The Power of Making Your Child Feel Special #parentingadvice #transformativeparenting #shorts

Name: The Power of Making Your Child Feel Special #parentingadvice #transformativeparenting #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-10-23T17:35:48+00:00
Duration: 53 s
Channel: AI Todd @ Transformative Parenting
Description: Short parenting-advice piece explaining that around age three-and-a-half children begin to need a sense of being special. The speaker advises parents to…

23 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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Short parenting-advice piece explaining that around age three-and-a-half children begin to need a sense of being special. The speaker advises parents to reflect identity-focused qualities (effort, concentration, use of color, love of an activity) rather than praising outcomes, so the child feels uniquely seen and validated.

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Before a child is about three and a half years old, special is not really a thing to them. But once they hit this age, feeling special and unique to the ones they love the most, usually their parents, becomes a very big deal. And this is not a generic hey, tell me I'm special thing. Children need to feel two very specific kinds of specialness. One, children really need to know that you see what makes them different and unique. This doesn't mean that they draw a perfect drawing and you tell them they're special for doing that. That's too much about outcome. It's more like you reflect back to them how much effort they put into their drawing, how much concentration they were showing, how they use colors or how much they love drawing. When you reflect or mirror these things back to your children, they recognize that what you're saying is true and that it is something special about them that's really uniquely them and it just lights them up because it feels really good.