In this third installment of a series on fostering a sex‑positive home, the speaker outlines three core tactics for encouraging healthy curiosity about sexuality in children. First, parents should answer any child’s questions directly, using age‑appropriate language without evasion or falsehoods. Second, they must avoid shutting down the child or making them feel ashamed, as doing so creates a sex‑negative environment that drives secrecy. Third, parents should actively share in the child’s curiosity by asking clarifying questions and engaging in a two‑way dialogue, illustrated with a scenario about a ten‑year‑old asking about polyamory. The speaker concludes by inviting comments and signing off with a friendly, upbeat farewell.
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How to create a sex-positive environment for your children, part 3. This one is incredibly important, and that is to embrace and even to encourage curiosity. You can do this in a number of ways, but I have 3 main tactics that I think are most beneficial for helping you to embrace curiosity. Number 1, it's pretty straightforward, but answer any questions that your child asks. There are always age-appropriate ways to answer any difficult questions without getting dodgy or just outright lying to your child. And that brings me to tactic number 2, which is do not shut them down. Do not make them feel bad for asking a question. Be honest with and do not change the topic. One surefire way to make a sex-negative environment for your child is to make them feel like something's wrong with them for being curious about something, or that certain topics are just off limits and they shouldn't know anything about it. Not only does this foster a negative concept around sex and makes it really uncomfortable and taboo, but it also makes them feel like they should be hiding things from you because you don't want to talk to them about it. And that brings me to tactic number 3, which is to be curious with them. Ask clarifying questions to better gauge how they're feeling. For example, let's say that you have a 10-year-old child and they come to you and they say, "Hey, I just found out that some people have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend at a time and that they're totally okay with it. Why is that? Where does that come from?" A great way for you to start engaging in this conversation with your child would be to go, "That's an interesting question. Well, what do you think?" And then after they give you their explanation, you can come in with your explanation. This is a really beautiful way to teach your child that curiosity and question asking is totally normal and totally healthy. And that's it for today on part 3. If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comment section down below, and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. But until next time, mwah, stay spicy.
