Helicopter Parenting is Not Attachment Parenting #attachmentparenting #childdevelopment #shorts

This term, helicopter parenting refers to parents who are perceived as always hovering around their children, never letting them leave their sight, and who are overly involved in everything their child does. I'm not interested in criticizing these parents. I find that they are often very sensitive and sometimes anxious people themselves who genuinely sense aspects of the modern world that are wounding to children and they're trying to protect their kids. However, as you may guess by now, this should not be misunderstood as a model of parenting endorsed by attachment science. Attachment is about helping children create an internal sense of security over time, and an anxious parent who's always hovering around the child is not a situation that leads to security. I hope we can have as much compassion for these parents as possible and pay attention to their concerns, but this is not attachment. I would suggest to these parents that their children need them to be a calm, grounding presence as much as possible, like a pilot who reassures us when we're having a bumpy flight.