When a Child is Upset: Kim John Payne @simplicityparenting #parentingtips #shorts

If we look at little children and say, now what are you feeling? Let's talk about your feelings. And then we look at them like they should know, it actually disconnects us. That's almost like an unraveling of attachment. Because we're looking at them, they should know and they actually don't. So to say something, like, to ground it in the practical. Something must have gone wrong. That didn't work out, did it? Something must not have worked out. A child can completely, often, very often relate to that went wrong. And he might say, well, yeah, he goes into my room and takes my baseball mitt. And I didn't even say he could do it. And it's the one Grandpa gave me, and he, like, left it in the rain. And there's this whole story, right? And it's about the baseball mitt. It's not about I felt trespassed and all that fancy stuff. And so if you can go with that went, right, so we can move on, like, so we can just put this right and then move on.