Maximizing Your Child's Potential: The Power of 'Buying Time' as a Parent #transformativeparenting

As parents, we must understand that a lot of our job is simply to buy time until our children can do something that they can't do yet. A lot of discipline mistakes happen when we don't understand this. In my experience, parents often assume that their children can do something that they don't know how to do yet. And when you assume this, it can lead to you getting frustrated in the moment, and it can lead to feelings of shame in your kids. For instance, before a child is at least five to seven years old, they don't have a fully functioning prefrontal cortex, a part of their brain that is critical for paying attention, for having empathy, and much, much more. Like when a child is on the ground and playing with a toy and they look like they're not listening to you, it's probably because their brain can't do two things at once. Yet this isn't their fault, they just can't do it. Don't expect your child can do something just because of their age or what they look like. That's a mistake.