This is a YouTube video titled "145: There May Be No Someday" created in December 2019. It features a motivational monologue focused on embracing the present moment, prioritizing joy, health, and meaningful experiences rather than postponing life for a vague "someday." The speaker reflects on personal loss and encourages listeners to live fully now, emphasizing the unpredictability of life.
Welcome to Fit for your Mind Friday where I share an insight from me to you. There may be no some day. Recently, I started really having some fun in my life, like belly laugh fun, saying yes to more things with friends, more quality time with my husband, more time with my daughter, more trips, more experiences, cooking classes, just anything that would bring fun, joy, connection, spending more time walking at the beach, being out in nature. Really anything that would be fun. You see, the biggest thing that has come up for me in middle age is this idea of truly living now. Not just breathing, functioning, doing the do as living traditionally would be looked at as, but I mean really living. You see, I spent so much of my 20s, my 30s, and my early 40s doing the do. Like checking off the to do list, getting through things, getting by, chasing the next, the next, the next, and saying no to a lot, but saying no to all of the fun. I said no to the fun, to the connection, to the times with friends so I could do the responsible, like work, work more, work more, work more. Well, here's what I want you to know. That's not living, that's just preparing to die. You see, my dad, when he was just 49 years old, just one year older than I am right now, as I record this for you, at 49 years old, it wasn't a long, drawn out illness where I got to say his goodbyes or he got to reflect, but he had a heart attack and he died literally one minute here, the next minute, poof, gone, dead of a heart attack. One minute he was here, breathing, hustling, working like crazy for some day, as he would say. And the next minute, poof, gone forever. Now, I was 22 at the time and I didn't understand this message that I'm sharing with you now until years later, like really years later till, like right now. But at 48, I can tell you I think of this often. I mean, my dad was only one year older than me. And my dad, he was like so many of you listening to this. And he was just like I was. He had the story of some day. Someday he'd get healthy and lose the weight. Someday he'd have proved himself enough to slow down and enjoy his life. Someday he would leave that corporate job and start something fun. Now my dad had his own business, but it was very much like a corporate environment. Hustle, work, hustle, work. It wasn't his passion. Someday he'd have more time to spend with his family. Someday, more time to connect with friends. Someday he'd take his health seriously. Someday he'd invest in himself and do things for him, not just for business and others. Someday he'd be enough and he'd enjoy his life. You know what? Someday never came for my dad. You see, I want you to know that there is no someday. We have no idea how long we'll be here. We don't know when we'll be it for us. We don't know when we'll get another chance, another opportunity, another invitation, another chance we have right now, right here. This present moment. This moment is all we have. And our decisions for what we do with it. I want to ask you, are you making now a priority? Are you saying yes to fun now? Are you saying yes to fixing your health now and stopping with excuses? Are you saying yes to those hobbies, those skills, those vacations, that learning that you want for yourself? Are you saying yes to investing in yourself and learning? Are you saying yes to your higher self now? Because this decision, it could be taken from you in an instant. Now, you are right now not too old, and you are not too late. But tomorrow it could be.
