What’s the deal with spicy talk??? #realtalk #spicytalk #educational #notyoga

Why does spicy talk feel so cringe? It's because you're overthinking it, period. Most people think that you should be sounding like a porn star or like Fifty Shades of Grey or something, and that's where you go wrong. It gets awkward here because that's not you. The second that you start thinking, do I need to say this, do I need to say that, should I be doing this, should I be doing that, you're already in your head instead of being in your body. And that's a recipe for disaster, you guys. Spicy talk does not have to be some elaborate thing. You're literally just saying what you what you want and what you like, and maybe asking a couple fun flirty questions in between. Here's what you're going to do: you're going to keep it flirty, all right? You want that flirty fun energy. You want to keep it light, keep it playful, and that is your key to success here. You want to start small, all right? So one-liners like, "I love when you do that," or "Don't stop," those are totally acceptable. Those are totally fine. Something that you don't have to overthink, and you don't have to say a lot when you're using it. You want to focus on what's happening in real time instead of inventing a fantasy. And don't forget that you can also ask questions. Asking if your partner likes what you're doing— boom, that's also enough right there. And also keep in mind that being playful is exactly what you want. So if you laugh mid-session, that's totally fine. That's actually connection, and that is intimate, and it's fun, and it's life. Spicy talk feels really, really cringy when you're performing, when you're not being yourself. So you need to get out of your head, and that's it right there. You need to get out of your head, and you need to stop acting. You're not an actor. This is real life. This is a real connection that you're having. Stop acting and start reacting. You're welcome.