's an all-day event. We're hosting lunch for you. We'll have a coffee bar. We have some awesome sponsors and gifts for you. You'll get the Yes Mom, the Yes Family flipbook, so many wonderful things. And then just spend all day with us there at the event so that you can truly have personal development time as a mom, get aligned with the mom that you want to be, understand the way she sees things, how she wants to communicate, and what it would require for you to do this very naturally, which is where the limiting beliefs and fears come in. So I do hope to see you at Yes Mom Live. The details are in the show notes below.