In this short motivational video, the speaker guides listeners through a three‑step exercise for dealing with current frustration. First, listeners are asked to identify the specific thing that is frustrating them. Second, they examine why it is frustrating, pinpointing the outcome it is tied to—typically an outcome they cannot control. Third, they shift their attention to two or three concrete actions they can take today that are within their control and that reliably bring them joy (e.g., spending time with loved ones, checking in with a player, watching a movie). The speaker emphasizes that while the frustrating outcome remains outside their influence, choosing controllable joyful activities can improve mood and set a positive tone for the day. The overall message is a practical, coaching‑style reminder to reframe focus from uncontrollable results to actionable, joy‑inducing behaviors.
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Hello everyone, here is your Moment of Yes for Monday, September 14th. I apologize for that hair. So, uh, a nice kind of feeling like autumnish day in northern Michigan. We'll take it, it's very nice. So your Moment of Yes for today, as the wind chimes play in the back: what are you frustrated about right now? Take a quick inventory Take stock for yourself. If I— if you had to answer that question, I'm most frustrated with blank right now, right? What would it be? I've got mine. Don't worry, Hollister, it's not you. I'm most grateful. Yeah. All right, so, so, so pinpoint the thing that you're most frustrated with right now. Second question, what is it that's so frustrating? All right, what is the frustrating thing? Identify it. 2, What is it that's so frustrating? And 3, can you identify what that frustration is attached to? Which outcome is it attached to? All right, 1, what's frustrating you? 2, why is it frustrating you? And 3, what outcome is it attached to? Right, so I would posit that most of our frustration, our discouragement, Our anxiety or stress is tied to an outcome or result that we're frustrated about. A, we can't control it, and B, we're kind of looking at it going, not sure how that's going to come out. Most of my coaching is revolved around that basis, right? Playing time, injury, stuck in a situation, looking at the outcome or result. I'm not sure how that's going to work out. So what do I do today? Right. So that's the question. So, okay, so if you can't control it, what can you do today to adjust, adapt, not regain control, but to respond to your current situation? To respond to it, right? And the response might not be taking control of it. The question I would ask, as I've been asking and working with a lot of players recently, is start your day off tomorrow and focus on 2 or 3 things That you can do that day that's going to bring you a sense of joy, right? I know I'll have a sense of joy by doing this, by checking in with this player, by focusing on this at training, or by going out to dinner with my wife, or sitting down and watching a movie together, or calling a friend, right? 3 things that essentially you can control. And if I do those 2 or 3 things, it's going to bring joy to me in my current situation? Remember, the frustration is attached to an outcome we can't control. Our joy is attached to what we're able to do today with what we have that still brings us a sense of joy. What can you do today that brings you a sense of joy that's not trying to control an outcome? Focus on that today and go out there and have an awesome day. That's your moment of yes for today. Have a good one, y'all.
