Stop Waiting for Life to Start and Become Who You Want

stop wallowing in your own loneliness, in your own problems, because people are looking for you to help them. And for some of you, it might be on a volunteer basis. It might fulfill your whole soul to work for less money or no money, which is fine, but don't work for free 24/7 because you're going to start to feel an injustice right there. Now, to get belonging, you need to start this journey. You need to be around people. And for those who came to Uluru, you saw what that meant, but then you went into your old lives. 2 weeks later, it was like it never happened. Now, that's a conscious decision you made because other things were more important than yourself. Start putting yourself first, because I did, and my whole world has changed completely. Have you not seen my transformation? I'm a totally different identity even to 3 months ago. Evolution, that's what happens. For some of you, you are stuck because you're not evolving. You're thinking the same things, believing the same things, in the same rubbish, the way you have been programmed both at work and at home by those who raised you and by your experiences that shaped you. You can choose to change, you're just not choosing to. And then you come to me and you think, oh, I don't know why nothing's changing. Well, did you actually even do even one thing of what I suggested the last time I spoke to you? No. And there's some of you here, you know who you are, you go, yeah, yeah, I understand, but then you don't actually take action and that's why things don't change for you. Or you'll lose— you're looking for the easy way out and then you lose. Things should feel easy and not pushed. I'm not saying that, but it's like you go, oh, I did my hard yards and I'm now not going to work hard anymore and things should just come to me. You know what, there's going to be a hard period in whatever you create or begin and it's really hard. Let's stop the video. Welcome to my world. I'm Vicky Samios and I help High performers share the identity that was given to them, and so I help them find themselves. So if that's you and you're wondering why you've got everything but you feel like you've got nothing, this is the place for you. And if you feel a calling, you think I can help you, go to applyformentorship.com. I can't wait to meet you. You create or begin, and it's really hard looking deep into yourself and realizing the things you're not competent at, the things you need to work on, and definitely getting rooms and around people who can help fulfill any gaps that your soul has. Hope it's made sense so far. Now, this is something that I hear all the time. Oh, I'll do this when. Oh, I'll be happy when. Oh, I'll lead when. This is cause and effect, right? I'll do this if, when. I'll belong when. I'll be happy when. But the destination keeps moving. There's no actual destination, so your arrival is static. It never actually happens. What I need you to start thinking is these 4 questions above me. Who am I becoming? What am I learning? How am I growing? What am I embodying? Because you need to jump from arrival to becoming. Your arrival mindset, that's a rubbish mindset that doesn't get you anywhere because it's like setting limitations and boundaries around what your life could actually be. The becoming mindset is where you're fully in control because you decide who you are right now. You can change it. All those habits you do every day, From waking up, going to the bathroom, brushing your teeth, making your tea or coffee, then getting dressed, or doing the same routine at the gym, do— having the same conversation with your partner. Change it. Make it different. Start getting yourself to feel alive because the becoming mindset never stops. We're continually evolving, as I say, and the path is the point. Every path is like— it's like, you know, when you follow a, uh, an exercise, like when you've done Azikiwe, because I was just doing with my kids the other day. And you've got the points, right? You follow the dots, follow the dots like the Yellow Brick Road. Every point is leading you closer and closer to where you're meant to be. Do not get off that point. Do not let anyone distract or deter you, because then you will feel alive when you hit every single point and start to go, oh my gosh, I'm really enjoying what this is, and I'm living in the present moment, not in survival mode of my past, because that's what survival mode is. I know this is making a lot of sense to a lot of you. Now for some of you, you'll have to listen to this a few times to make more sense. So we come to our final slide. Put yourself in any room that you feel you don't belong in, but you want to be in. You don't need to arrive before you're allowed in the room. You belong in that room. Okay? And this could be a career change. This could be a new job. This could be a new relationship or fixing your relationship or having conversation. And you don't need to be perfect before you lead. No one is perfect, but I can tell you, you're more perfect than others because you've got awareness. Most of society is— their awareness is absent. And from what I stressed earlier, you don't need complete healing before you create impact, whatever this impact is, because we're all here, we have a purpose. And for many of us, we're trying to find our purpose. For me, it's a full life, and I live my life through a lot of principles, through the pillars, the 8 pillars, the full life pillars. Everything falls under the— my relationships, the way I run my businesses, the way I run my life, the way I live my life. Because the people you're looking for to join your world, they're not waiting at the finish line. They're gonna find you along the way, and you'll find them. And yes, friendships will change. Our path has been a very lonely path as entrepreneurs, as business owners, as clinicians. For many of you here, some of you might have worked in office all day long and seen the same two people. So enter the room, expand your capacity, and continue becoming who you are meant to be. That is my message for today. Okay, we will stop sharing the screen now. I didn't know how I did that, but I shared the screen. You can see me at the— I'll go to share again. So here we've discussed some really big key concepts, and the reason why you are lonely is because, yes, you're on a path that is different to most people. A lot of people institutionalized. They don't know what is up next, and they don't— they just follow, follow the path and never question. When I started questioning, my whole world changed, and so has yours. And a lot of you, your life has completely flipped in a really nice way, and it continues to evolve. Yes, you're going to have all the distractions coming at you, but it's on you to do everything we've talked about Continue showing up, being in the rooms that make you feel uncomfortable, doing the thing that you absolutely want to but are too scared to, investing the money, making the money, doing maybe the hard procedure or taking on the bigger project. You are good enough. You're more than good enough. You're amazing. And I want you to really go about your day and think about everything we've talked about because your life is here to lead and it's not here for you to stay small. It's time to stop hiding. That's the main thing. Stop hiding, because hiding is the thing that's keeping you un— and I don't care if you've told yourself you're an introvert. That's all rubbish talk too. That's an identity you gave yourself. So it's time to change that identity. Quit procrastinating and start living the future you now, because the now you is the one that is going to change your world and the legacy that you're going to leave behind is one that is going to be unlike anything anyone in your generational lineage has ever created. Have belief in yourself, trust, because there's a beautiful life to have, and it's now, not tomorrow. Tomorrow sounds like a good idea because you think, oh, I can't be bothered, I don't feel like it. Now, emotions are just our body in fight or flight, but our mind has to help direct us and really channel and start listening to the things you need to listen to. Start listening to our sessions, go back, they're going to hit very deep. Everything's based on science. Nothing I tell you is just woo-woo or made up. I've never made anything. It's things I've lived and things I've learned. I'm a great learner like you. I'm a lifelong learner. But there comes a point where you need to be the teacher and start leading in your own life. Have a wonderful day, everybody, and I hope that you enjoy every minute of it and start living happily so that all your beautiful happy endorphins start to come into play and you stop procrastinating and stop self-sabotaging. This is it. No matter what distractions come at you like arrows, because I just imagine them like arrows, arrows, arrows. There will be judgment, there will be people who leave your life, and there'll be new people. Let's stop the video. Welcome to my world. I'm Vicky Samios, and I help high performers shed the identity that was given to them, and so I help them find themselves. So if that's you and you're wondering why you've got everything but you feel like you've got nothing, this is the place for you. Subscribe to @vickysamios.com, and if you feel a calling, you think I can help you, go to applyformentorship.com. I can't wait to meet you.