Angel ArditoSex Educator, Relationship Coach

Open vs. Uptight: Should You Break Up? #shorts

22 Aug 2025 · 1 min

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In this YouTube Shorts segment, the speaker presents a relationship dilemma: they identify as a fairly kinky individual while their girlfriend is described as extremely uptight about sexual activities. The speaker recounts having accepted a low‑key sexual dynamic, but now realizes the girlfriend’s aversion to a wide range of sexual expressions—including doggy style, oral, handjobs, any touching of her ass, dirty talk, vocalization, lingerie, public displays of affection, and erotic media. Even the mention of fursuits provoked a disgusted reaction. The speaker questions whether this mismatch justifies ending the relationship, seeking advice on whether they are overreacting by considering a breakup over these sexual incompatibilities.

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"Am I overreacting for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over sex? I'm a fairly kinky type of person dating someone who is a little uptight about sex." Before we go on, you're a kinky person dating someone who dot dot dot is a little uptight about sex. Already, right off the bat, not really a match made in heaven, but let's keep going. "I made peace with the idea that we wouldn't be busting out the leather and handcuffs when we got together, but I've recently realized that this is much more extreme than I ever anticipated. This girl claims to be sex positive and enjoys it with me enough that she complains a lot when we go without it for a while, but how she engages in sex is very uptight and negative. I have found out that she hates and will likely never engage in or with doggy style, oral, handjobs, masturbation, me touching her ass in any way, but especially grabbing it in a possessive or sexual way, dirty talk, moaning or making any noise during sex, wearing any form of lingerie, any form of PDA, all all erotic or sexual scenes in movies, shows, games, etc. And that doesn't even touch the kinky stuff. Her sister one time mentioned fursuits as just a random joke, and she basically walked out of the room in some combination of disgust and fear.