Kendra Dahlstrom coaches female entrepreneurs and says 80% of decisions to work with someone come down to rapport. She built her business by connecting with 15 to 20 new people weekly. She believes trials reveal your greatest gifts, and that slowing down creates space for faster growth.
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All right, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Business Blast Podcast. I'm your host, Tyler Wagner. Today I have Kendra Dahlstrom with us. She's a high-performance business and lifeologist to female entrepreneurs. So welcome to the show, Kendra.
Thank you. It's great to be here with you.
Of course. Thanks for joining us. And we'll dive in. The first question I have for you is, what's the best story from your life that has an underlying valuable message?
I would say the greatest trials define your gifts. And those gifts are what you— your purpose is and how you can share them with the world. And I think we often look at our lives that the trials are somehow a setback or a fault or a weakness. And they can actually, when you're looked at— when they're looked at the right way, they can actually define your greatest gifts and what you can contribute and share with the rest of the world.
And what's the most valuable piece of information we should know that's within your expertise or industry?
I think the most shocking thing that I tell people, being a coach myself, is that coaching is not needed. And I think there's so many people out there today that preach you need this or you need this service or platform or you need a coach for X, Y, and Z. And when I actually tell them, oh, you don't need a coach, You just need to want a coach. It's a very different perspective, and I think they're often shocked by that.
Yeah, I've never heard it kind of worded like that. And, you know, in reality, just to chime in, like, in reality, like, you know, they could go off and, you know, research the internet and, like, figure, you know, whatever it is they would hire somebody else as a coach. But I think if you want to get there quicker, you know, obviously having a good coach is a good thing, and you have to be willing to be coachable as well. But so the way you worded that—
that's exactly the piece. Exactly. Being coachable and then Yes, a coach will help you accelerate your results. You may still figure it out on your own. It may take you 10 years, 20 years. With a coach, it could, you know, it's going to take you less time. It's like, it's a different analogy, but, you know, it's like being and wanting to recover from any kind of addiction or something. You have to want to do it in order to make it work. Absolutely.
And what's your best piece of overall business advice? So not necessarily industry specific.
Yeah, I think the biggest thing that I've learned and has been a gift of me, I was born with the gift of gab, as my mother would say. The biggest thing that served me and I've noticed in relationships is build rapport daily, daily. And it doesn't mean that you have to go in with intention of getting something out of every conversation you have and making it all about you. Just genuinely connect with people daily. I make it a goal of mine to talk to at least 15 or 20 people a week that are new, and I have no idea where that conversation is going to go. And you'll be surprised sometimes. And we know that 80% of relationship building and decisions on whether or not people want to work with you is based on rapport.
Yeah, that is huge. I agree 100%. Um, and if you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would that be?
It would be that others' opinions of you don't define who you are.
And in your opinion, what's the key to happiness?
Well, it's interesting, you know, happiness is very relative. So I always ask my clients, you know, what would you define as happiness? Because what I think happiness is could mean not be what, right, Tyler thinks is happiness. And so I think that the really key thing to do is to find the peace within yourself and realize that happiness is already there. It already exists in our day-to-day life. It's often our mindset and how we're viewing things that needs to change. And that if you can find that peace within yourself and work on the mindset, you realize that happiness is already all around you.
And what's the best book that you've read and what was the number one thing you learned from that?
One of the best books I've read in the last few years is called The Prosperous Coach, and it's by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin. And the biggest takeaway for me there, being a type A person and throughout my life, was that you must slow down in order to speed up. So there's a lot of goodness that can come in times of slowing down and reflection. And there's actually a lot of creativity and ingenious ideas that come to us during those times. And you cannot grow and you cannot innovate if you don't ever slow down. If you're constantly just moving from one thing to the next, you're missing opportunities.
And what's your favorite quote and why?
The measure of a man's character is what he or she would do if no one was watching. Right? And the reason why I always am drawn back to that one is because I believe I have fundamental principles of integrity and my core values. And I just believe that oftentimes you just need to do things that are the right thing to do or as a sort of being in the service industry as a coach, I believe that I am out there to serve, to make the world a better place, and then help people genuinely achieve their goals and get where they want in life and business. And so that's why it resonates so much with me is, you know, just act as no one's watching and just do things out of the goodness of your heart and because it's the right thing to do. And I believe that money is a byproduct of impact. So if you can do those things, you'll be making impact and then you don't have to be focused on monetary value.
Yes, I love that quote. And thank you so much for coming on, Kendra. The last question I have for you before we let you go is, where's the best place for people to find you online?
Thank you. Yes, the best place is Kendra Dahlstrom. So it's KendraDahlstrom.com. And you'll see all sorts of information there on my speaking, coaching, and community I lead with thousands of female entrepreneurs as well as retreats. So thank you very much for having me.
Of course. Thanks again for coming on and we'll talk with you soon.
Have a great day.
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