060: Unapologetically Creating Your Legacy with Stacy Tuschl

Hi, I'm Natalie Jill, fat loss expert turned high performance coach. When odds are stacked against us, how do we shift and create everything from nothing? How do we level up when we aren't feeling it yet or we've had a big setback? On this podcast, I'll be talking to some of the most inspiring and courageous men and women on this planet who at their worst learned how to achieve success greater than they ever dreamed possible. Leveling up and creating everything from nothing. Stacey Teuchel started her first business at the young age of 18 and she did it in her parents backyard. And she turned that company into a seven figure business that she still runs today. How did she do it? How does she stay focused on the vision and not the setbacks? Listen in today and learn exactly how Stacy Tuchel leveled up and created everything from nothing. Today I've got my friend Stacy Tuchel and I'm so excited to have you here. She's a small growth business coach and she is just thriving online and in business. Thank you for being here, Stacey. I'm so glad to be able to talk with you today.

Hi, Natalie. I'm so excited to be here too. Thanks for having me.

So you're a small business growth coach and you help a lot of entrepreneurs, a lot of small businesses grow and people see you as this massive success. You're just, you're forced. I mean, the second I met you, you just have this contagious energy about you. You're such a force. But I know that's not who you always were. So could you take us back? I want to know who you were before all of this.

Yeah. So it's really easy to see too, especially when I say things like I have a seven figure brick and mortar business and people almost get intimidated. But there was a time when I didn't know what I was doing and you know, I was spending so much money and not making a ton and I didn't know what to do next and it got so, so overwhelming. And I really started my journey right out of high school. I started my first business. So of course I don't know what I'm doing. I'm 18 years old. You know, I'm just starting from scratch. I have no money. You might think, oh well, I had time. I didn't have time because I was going to school, getting a degree. I was working two jobs, trying to start my business on the side. There was so much hard work and discipline that it took at an age that most people aren't disciplined. They're Going up, you know, they're going to party, they're going to do that. And yeah, it was just. I knew right away that I wanted something big. And I think that vision just really, really helped me. But, you guys, I was a hot mess. Oh, my goodness. This is how I got started on personal development and all of that. I got a postcard in the mail that said, you know, are you a small business owner who spends all their time in their business but doesn't make any money or doesn't do this? And I was reading it going, this is for me. I need to go to this conference. So this was around when I was about 21. I go to the conference, and it just changed my entire world. I realized there are people out there running successful businesses, doing the thing that they love to do. They're passionate about what they do every single day. And I realized I wasn't there right now, but I wanted to get there. And I think just seeing that vision at such a young age helped me explode very quickly.

Why do you think you saw that vision at such a young age? Because so many people, like you said at that time, there's partying, they're finishing college, they're figuring out what they want to do. A lot of them are looking at working for somebody in corporate. Where did that come from? Did you even get that drive and ambition to want that?

Yeah, I think I was very fortunate to grow up in a family that was very hardworking, like my parents, my grandparents, they have a work ethic. And my grandfather started a business about 45 years ago. And we, as a family, we dig basements for houses. They're excavators. And I think I just grew up watching not the women, but the men work really, really hard, Wake up every morning and, like, the sun was out and they would be working. They wouldn't come home until the sun went down. But then in the house, I saw my mother and my grandmother doing everything. I mean, their work ethic at home was so amazing. So I think I was just very fortunate to watch people take action and make things happen, even when it wasn't easy.

So you knew you were going to work hard, but did you have this idea, I'm going to do my own thing with this? And how did you figure out what that thing was?

Yeah, so, no, I actually didn't. And even growing up in an entrepreneurial family, I never thought I was going to be my own boss. I was. I guess my story is I was dancing in high school, and I fell in love with It And I thought, well, while I go to school and go to a university and get a degree, I'm going to teach dance for fun. So I just started teaching dance to middle schoolers in my parents backyard for fun. Didn't charge. And I had 17 kids and I was super excited and we were going to be amazing and they were going to come practice. And then 3 years in I had 100k coming to my parents backyard.

Oh my gosh.

Yeah. And my family said, I think you might be able to turn this into a business. Like this might be a real thing.

Yeah.

Yes.

You just had this gift and love for empowering and motivating and teaching, it seems like, and leading.

I definitely have always been a leader. You know, even back in the day, I feel like when I look at myself as a high schooler or somebody in middle school, I always wanted to be the boss. I always wanted to be in charge. I loved just kind of taking that ownership and running it. And I think that was always going to be something I was going to do.

Okay, so you're 21, you're feeling like a hot mess. Like you, you said your words, but you, but you know where you're sort of going. You get this information on a personal development course. You go there. What happens then?

So at this event I starting to realize, okay, this is possible. I think that was the biggest thing was I wasn't sure could I do this? You know, I saw my family do this, but they have a construction company. I thought, well, maybe that's more of a real business versus I just have this little dance studio. Like could this be possible for. So I think the fact that I actually could see, no, there are other dance studio owners in this building, in this conference and they are doing really well and they love what they're doing. That was important. But then I learned systems and strategy and building a team. And the guy on stage said, you know, if you don't have an assistant, you are the assistant. You know, you're the person that's cleaning, you're the receptionist, you're the marketer. And I realized, wow, I'm really doing everything alone. So I came home and just started going, now I'm going to change things. Now I'm going to take action. And I just. Everything they taught me at that conference.

So what's interesting is what sets you apart right away and I hope people hearing this lands for them is you didn't wait for like the hardship to happen necessarily or the problem to happen. You went and said, I want to learn from somebody already doing this or somebody that knows how to talk to me. And I'm just going to start applying what they're telling me. Like. And I'm assuming you didn't have the funds to start applying all that at this point? Like that.

Oh, absolutely not. I really went there because I thought, I'm not really making any money. Like, like I'm bringing in money, but I'm spending it. So I really did go there thinking, this isn't really working. I'm not sure that I could actually do this as a real business. I always thought maybe I'll have a full time job during the day and this will be my side hustle at night. That was what I was thinking.

So how did you change that conversation so you could start invest? Because people get stuck on that. Like they don't want to make that investment because they're not making anything yet or they're still a side hustle. How did you do that?

Yeah, it's so common. People say, well, I'm not going to start spending money until I start making money. And I think I realized then you have to invest in your stuff. Like we're pretending or I should say, our business is very similar to a little child. You know, we have a baby and it's not like we have a baby and we expect her to feed herself and walk herself and change herself. We do all of these things for this little baby. But we have a business. And I have clients who will say, well, I've been doing this for six weeks and nothing's happening. Or like, I've been doing this. I've been showing up every week for six months and I'm still not seeing the result. You guys, it takes time. It's a baby. Your business is a baby. And as you nurture it and as you put into your business business, there will be a day where your business can give back to you and take care of. You have to take care of your business.

I love that you just share that. I can't tell you how many times I have somebody say, I did a Facebook Live and it didn't work like you did a Facebook Live. Okay, good. I did a podcast interview and it didn't work this simple. Like, I'm just going to do this, this thing and it will happen.

Yeah, Yeah. I think the hard part in business is showing up for a long, long time, maybe many years before you ever go, wow, that specific strategy is paying off now.

Yes. Okay, so I know people listening. I'm just thinking ahead to what they might be thinking or what they want me to ask next. So my next question would be, if you don't have the income yet and you know you're headed there, you've got a vision and you get that you need to invest in yourself and make these decisions. What did you do? Was it credit? Did you borrow? Did you beg? Did you steal?

What do you do? So I think the big thing that people don't understand is there's going to be a lot of sacrifice in the beginning. So right now, people look at me and they think, well, you have a nice house and you drive a nice car. Yes. But when I was starting my business, I did not do that kind of stuff. Right? So I. In fact, my first house. I mean, here, living in Wisconsin, we buy houses very young. That's like what you do when you get out of school, right? No, I know. And when I got out of school and I thought, okay, it's time to buy a house. I bought a duplex. I didn't buy, like, a single family home, even though that's what all my friends were doing. I thought, okay, I would rather sacrifice and feel like I'm living in an apartment, but I'm going to bring in rental income, and one day this is going to benefit me. I think I was always focused on what can I do now to help me later?

So that means such a brilliant question, Stacey. I love that question. Say that again.

What can I do now that will help me later? So that means saying no to the girls going out for girls night. Right. Saying no to these amazing spring breaks that everybody was taking. I wasn't doing any of that. I wouldn't go to the movies because it would be a $10 ticket. And I wanted to take that $10 and put it back into my business. So I know. I mean, I was selling things like, I was going up. We don't even use that Craigslist. Like, I was just going, what do we need? And what can we just, what's a want versus a need? And what can we buy later? Much nicer when we can actually afford it.

I love that. And I can't. So many people that will say they can't afford to invest in themselves. They're getting their nails done. They're getting like, all those things. They add up. Like, how many Starbucks did you have in a week? Making those decisions can make that. Okay. So you invest in yourself. You take these risks. Was there any ever. Any doubt of failure?

Absolutely. And you know what? Can I say one thing that I Didn't just mention I was also working two jobs. I was bartending on top of the owning the business because I thought I have to make some money. So do you think I wanted to go to school all day, teach dance all night, and then from 10 o' clock at night to 2 in the morning, get bartending jobs? No, but it's like you had to. I had to have money. Like you said. Where is this money coming from? So that was something too. So sorry to backtrack there, but.

No, no, I love that. And actually I've never shared that before, but I did the same thing. I bar too. Yeah. All through Colle. Yeah, I totally did that. And the same thing. I didn't want to be doing that late at night. But that's how. What you do when you're clear on your what where you're going and what you want to create, that's amazing. Okay, so then take us through the journey. Then what happens? Because you're not doing now what you did then. So what happened? And was it smooth sailing or did we have any bumps?

No. I think the hardest part of entrepreneurship is when you start to get successful. You think, oh, I've made it. It's been now just. It's smooth sailing. Right.

And then that ego starts jumping up.

It's so bad, you just don't realize it's happening because you think you've crossed that bridge. Like, you've made it, you've earned it, you're here. And then something that's never happened to you before takes you by surprise and you don't know how to deal with it because it's never happened to you before. Right. So for me, there was just a few things, and I would say one big thing was the growth. We were doing so well that I thought, let's open a second location, thinking, well, this will be easy. Right? It's our second. We know what we're doing. But I forgot how much it takes to really invest in another location. And my biggest problem was I had already reached a level of success in my first business that I couldn't start. The second business like I started the first, the first was bootstrapped. I mean, we were. We could do things that like get free rental places and things like that where the community was welcoming us. But now we're a successful business making lots of money. No one's just handing over free space for us. So we had to go and invest in a great rental property and things like that. So I think I got caught up in the ego I thought it was going to be easy, and then I just didn't know what I didn't know. And by doing going to that next level, new things will pop up.

Okay, so how did things start evolving from that to where you are now? Because now what you're doing is like a whole nother level. Yeah.

So I think what happened was I was very dedicated to getting better and understanding there were people more successful than me by doing that, my business started to get very successful because I was learning from amazing people.

Okay, wait, back up on that a second. This is important because a lot of people will look at the person more successful and things come up. Jealousy, hate what I don't like about them, or it makes them feel I can't be, that they're too ahead of me. What made you have that insight to look, I want to learn from them instead of those things. And did those things come up for you at all? Like, maybe they're not. They're smarter than me or they're better than me?

Yeah, I mean, sometimes, yes, I would say that, or I would think, well, I want to be big, but I'll never be as big as them. Right. But I still in my head would sometimes say, but why not me? Or, you know, if they could do it, then maybe I could do it, because their stories are very similar, and it wasn't like they started with all of this. So I really did. And I think the best thing I had going for me was I was so young that I was naive. And because I was so young, I believed anything was possible. Now that I'm in my 30s and I'm going, oh, shoot, this is scary. I don't know if I can do this next thing. Right now, those stories are coming up for me, but the younger I was, I think the braver I was.

Now, did you have people in your life because you said you had a family that was hardworking? Did you have a support system of people believing in you? Did that have something to do with that? That thinking you can achieve anything?

Yeah, I think so. I think because I watched people doing this for a living, I knew that entrepreneurship was possible, and I knew that things got tough, but they got through it. Right. I've always got to see this behind the scenes. A lot of people don't see that. Right. So I think for me, I watched true entrepreneurship, and I knew it wasn't always rainbows and sunshine, and I knew this was just going to be part of it. And I think knowing that can give you almost like that backbone or that foundation to go, okay, this is normal. Things sometimes get hard. We're just going to go through it. We're going to learn from it. And I think that was super helpful as well.

And it sounds like. So you started also with mentors and coaches early. So you were learning from that. And it sounds like. And taking courses and learning.

Yeah.

Talk to me about setbacks. Did you have any massive failures or setbacks? And was there ever a time you wanted to quit or throw in the towel?

Yeah, I think my ego would never let me quit, but there were definitely times I wanted to. Right. I didn't want anybody to know. Things were hard, things were tough. I almost wanted to fake it, like, nope, everything's amazing. You know, we're good, we're good. But I think one of the biggest things was when I opened that second location, we probably did construction for about a year, and I started to very quickly run out of money. And I was going, what do I do? How do I do this? And I finally had to go to my bank and basically say, what can I do? How can you help me here? And I got my first line of credit, and I didn't even know that was, like, a thing. I thought, why would they give me money when I need money? Right. But, yeah, they could see from our first location that, no, you are bringing in a lot. This one will, too. We just have to get you there. And it was a really hard moment for me to go, wow, I'm going into debt here. But that debt was paid off within a year of us when we opened.

See? And I just got chills. You saying that because there is such a stigma around debt and credit, but that's what it's for sometimes. Like, that's what it's for.

Yeah. I mean, I don't know if I would have made it through it without that line of credit. I really think we would have ran out of money and something would have happened. And I don't. I don't think I would have been able to make payroll or anything, but that line of credit saved me. Like, the bank saved me.

Yeah. Wow. Okay.

Yeah.

So now when you have the kind of clients that you attract now.

Yeah.

Who are you talking into now? Are you talking to people that are just starting? People that are scaling? Who's the client that you work with right now?

So I'm going to say the average person I'm working with, they're actually making money, however. I should say they're bringing in money, however. Things look a lot better on the outside than they are on the inside.

She's kind of mean by that.

I mean, she's kind of like me, where I said, oh, I'm a hot mess. But really on the outside, I never looked bad. People thought I always had it together. Business was always great, Parking lot was always full. But really there could have been financial struggles. Maybe this person's in her business just way too much. She has no time for her family. You know, she's just working all day. So by the time kids come home, husband's home, she's exhausted. Right. So I think that's typically the person that's drawn to me because they see me as a mom, they see me as a wife, they see me as multiple businesses, and they want to know, how is it possible?

How did you get it all together? How did you. I always do. I joke with the term hot mess to success a lot. But it's almost. It's that, it's that. So what would you tell that woman? I mean, obviously, besides coaching with you, because that's always an option too, to work with you. But what would you tell it? Because I know I'm picturing. I'm picturing some of my listeners listening right now going, that's me, that's me. What would you tell them right now? Like, because they get stuck. They get so stuck in doing that. Right. Like, just trying to keep up.

I think you have to ask yourself, like, what are you tolerating? Because the sad truth is you get what you tolerate. So when you don't have time, you don't have money, you don't like your relationship with your husband or your children or whatever it is, you are tolerating it, you are allowing it to happen, and that snowballs into a place you don't want to go.

Gosh, that's so good. And along with that, what are you tolerating? Because when they usually come to me, it's usually now, they let their body go too. Right. Oh, the self care goes away.

Yeah, that was me. I gained 20 pounds when I started my business because I didn't have time to eat healthy, workout. I was growing my business. Like I. Yeah, same thing. It's like we make these excuses up.

Yeah. Speak into that a little bit. What would you tell somebody starting with you like, that says, I don't have time, I don't have time. That's like their. Their thing that all the time.

Yeah. It's like the top three excuses I hear is one of them is I don't have the time.

But Stacey I really don't.

They're like, no, it actually is me. I'm really the one person. I think you have to make the time. You have to find the time. So here's a great example. So today I have a full day planned, and all of a sudden I get a call from the kindergarten teacher, and my little one is sick. Now, you're not going to say, oh, I'm so sorry, I don't have the time. I'm busy today.

Or just. Or just hit them, send it to voicemail. I'm just kidding. Don't do that.

No, you go, okay, I'll be right there. And you just make the time. You prioritize, and you have to reprioritize your schedule. There is so much fluff on people's calendar. When I look at it, I kind of do, like a calendar audit for a lot of my clients, and I just see stuff on there that they think they have to say yes to or they think they need, but they don't.

Stacey, I think I'm the busiest person on the planet sometimes. And I. You know, iPhone has that. Those new notifications of, like, your screen time, which I can't shut off. I need to learn how to shut off. It said that I spent nine hours last week on Instagram. I was appalled at myself. Like, what do you mean I spent nine hours? What the heck was I doing for nine hours?

Okay, but it's not that bad. That's only a little over an hour a day. And you work on Instagram.

But I mean, if you think about the nine hours, that could be applied to something. My point to that is I feel like we all waste time in a lot of areas.

Yes. Yeah. And I think it's just, how do you use it wisely? So you might find you get to pick up your kids or something, and you've got five minutes before you pick them up. So what do you do with that five minutes? You scroll on Instagram. Just scroll and check out your friends. Or could you do something productive in just five minutes? People think, well, what would you do for five minutes? Well, there might be one email you can respond to. Or 1. Yeah, I got a list.

They can call me.

I feel like, how can you use the five minutes here, the 10 minutes there? Because people excuses like, well, I'll just go on Instagram. There's nothing I could get done productively in seven minutes.

Yeah. No, I love it. Okay. I'm curious a little bit about your routine. Like, your real routine, not the what I tell people routine. Like what's your, like the what do you do most? And do you do it every day perfectly? Like what, what's your morning routine? How do you spend your time?

So I'm one of those all or nothing type people. I shouldn't say all or nothing but I'm like a go all in type person is what I mean. Okay, so I'll go all in on something to the where I can burn myself out very easily. And then I'll just be like I'm turning this off for however long. I'm not going to do that, you know. So I try to be better at cheating if that makes sense. Like even when I'm on a diet, like I can't be. It's a lifestyle. I have to be allowing myself to cheat on my calendar, in my meals, in everything. Right. So for me I've been waking up right around 6am I was for a long time waking up at 5 and I just have been not getting enough deep sleep. I have an aura ring. I know how much deep sleep I'm getting. I'm like, I'm listening to my body. So I'm sleeping till 6am I need.

To order that aura ring that. Yeah, but you just reminded me.

Okay, so I make sure I'm getting eight hours of sleep every night. That's a non negotiable. I go to bed at 9. I wake up between 5 and 6. Usually naturally I'll wake up just kind of depending on what, what's going on. So then I try to have that time to myself before the kids even wake up. So that time a lot of people can put fluff stuff there. I will dive right into working. So I might meditate for a few minutes. I have a muse headband, if you know what that is.

Yep.

Okay, so I have a muse headband. I'll meditate for like five minutes, nothing crazy. I'll do some affirmations, things like that. But then I jump into my creativity time. I'm very good at writing in the morning, so I will, you know, maybe write some social media posts, Facebook, live content, course creation, all of that stuff. Like I just know that's my best time to be writing.

Okay.

But then usually the kids are going to get up around 7ish. And now I'm with them until about 9. And I only work from 9 to 3 every day because I have kids that have to get picked up from daycare and school and all of that. So I work Monday through through Friday 9 to 3 and that's it. I do not work in the evenings. I do not work on the weekends.

That brings me to a question. So people building, people starting out.

Yeah.

Because coming from the other side, bartending, working a few jobs, doing all that, Is it possible to build from the beginning? When you have the kids and you the nine to three thing, what would you tell that person? Do they do that too? Or do you say, hey, sacrifice, what do you tell them?

I would say be careful that you don't think, well, I'll just work like a crazy person and do morning, noon and night and the kids will go to sleep and I'll get back on my computer. I really think that you have to understand your to do list is never going to go away. Like, it's just always going there. Right. So I think we think we're going to catch up on our to do list. We're going to get back. You're not going to catch up ever. So be okay with picking the time that you're going to work and just sticking to it, even when you're thinking. But I have a million things to do. Because if you don't spend time with your kids or even let yourself watch TV or something just to like decompress, watch five hours a night at tv, but one show isn't going to kill you either, you know?

So that's a really good point that you brought up. Because here's the thing. If you're gonna. Whether you're working two hours a day or 10 hours a day or 15 hours a day, if you get clear on your priorities, your passion and your purpose, those things will get done and the fluff goes away. Yeah, because then you hyper focus on the right things.

Right. And for me, my schedule from like 9 until 12 or 1230 is blocked off for no appointments. So I work on my. What we call like the one thing. So if you've ever read that book, it's amazing. On my calendar, it actually says my one thing. So my husband's like, what is that one thing that you keep saying you're doing? I'm like, no, no, it's. It's just like my private time. I have to work on big things in my business. Right. So then the appointments come in the afternoon. So I always say proactive in the morning.

Yeah.

Active in the afternoon.

So I want to. And I want to explain that to people too. So let's say your time for your one thing, which I love. I love that. So it's two, three hours, whatever you choose. So that would mean like someone wants to interview does it have to do with the one thing? Then it's maybe a yes or you have to write something. Does it? But answering an email might not have to do with the one thing. So that's what you're not looking at.

Yeah. So for me, it's rare that somebody would need to interview me in the morning. Like, if I said to them, hey, is there any chance. Or sometimes I'll say, I typically do interviews anywhere from noon until 3 Central. Does that work for you? Most people will say yes, especially because I'm central.

So even if apparently because we're interviewing.

It at off time, it really is 12:30 central, my time.

Oh, dude. There we go. Okay, so it worked out.

It did. So. And I usually pick off of people's calendar. So I'm in control of my calendar. I look to see, okay, what does Natalie have that's after 12, and you had something, so I took it. And then on my calendar link, you just can only pick between one and three. That's it.

Got it.

Any other time.

I like that. I like the control of the calendar. I've not let go of my control either. And I know that's a lot of times advised, like, have an assistant do it to me. That's the one thing I do want to continue to control because I can't control my time then.

And I don't think it's as difficult as people make it out to be.

No, I think it's more difficult to teach somebody how to manage a calendar.

And for me, I just feel like it's such a routine and a rhythm. There's not much that I'm having to teach or even to figure out what I want to do. It's just like, no, I set this in a rhythm and acuity for my calendar, and then when I look at yours or somebody else's, I just make sure it fits into where it should go on my schedule.

Okay, now I have some more questions for you. So you have, like, a really high amount of energy. You're super creative. I want to know, like, how do you get that to happen? Or are you just born that way? Or do we take a magic pill? Like, what happens there? How do you get yourself so creative?

So believe it or not, I have only been drinking coffee since Christmas. I have never drank coffee ever. I didn't. I just never even got into it. But I've been drinking bulletproof coffee. So that's.

I'm drinking that as we talk right now. And I'm not an everyday coffee drinker either.

Yeah, I really, I don't need coffee. I mean, I was like this in December before I started the bulletproof diet. I just really liked the book and I was like, I'm going to try this.

Okay.

It's the only coffee that hasn't made me shaky, whereas other coffee really makes me shaky. And just, I'm even crazier than I sound right now. I'm in. So I just think I have a natural amount of energy. Like, I don't need caffeine, I don't need whatever people it is they say they do. But I take care of myself. I sleep, I eat good. I just, I'm a big believer in being healthy. I've never been trying to be skinny. I'm just trying to be very healthy.

Got it. And then what about creativity? How do you get yourself to be creative? And if you're not feeling it, do you not write posts, not create those days? How do you talk to me about that?

Yeah, so I definitely, if I'm not feeling it, I will skip it for the day. I'll do something else. And I also batch. So when I say, like, social media stories or things like that, I'm always trying to come up with different things. Or when I'm sitting in the car and my kids say something and it makes me think of something, I want to take a note like, oh, this would be such a good social media post. So when I go to write my social media posts, I have a million things that I jotted down as, oh, let's share this. Or this is a really good story.

That's really good. Yeah. I always wonder how people come up with that consistently. So. So it's, it's as it's coming up, you're jotting it down and then you go pull from it. So you know that. How much time do you spend on social media? Because I want to talk about that too. Because, like me, you, a lot of our business comes from that. So how do you work on, like, I'm going to do it for business, but I'm not going to get lost in it. Talk to us about that.

Yeah. So my biggest thing that's on my calendar is I go live three times a week. So Monday I'm in my Facebook group. Wednesday I'm on my Facebook fan page. Thursday I'm on Instagram Live. That is in my schedule on my calendar. It's not something I would skip.

Okay.

I think that's the biggest thing is, is it scheduled? Right? So those are my three biggest priorities.

Is actually going at the same time, Stacy. To do the same thing?

No. So Wednesday on my fan page is the real, like, really prepped Facebook Live. And that's usually always at noon central, but on Monday, I just kind of casually go into my Facebook group, usually around 11, but I do not tell them. I just pop in. But they kind of. Here's when she comes on Thursday. It's one of those things where I show up whenever I had that free time. So if I'm kind of done with my one thing early, I'll jump on. But it's in my calendar at noon so that I at least don't go past noon and go, oh, I forgot about that.

Yeah, I love that. Okay. Gosh. Okay. So many things. A couple more questions for you. So somebody is listening in right now, and they want to start something. So they want to start something. They're trying to figure out their passion, their purpose. They want to start something. What would you tell them a first step is like. Because this is a question I get all the time. Like, I know there's something more. I'm ready to do something more. They've. By the time they're working with me, they've pretty much started to get their body in order. They're starting to get a vision for that. They want to go to the next level now. They're like, okay, what do I do next?

Yeah.

And the question I get is, how do I find my vision or my purpose or my. What would you tell them for that?

I think sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves to find that vision. And sometimes you can ask friends or family or other peers and just say, like, what would you come to me for? Or, you know, what. What do you think I'm really good at? What are some of my strengths? Because it's so funny when you don't realize it. And then all seven of your friends tell you the same thing, right? It's, like, so obvious to them, but it's. It's not to you. So don't get so stuck in your head. Ask around, because you'll be surprised how similar they respond.

That's amazing. Okay, now this one's a little bit more general. So. And I'm curious how you would respond here. So somebody's listening in, and they're in their own personal rock bottom. So they are in their disaster. Something's bad in their life. And I'm sure you have clients that deal with this. So maybe it's financial or that their business did fail and. Or it's desperately failing or Maybe it's in their personal life. Like, they're having their own hardship, and they know that they're not in a good spot right now. And if you were to give them, like, maybe three pieces of advice on how they can start leveling up to create everything from nothing, what would you tell them?

Yeah, I think the first thing is your focus. When you're at rock bottom, what are you focusing on? Rock bottom, you just can't stop focusing on the negative stuff, the bad stuff. And I always tell. I tell my clients this. Your brain can only focus on one thing at a time. It just. It's impossible to focus on two things. So I did the Tony Robbins firewalk this past summer, and he makes you say, when you walk on fire, cool moss. It's a weird phrase, but that's just what you say.

Cool moss.

Cool moss. I know. It's the weirdest thing, but he just says, you're just gonna go, cool moss, cool moss. And you say it over and over and over in your head while you.

Walk across, like, m O.

S S. Yeah, it's very. I know. Very weird. That's just what he picks. So you say it over and over while you're walking across these hot coals. Okay. And what's crazy is my feet did not burn at all. I mean, there's nothing on the bottom.

Everyone keeps telling me that I'm just having a hard time wrapping my mind on it.

So here's. Here's the scary part, though. A did get burns or little things on their feet where you could tell. But every person that did get burns or kind of just. It didn't look like mine, I would say. So did you say cool moss? And they're like, well, I did, but then, you know, I all of a sudden said, oh, this is hot, or as soon as they focused on it being hot or said it was hot, burn themselves. But when your brain is focusing on cool moss, and, like, I am, like I said, I'm all in. You tell me what to do, and I'm going to do it. And I did say that. And my brain could never even think about what it was feeling like.

God, that's so good. So it's so focused on one thing. So don't focus on I'm broke or I'm depressed or this. It's focus on something else. Yeah.

And I. I think what can stress people out is they're like, well, I don't want to focus on, oh, I'm wealthy, because I'm not wealthy. And my brain knows I'm not wealthy. So how does that work? Why we say, then don't say that if you feel like you're lying to yourself. But, but say like, I have so much to give. I have so much experience that can help people. Like, say something you actually believe, but just focus that way. Because if you think, think, I need money, I need to sell something. Right. Versus I have so much to share, you're gonna show up in a very, very different way than if you feel. Keep saying yourself, I need money. I'm broke. I'm, I'm, I'm. You know, my bank account's empty. Don't say that kind of stuff.

So change your languaging. I like that.

Yeah. So just be really careful. I think the focus is the biggest thing. I think the next thing is get ready to show up and be consistent every day in your business. I mean, every single day you have to show up and do the work and be okay with not getting feedback. You know, sometimes it's not that you're going to get negative feedback. You're just going to get probably no feedback in the beginning. You're kind of going, is anybody listening? Is anybody liking my post? Are they seeing this? And you just have to be okay knowing that your work will pay off and it will snowball, but it may take a little longer than you want it to take.

Got it. Okay. So focus on one thing. Cool. Moss. Get ready to show up constantly and get okay with not getting feedback right away. I love it. Thank you, Stacy. This was super helpful. Where can people find you? Where are you most active on social? Where do you want them to reach out to you?

Yes. So a couple places my podcast is she's building her empire. Natalie's going to be coming up on there soon too. And then Instagram is like my favorite place to hang out. I'm at Stacey Tushell. Otherwise you can find my website, my free Facebook group. It's all she's building her empire and dot com.

Amazing. You are awesome. Thank you so much for being here and talking with my crew. Thanks, Stacy.

Thank you.

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