Timothy Schucker shows how to join a conversation by asking short, focused questions that get people talking about themselves. Ask follow-ups like "How long have you been married?" or "Are y'all from around here?" Watch out though: you might get stuck in what he calls "Neverland" and can't leave.
You always want to get into the middle of the conversation. For an example, I might say, hey, you know what? I'm thinking about heading to the store later. Is there anything that you might like? And the real question is, need anything from the store? Since you can condense the majority of sentences into just either a few small words or just one word in general, which is typically, again, the subject. So in the. In the example of Mrs. Jones and her husband, when she's talking about, yeah, I'd like to leave it to my husband, all of a sudden, I want to know, how long have you guys been married? Oh, that's great. Are y' all from around here? And then all of a sudden, they're gonna give me more data with each sentence that I keep popping off at them. You're not gonna get out of that conversation for a while. I'll go ahead and tell you that right now, because I've done this before. And you do have to be careful when you're using this method, because you can get stuck in Neverland if you don't cut off the conversation.
