If Kids Aren't Listening, Don't Use Force #parentingtips #transformativeparenting #shorts

Name: If Kids Aren't Listening, Don't Use Force #parentingtips #transformativeparenting #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-10-02T20:39:04+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: AI Todd @ Transformative Parenting
Description: A short parenting-advice clip advising parents not to take children's resistance personally or respond with raised voices or forceful commands. The…

2 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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A short parenting-advice clip advising parents not to take children's resistance personally or respond with raised voices or forceful commands. The speaker argues that lack of connection, not disrespect, causes children not to hear or cooperate, and that reactive/forceful language typically worsens the situation. The clip encourages parents to stay calm and view defiance as non-personal to improve outcomes.

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This one is simple, but obviously it can be easier said than done. Sometimes when kids aren't listening or cooperating with their parents, their parents take it personally and feel justified sometimes in raising their voice or using forceful language like you must do this or you have to do that. This doesn't work for the reasons I've explained. If a child is not feeling connected, they won't hear you, and if you go to forceful language, that will only make it worse. Would you be more likely to feel connected to and listen to someone when they raise their voice to you? If this video helps you in any way to not take resistance and defiance so personally and not be so reactive to it because you can see how it's not personal and it's not disrespect, I already know you're going to benefit. Yes, we can all get frustrated and raise our voice, but it doesn't practically make anything better.