Consequences Should Be Like a Promise You Make Your Child #parentingtips #childdevelopment #shorts

I think one of the most effective pieces of advice and guidance that I give my parents is to see consequences as a promise you're making your child. Like I'm going to give you the biggest hug later, or we're going to go to the park and play tomorrow. You know, any promise you make your child see your consequences as a promise that is beneficial for you and for them and for your family system. So if you say we're going to pull over the car because you're being loud in the car, I'm just fulfilling my promise with you to do it. If I tell you there's no dessert without dinner, without finishing your dinner, then I'm going to follow through on that as a promise I made to you. If you hold it in your heart and in your thoughts that way, I think you're going to find it is a lot easier to be calm and grounded and matter of fact, because you won't feel guilty, you won't feel bad, you won't feel as frustrated. You'll see yourself as doing a good job of parenting in the moment you are delivering on that promise.