What is your limitation script?

Welcome to the Soul of Innovation podcast. I am Thomas Anglero. I don't want to ask you, what is the movie of your life that you play over and over again in your mind, in your head? How do you see yourself? Not just in a moment, but that repetitive film that you play over and over of your life. Of how you're doing, of how you're not doing, how you're not succeeding, how things are bad for you, how things are tough for you? Or do you play a movie in your head of things are wonderful for you? Let me ask you, what's your script? What is it? I've been meeting with people who are playing scripts, who are holding themselves back, and I reflected on myself as well, and that in life you see yourself, you constantly are seeing yourself whenever you're walking down the street. I don't think there are many people who, and during the course of a day, they constantly are thinking about other people other than probably Mother Teresa. You're always seeing yourself from some perspective. You're seeing yourself, you have an assignment coming up, or a phone call, or a conference call, or video conference today coming up, you see yourself in what role role you have during that call. If it's a normal phone call, what you're going to say during that call. You always see yourself from some situation. You're always thinking about yourself, and therefore there is part of your script. You constantly see yourself in a certain way, which sets you up for whatever is about to happen. There's your script. What is your script? How do you see yourself?

Do you—

how you see yourself, is that your limitation? Let me explain. I was talking to a friend who's negotiating for a job about salary, and I reflected on this the whole weekend, not about their salary, but about the concept of salaries. And it's amazing how you read articles because you're trying to figure out, okay, what salary should I get? I'm going to a new job and I'm talking to my boss, I'm going to get a promotion. Oh, I should ask for 10%. The article says asking for 10% is fair. If you get 20%, it's a miracle, but usually you get 20% when you move to another job. That's somebody's script. And it just occurred to me this weekend that that's bullshit. I mean, there's so many people in this world when it comes to just money who are making a ton of it. I mean, a ton. Let me be more descriptive. There are many people who are making over a million dollars a day, and you should be making a million dollars a day too. The problem is that nobody's fed you a script to convince you that you should be making a million dollars a day. That's the only thing holding you back. You've been on the internet, or you— and they don't— you don't read stories about people making a million dollars a day, or a story telling you how to make a million dollars a day. Not many of us have friends around us who are constantly tell us— telling us, yes, you can make a million dollars a day. Therefore, you don't have a script being played out. Your friends, your family are your limitations of your script, and you yourself are the biggest limitation. So don't put it on anybody else, put it on yourself. So this weekend I thought about salaries all weekend long, not about it from an ego thing, like I'm going to buy me a Ferrari or Lamborghini. I thought about it just as a concept. And, you know, today I'm done. There is no limitation in the amount of money I can make, but it's not like about my ego. It's not about I need to make money. Is that the idea of making money is no longer have any limitations associated to it. There's no— there's an infinite upside. And it's not like, yeah, man, I can make money. No, it's actually limitless. Not that it's— of course it's always been limitless, but done. I'm gonna make insane amounts. I'm gonna make insane more because I changed my script. Or in this example, I root my script. Have you taken time to write your script? I reflected all weekend. Reflect, reflect, reflect. And then it's understood that this is done. Just gotta make— say it: done. Whenever you have a mental thought and you— you— it's so clear to you, done. You just created a script. Now, how do you create the script? You just have to have this thought. You see yourself, whatever goal it is, You see yourself being a professional golfer. You see yourself being out there on Augusta, right? It's 75 meters from that hole, 18th hole, and you see yourself making that long, long putt. And you see yourself being proud, the crowds cheering, and you're walking towards that hole. To pick up the ball with pride and raise it in the sky.

Done. You're there.

You, you, you— the script and the universe and you, it will be written for you, but it's done because you see yourself there in Augusta raising that ball up. Then understand, what do you see when you see you? And that determines your script. Do you see yourself with limited amounts of income? Do you see yourself saying, well, I make $100,000, that's really good, nobody in my family's ever made $100,000? That's a limited script. Your script should never be about comparing you to anybody else. It's about you. What, where, how do you see you? In what situation do you see you? Your script is written for you, by you, when you are ready. I was using— give you another story to give further clarity about your script. I went to a high school called Hackley School in Tarrytown, New York, for definitely affluent people in the United States, the northeast part of the United States. And a lot of my classmates, who are amazing people— love to all of them, they're great— and I think we were the luckiest class ever because we didn't have— we didn't deal with the stupidity of people in terms of racism, in terms of who has, who didn't have. I think we were like just We were this bubble of time. But one of the things that amazed me was that most of those families came— those, they came from wealthy families, and now they're living good class, good lives, middle-class lives, or everything is fine. But when they look at sending their kids back to Hackley, they can't— they go, oh, that's too expensive, even though they came from wealth. They were brought up in wealth, they changed their script. And where they say, oh, I can't afford that school, I went there but I can't afford it. You see, you may be given a script, you may be brought up in a certain family and for a certain lifestyle, and the script is given to you, and then you change your script. Now that's an example of people coming from, say, good wealth and then changing the script to Lesser wealth. Not that they're poor, it's just a little lesser because their parents didn't have that script. Let's look at the same story— I'm sorry, same situation, different story. Person brought up in the projects. My friends down in the Baruch projects down on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, their script is you get— you raised up in the projects, you brought up in the projects, you have your first intimacy with somebody in the projects in the hallway because you can't do it in the apartment because you're Parents will kill you, or her parents will freaking slice you up right there. So you first have intimacies in a hallway or near a garbage can or something like that. Um, sometimes you— I don't keep going to too many damn stories. Yeah, it gets really interesting in the projects, and you never move out, and you raise kids, hopefully with one woman. Maybe it could be with several, but it's all acceptable because anything goes. And those kids have kids when they're kids, and those kids have kids when they're kids. One of my classmates Lizzie, she's one of the sweetest people I know. Very sweet, always has been, always will be. Concerted and all that, but she got pregnant and gave birth at 13. Her daughter got pregnant, gave birth at 13. I think her daughter gave birth— got pregnant and gave birth at 13. And they're all sweet people, nothing wrong with the family. They just have a script that is very, very, very different. You see, you determine your script, but you have to man up. You have to decide that that script is yours and that you determine your outcome. The thing is, we spend so much time feeling sorry for ourselves. How much time do you spend feeling sorry for yourself? Oh, I don't have this, I don't have that. Or the worst way to look at it is, oh, this person has this thing or this person has that thing. I see that all the time here in Norway. It's a reverse— it's a reverse thing. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you detest others who have what you don't have. That's like the worst form of feeling sorry for yourself because it's destructive, is negative, and is based on envy. It's just bad everywhere because it destroys you. You take away from your script. You— good luck with that. The way you get to your script The way you get to a script that's going to leap, leave you or leap you into this incredible world that you deserve to be in is by number one, it's calling your own bullshit. In other words, stop blaming people. Stop blaming others for your lack of whatever. You don't have something. You're not what you want to be. You don't look like you want to be. You don't have the job you want to have. Somebody's lied to you. Somebody's changed your life in a way that you can't undo and you're screwed.

Okay.

Messed up. Absolutely messed up. You got into an accident. You lost a finger. You lost an arm. You lost a leg. Horrible. I'm not saying it's not. But now what? Do you spend the rest of your life being bitter? You spend the rest of your life reliving that moment. There's your script. So to get out of that script, call your own bullshit and own it. This is who I am. This is my situation.

Fine.

Now what? There begins the new script. When you get to that moment of now what, You are now opened up a new chapter, clean pages, fresh pen, and you're beginning to write your new script. That's how you write a new script. But the most painful and most difficult part is to finally accept the fact that you've been— your thoughts, the way you see yourself has been your limiting factor on why you are where you are, because you kept on repeating this script and this film that's based on your script over and over in your head, seeing yourself in this way. Stop it. Stop it. There's a doctor, Dr. Caldwell. Like him or hate him, but he's a doctor who helps people who have cancer, and he's actually had the ability to heal— well, not heal, you can't say heal, you can't say cure, everybody's in trouble with these words— help people with cancer to the point where 85% of the people who he has assisted or advised with cancer, the cancer has gone away. And this was through talking, because we understand, science understands, scientists understand, everyone understands that your thoughts controls your health. I'm not saying we can cure everything and all this stuff. I'm not going there. It's a longer conversation that could take years What I'm saying is when you're happy, we produce hormones, you produce things in your body that all of a sudden your body and your immune system is absolutely blasting and anything bad in your body is dying massively. Your mind, your thoughts control who you are, control your system, your immune system, lymphatic system, endocrine system, everything. You could heal you and you could kill you with your script. That's how important your script is. That's how important you should see your thoughts, your mind. The picture, the movie you play of yourself all day long is not only holding you back, but it may be killing you., and is no one's fault but your own. What is your script? Got it? Go forth and spread beauty and light. I love you, and until next time.

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