GenX Unfiltered and Real Talk with The Real Slim Sherri

Today on Midlife Conversations. I've been so excited for this guest because I found her on social media. Her name is Sherry and she is hysterical. She is my new favorite midlife person to follow. She is a pure comedian and I absolutely, I just love her whole outlook on life, how she is thriving, fully thriving in midlife. I have so many questions for her. If you're watching on video, you can see how amazing she looks. If you're not on video, you'll have to check her out later because she already defies the odds. Just with her hair. She's got this incredible purple and blue hair, which I absolutely love. And the thing that has me so motivated by you every day, Sheri, when I look at your content now, is how you'll take something that would usually send other women into a spiral, that would usually want them to not leave their house or have them questioning things, and you turn it into amazing, empowering content, whether it's through humor or just a different perspective on it. You really have been that light for us. So thank you for being here today.

Thank you for having me. I'm very much looking forward to it.

So I guess let's back up a little bit. How did you even end up speaking into these topics? How did you get on TikTok and Instagram? Where did this come from?

So honestly, it stemmed from my own experience with COVID At post Covid recovery, I just had a different outlook on life and I started making content early on. I own a couple of businesses, so I thought I would use my social media for creating content around my business, and it just did not turn into that at all. It turned into me having fun and I really was like completely enthralled with this app that could create content and could make videos. And it made it really, really easy. And I just kind of got sucked down the rabbit hole of doing some trend stuff in the beginning. And then I had this one. I don't know why. One day I was inspired to make a video that was called the Sounds Only Gen X Years. And it was like just little clips from the beginnings of some of the best, most iconic songs from our childhood. And that video, when I initially posted it, I had no expectations whatsoever of this video. I just made it and it was like I took me like 10 minutes to make. And initially when I posted it, it didn't really do much because I didn't have a lot of followers and I had been do. I was an investigator for most of my life. So I just started digging and wanted to know I wanted to understand how it worked, and somebody said, well, if something doesn't work the first time, just repost it. And so I did. Like, a month later, I reposted that video. I went to bed, woke up. I picked up, like, 40,000 followers overnight. Whoa. So same.

So you recorded one video that you thought would do well. It didn't do anything, and you just literally reposted it again.

I didn't even think it would do well. I had no expectations of it. But when I had, somebody had said, well, if you, you know, just repost your content, I. I don't know why I picked that video, because I think I loved it. I had so much fun with it, and I just love the video. I reposted it, and it just went viral, and I started picking up all these followers, and then I started. I did what I think a lot of creators do in the beginning. I got sucked into the idea that I had to make just this one kind of content.

Right.

Which was what TikTok was rewarding me for. That's what their algorithm was doing at the time is like, oh, they wanted you to be in a niche. And so I started making more Gen X content. But then I started getting a little bored because I was like, well, before, you know, TikTok, I really didn't identify as Gen X. I mean, I am. But it wasn't, like, a label that I gave myself. So, you know, I was like, I can only talk about this so much. And so I. I also, at the same time, was about to turn 50.

Yeah.

And so I was going through all. I was in the throes of it, man. I'm in the throes of perimenopause of, like, my mind was eating me alive at the idea that I was turning 50, not feeling 50. Like, I don't mentally feel that way. Physically don't feel that way. And this. I spent my entire year of 49 worrying about turning 50, literally talking about turning 50. Like, I'm gonna be 50. I'm gonna be. I was obsessing over it, and a lot of my content that came out of that was because of that. I was talking about this sort of process that I was going through almost more, I think, mourning almost my youth of, like, thinking when I turned 50, like, this is. This is. It's a huge milestone. And it also is, like, sort of this point in life where people start to label you and they start to have this different identity. People see you differently. And just the ageism, you know, like, all of it but prior to 50, in my 40s, I really didn't feel that way. That's how I felt.

I didn't think about it in 40s at all.

This big looming number, this big five. Oh. And I remember telling people all of my year 49, if. I swear to God, if you buy me one black balloon, one over the hill, anything, I'm going to bury you with it. Like, do not. Do not. And so I, I obsessed about it for a whole year. And I look back and I'm like, I wasted all of your 49, worried about 50. But then something happened when I turned 50, and I think that, that as I was creating content about turning 50, and then I actually did it, and then once it was behind me, I was like, I don't feel any differently. I did, but it wasn't because of turning 50. I was already going through this sort of awakening process of like, I don't want to be labeled. I don't see myself that way. I don't. I don't subscribe to this idea of what we were taugh or aging is when we. Coming up in, in our childhood, you know, they painted these pictures of people that were at 50. They looked really old, you know. Yeah. And society starts to see you differently and they, especially women, you know, you start going through menopause and ever so much of our, our lives, so much of our worth for. Not to me and not to ourselves, but a lot of society's worth is based on our fertility and based on our families. And there's just so many things that. And I was really in the throes of all of that, so of like unraveling, if you will.

Yeah.

So what evolved out of that was me creating a lot of content about my own experience, my own awakening, my own just, you know, embracing where I'm at in life and saying, you know what? I don't, I don't know. That's not who I am. I don't subscribe to that. And I don't. Just because you tell me that I'm supposed to be this. At this age. I don't. I'm a rebel. I'm not doing. I'm not doing it. I refuse. I. So I started making a lot of content around that.

So when I watch your content now, it's. It's funny, it's sassy. It really. It does have that rebel side. When you were first starting this, and I guess I should. I wouldn't go back and see some of your beginning content. Were you still that way or Were you talking more about your fears or your thoughts around it?

It wasn't fear bait. I mean, I was just making fun of the whole thing. I was still being funny. I'm always been sassy. I've always been a rebel, always go against the grain. I've always been that person. And it was, it was more me making fun. I started making a lot of funny videos around like just us being perpetually adolescent. Sort of this idea of like, how can I be here in this 50 year old body, but I don't mentally. So it was a lot of mental stuff. A lot of just kind of being aware of my own thoughts. And so there was a lot of fun being poked. I was trying to make people laugh because I know I wasn't going through it by myself. So many people are going through the same experience in life and so I was just making fun. I'm making light of it, if you will, because I, I believe that heal, you know, laughter heals people and laughter helps you embrace or helps you get to a level of acceptance. And I think I was going through the stages of grief turning, you know, I was like going through all of it. I was mad, I was sad, I was depressed, I was, I, you know, I was in denial. I was like, I'm not. I think partly because a lot of us didn't plan to. I don't know that a lot of us get this far in life, you know. So when you do get there, all I could do is make fun of it because that's kind of what I've done my whole life is just make fun of the things that hurt us, make fun of the things that scare us. Make fun of the things that, you know, that are, that can be life changing sometimes. That makes it easier to digest. And it was for me. And then what came of that was this just enormous amount of people that came pouring out of the woodwork that were like, that's me too. Like they're. It was sort of this. Not to jump on any me too, you know, movements or anything, but it was kind of like that. And it was also very therapeutic for me because I didn't feel alone. You know, I had all these. There were their misery loves company, you know. So it was like, oh, there's all these people that are commiserating with me that are in the same place that I am.

But see what's different about you, and this is what I'm so curious about is so I know the whole misery loves company thing, but what's different is you don't bring people down. This miserable place. Like when I look at your content, I laugh and I feel empowered where you're talking about things that really could bring people into a negative space. So how did you, how have you worked through that? Because you could be excited about creating something and you record and then you get like these awful people. You know, it's usually like a young guy or somebody that's not relating. How do you, how do you stay in your place and not let that affect you? Because a lot of people listening would. That would send them in a spiral, right?

They would, it would.

How do you. Did it ever send you on a spiral? Or how have you handled.

I mean, there's moments, sure. There's moments where it get. It depends on. For me, it's about mindset. So I found that after kind of after post Covid, I started really shifting my own mindset and really sort of being more present in, in the moment and not allowing my. The negative voice in my head to get the best of me. And that's often when those negative comments come out. Most people, that's where they go. They go in their head. They start doubting them. Sure. Start. They start thinking of all the things that they're not or that they believe themselves to not be or that they, that somebody else has told them that they're not. And they, and they, they. They take on for me, that practice of mindfulness and sort of shifting my own mindset. In the past, I might have allowed that to erode my own mental health or my own feelings about myself, but I've always kind of been a big, you know, middle finger in the face kind of person. So I just really stepped into that and authentically like embraced that person of like, screw you, I, you know, and so there are days we all, we're all human, right? Like, I'm human just like everybody else. So there are days where somebody might catch me on the wrong day in a comment, might hit me just wrong. But I've learned to use that as fodder as, as, as content. Like, I have fun with that and you know, I sometimes I might get a little bit carried away, but for the most part, I try to take a negative and spin it in a way where I can still make, I still make my point, I still get my message across, but I can I make people laugh or I make people think. I often just want to make people think differently. I want to empower people to change their own mindset, to embrace sort of where we are in life and Realize that all the things that are behind you are behind you for a reason. Like you should be in the now, like, enjoying life right now. Because. Just because you're aging, just because our bodies might be breaking down, your mind might be breaking down, or whatever is going on in your life, that those are things that a. They do not define you. And you know, you. You can still have so many things in your life now that you can enjoy, and there's so much more in the future. That's just what I want to give. I want to empower people to see themselves as. Not just because we're in midlife.

Sure.

Lives are over. Because I think a lot of people get in their heads and think, well, I'm. I did it to myself. Yeah. I caught myself saying the things like, I look good for my age.

Right? Same thing anymore. No.

And I encourage other people, don't say that I just look good. Yeah, you just look fantastic. Like you have anything to do with your age. You're not defined by that number. And also to know that, you know, whatever other people are projecting onto you or whatever other. Whatever's going on in your life that involves other people, that is not who you are. And like, you just need to be in the moment and embrace where you are and life is not over. Like, like I said, I. I spent so much time going, calling myself old, saying I look good for my age. But I call. I literally would catch myself saying my. To my kids who are 9 and 12. Well, because I'm old. And it was my 9 year old one day. She was 8 at the time. She was in the backseat of the car and I made that comment. I forget. We were talking about the Pink Panther, I think. And she was like, well, what's the Pink Panther? And so I was trying to explain it to her and she was like, you know, I forget what she said. She said something to me and I was like, well, that's because I'm old. And she went, you're not old old. And I was like, well, I'm gonna be 50. She's like, so. And it just hit me in a way, the words that come out of kids, the things that come out of a kid's perspective, a child's perspective that hasn't really been overwhelmed by society and overwhelmed by all these lessons, this conformity and the things that society teaches you about how you're supposed to behave, who you're supposed to be, etc, What. What old looks like, if you will. They. They haven't been completely affected by that yet. So when she said it, it just really hit me where I was like, yeah, so what? Like, she was so right, you know? And it just, that really was a defining moment for me where I was like, I'm not going to say that to myself anymore. I'm not old. 50 is not old.

No, it's not. You know what? You know what? I was, I had this awareness the other day. I don't know if you've thought about this, but I was trying to think, like, why is our generation Gen X so wanting to redefine over 50? Like, what is it about that? And why do we feel this? Because I don't remember my mom. I don't remember my mom talking about this. I don't remember this being a thing, but I was putting it together that we were the first generation, that we were told we could have everything, right. Like, we were told you could work, you could have kids, you could be, you could look this way, like, we were the first generation, really told, you can have it all. So I wonder if there's something there about turning this corner at 50 of like, but did I not do it all? Or, like, there's more of a, an emptiness because of that. Because I don't remember and maybe I just didn't see it. My mom's generation going through this, this pivot.

I don't, I don't remember mine doing it either. Neither of my parents, my mother, my father, neither of them. My grandparents even. Not. I don't recall any of them. I, I, you know, I think there's a lot of things you could look at philosophically about our generation that might paint that picture. Some people joke it's because we had to grow up so young that we're now going backwards and age. He just kind of refused. We were tougher, a lot tougher. Yeah, we've been adulting for so long that we've just decided we're done with that. We just decide, you know, we're going to go backwards in age. Then there's also the perspective of we were. We've always been rebellious, like, our entire generation. I think partly because so many of us are pretty feral or were feral growing up. A lot of us had to take care of ourselves. We were latchkey kids or whatever, and we've been rebellious our whole lives. So it almost seems even our music paints the pictures of the rebellion that we went through in the 80s and the 90s. And I, there's a part of me that does look at that and think, I think it's just Our rebellious spirit. That's like, no. Just because you tell me, or because somebody says, this is what old is, or this is how you're supposed to be, or who you're supposed to be, how you're supposed to look, how you're supposed to speak, whatever. I think there's a. There's something wired in our DNA that's like, no, that just does not apply to me.

Yeah.

And, you know, it's so funny when you look back at, like, the Golden Girls, for example, which you look so.

Asian and they're our age. It's so weird.

Yes, they were our age. When that show was being, like, when it was at its peak. Right. They were all in there, 50, 51, 52 years old. And I look at that and go, they. We are just so different than they. They portrayed them to be. Now, I don't know what their lives were really like. Like in their lives, right, when they were not on. On stage or on. On camera. But still, I look back at all of the characters from that time that were being. We were. And all we did was. I mean, for the most part, a lot of Gen X, all we did was sit in front of the television. We only had a couple channels, so you, you know, you watched what you could, and we digested as much of. Of any kind of media that we could because there was nothing. We. That's what we entertained ourselves with. And everybody. All of the shows painted this light of these people. They looked so much older than they actually were. And then you look at us, and here we are. It's 20. We're like, yeah, no, that's not. That's not who we are. We're tattooed, we color our hair. We. We. We are still young in our spirit. And I still feel. I mean, in my mind, I feel 25 or 30 most of the time, you know, Me too, until I try.

To go for a run, and then that doesn't. Then my body or my.

Try to do something where you're like, okay, now I know I'm feeling.

Now I feel it.

Now I feel it. I'm like.

I asked my husband this morning, I'm like, do you ever hurt? Because I used to think of a run as clearing my head. Now I think of pain. So I'm like, there's something.

Knees hurt, your back hurts, your whatever. Like, so our bodies remind us that we are not the young people that we are in our minds. And now I've talked to some people older and. And they'll, you know, they. You hear people say well, yeah, they're still young in their minds as well. They don't, they don't see themselves as that age. But their bodies. That's where I think the body decides. You're, you're, you're older. But I do think we're taking better care of ourselves then. Which is so weird because everything just seems so backwards with food and, and, and our quality of life. Right. But medicines come a long way. Etc. Etc. But I look back at like the way that my parents ate. Like the way food was then versus now.

You think it's healthier, but it was actually healthier.

Yeah, it was healthier. So why were they not living better lives? Yeah.

That's interesting.

So how is it that we're here? I do think there's something going. I don't know. I do.

We were raised on Hamburger Helper. Maybe that's the reason.

Maybe I'm pickled. I think all the preservatives, they were feeding us when, when, when processed foods really are coming out. And I made a joke the other night about the first microwave. I don't know if you remember your first microwave. It was. They were gigantic. I'm pretty certain that whatever gamma rays were coming out of that microwave did something to us as well because they're just. We're pickled somehow. I know they pickled us. We're preserved. But we're definitely not aging the same as the generations that came before us. And I don't know what that is. I don't know why I look at other. Like I could look back at my mother at 50 and we are completely different people.

Yeah, me too. Yeah. What drives me crazy, I don't know how, like, people always go to image with age. And I don't, like, I don't know why that's such a thing. Like, who cares if you want your hair purple or I want my hair long or whatever. Why do people put these boundaries around it? No one our age actually does. But it's like the people online or that have this issue with it. I don't know what that's about. Like, who defines that there?

It's the stereotypes. It's the now. Believe it or not, I do get a lot of hate. I get a. I get way more love, but I get a lot of hate even from people in our own generation.

Really?

About my hair color? Not everybody, but there are some that are like, why don't you act your age? Well, what does that even mean? Yeah, I've never been this age. I don't know how to act this age. Like, I'm just.

You are. We are this age. We are acting it.

This is. This is. This is how I'm going to act at my age. So I do poke a lot of fun at that. Like the stereotypes and sort of these labels that people have and these expectations that people have of who we're supposed to be, how we're supposed to act, how we're supposed to look. And I do make. I make a lot of content about that because I'm like, we're not those people. We were dying our hair with Kool Aid packets, people.

That's right. And sun. And I put lemons and sat in the sun.

We literally streaked lemons in her hair.

And we put baby oil and fried on silver in the sun.

We did all that. Which I don't know how we're. How we're aging the way we are, considering the sun damage we did to our bodies without sunscreen. I don't know how we're where we are. But yeah, there is. I do poke a lot of fun at that because I. One of my goals coming into this year, when I really evaluated my content and, like, what I wanted to do for 2023, one of the big ones I wrote down for myself, was this just destroying, disturbing, disrupting this idea of age? Because age is truly a state of mind.

Yes.

And I also make that. I also often talk about not only is age a state of mind, but youth is a state of mind. I want to change it from talking about age being a state of mind to youth is a state of mind. You know, to be older might be to be wiser, but to be young is beyond measure. And I don't think just because I achieve a certain level in life, age wise, that I suddenly lose that. I lose the luster of being young or the spirit.

That makes sense.

Youth is a state of mind, not age. And so if you consider yourself old or you tell. That's why I stopped telling myself that. If you start telling yourself and perpetuating that idea that you're old or you're past your prime or you can't color your hair whatever color you want, or you can't wear your hair long if you want to, all those things that you tell yourself you can't. Who makes up these rules?

Great. That's great. One of my close girlfriends who's 60 just turned 60, and she was. She looks. She literally does not. You would never guess that that's 60. Like, I love that she's representing 60, but I asked her I'm like, what's your thing? Like what's the main thing? Is it like how you're eating nutrition? Like what is it? She said, you know, every day for the last decade, the first thing I say when I wake up in the morning is it feels so good to be 35. And she said, not because I'm ashamed of being 60, because she goes, I, I, and not because I want to be 35 again. But it's a state of mind like if I in this, like I feel good to be 35. She says that's what she exudes. And like she still, she does trapeze, she does all this stuff. She just doesn't even put that limiter on her. And I, and I, and I absolutely love that. And I too just like you caught myself doing those same things about getting old and I have an almost 16 year old and she same thing called me out on it. Like why do you, why do you always say that? Like why are you saying that?

Because it's what we tell ourselves or what we've been told. And then so the things, the lessons that we're taught, the things that we're told, the, the expectations that are put on us. You know, I always talk about kids. The one thing that we, we raise them to, we our jobs to keep them alive. But one of the things that they're really taught is in their youth is conformity. Like to conform like you, you have to, you have to fit in, you have to conform. There's certain rules, there's certain rules that you have to live by. And we're, that's sort of the landscape that's being painted for you as a, as a child or in your youth. And it's looking back at all those things that we were taught and the conformity we were, you know, the spoon fed and the expectations and all these things that we carried into our adulthood. I'm trying to, I'm trying to teach my kids different. I'm still teaching them to, they have to, they you, you have to not, you can't break the law. Those are, those are rules you have to follow. But beyond that, like just to shatter those ideas, those are not your ideas. Those are somebody else's ideas. And so when we, we take those on, you get, they get in your head. And occasionally I still catch myself because it's where it's wired. We're wired that way. And so it's undoing, unraveling, sort of that wiring and the minds, that's your friend's mindset. That tells herself if you, it's, it's I'm so thankful to be 35 or I feel great at 35. Whatever the words are, those affirmations that she says to herself, because that is a belief. She's, she's raising her own vibration to believe that. And for me, I do this, I don't wake up saying I feel, I, I'm so thankful to feel 35 or whatever. But I, every day I'm like, ah, today I feel 20, you know, today I, I feel good. It's. I feel 25. Some days I wake up, I feel 80. It just depends on the day, you know. And so it is a mindset. It's very much. And that's what I'm trying to share with people and empower people with is just changing their mindset changing just because somebody told you or somebody something different gave you this belief system that you have, which we are all. That's what parenting is. We're, we're building a belief system, we're building their foundation in hopes that they go out and are like, you know, decent human beings. It's when you get to, I feel like when I hit a certain, when I got to this age, I started wanting to undo that. I want my own belief system.

Yeah.

I want to build like I don't, I don't, I don't subscribe to that. I don't really believe that I have been believing it all this all these years because that's what somebody else told me, not what I really feel for sure. So I'm trying to help other people or empower other people to start seeing themselves differently. Do you find?

I, I was like kind of looking at who I surround myself with and my friends and I realized that I have friends of all different ages. Like I have friends in their 60s, their 70s. I have friends that are my age. I have friends in their 30s, like I have. And I think for me that's actually helped contribute to having this different mindset because I don't honestly think about it around my friends. I come with 35 year old friend, working out with her hang out. Like it just feels that it gets rid of that boundary. I'm wondering if you have that in your world too. Are you, do you have different ages of friends?

I do. We do. We, we have a pretty good circle of friends and they vary everywhere from in their 30s and there's. I'm, I'm one of the older in my bigger group of friends, but there are a couple that are a little bit older than me, but I've got friends that are 60 and I have a son that's 33. So when I look at, when I'm with my son now, it's so funny because I joke, I'm like, you know, we're gonna grow old together. You realize that, right? Like, it's. He's not that. We're not that far apart. Yeah. 17. And so I look at him and I'm like, he's just, he's a, he's a grown man. He's my son. But he and I have such an amazing relationship and he allows me to experience his youth as. And I, I'm also trying to rewire him in his age where I'm like, I know I taught you all these things that were taught to me. And I'm trying him see himself differently too. And not so when he arrives at 50, he hopefully is way ahead of the curve. But yeah, we do. I have, I have a good. Well rounded and I, I get. Because I make a lot of Gen X content. I get a lot of Gen Xers that are like a lot of Xennials, millennials, older millennials that are like, they. I don't really see myself as a millennial. I identify more as a Gen X. And I'm always like, look, generations are made up. They're just a way to label us. They're buckets or boxes to put people in. Because that's how the world likes it. They like things to have their place. You do, you, you don't. Just because somebody tells you this is when like you that your years. You're a millennial. You can't, you can't be in the club.

Yeah.

Which is essentially what some do. Like, no, you're. You can't be. You're not Gen X. You're not cool enough. It's again, just chop chipping away at those ideas that are other people's ideas. You can be whatever you want to be. I'm like, if you want to be Gen X, be Gen X. I have Gen Z's that follow me. I have millennials who follow me that look up to me or that see me as like a big sister. And I also have boomers in their 70s that.

Yeah.

You know, and so I like having that variety because I also like to have somebody to look up to or somebody that is, that has more experience than me. And I also want to help younger people. And I think there's a lot to learn from the young.

Yeah.

You know, I think there's a lot that they can teach us besides just how to use our cell phone. You know, I think that there's a lot that they can. I know how to use my cell phone, but that's a running joke of like, like, you know, we don't know how to use technology.

My daughter taught me Tick Tock. So I wouldn't be on there if it wasn't for her.

Like, I mean none of my. Well, I guess my Lily, my. She showed me a little bit on Tick Tock but I don't really let her. I'm not, I don't let her.

No, she doesn't have her. She's not on her own. Her own. But she know she knew enough about like she could be like I couldn't figure it out. She's like, she figured it out like when I started.

Born with a device in their hand these days. So I mean they just know how to use it out of the. Before it even comes out of the box. But yeah, I think, I think it's good for us to have a wide variety of ages around us because I again, wisdom, wisdom. I only know you don't know what you don't know. And so for me to be able to have people in my life that are older than me, that have more experience than me, that I also can ask questions or pick their brain. And likewise on the opposite end, I can learn from the young people. I just, just I, I like, I don't have any problem with any of the generations. I mean I got two alphas upstairs and they, they teach me stuff every day. My nine year old, as I said, taught me one of the biggest lessons that I could learn when I was about to turn 50 years old, which is so what. So like you, you're not like you're old because you're saying you're old. It doesn't matter. And so that was a huge lesson for me.

And when you, you mentioned that you have, we have people that are our age that actually say why don't you act your age or, or don't or get triggered by thinking things that you say or how you look or what, what do you think's going on with them? Do you think it's because they haven't been able to step into their power? Like, what do you think is doing that? That's giving them that.

I do think that it's. I think so you have, you have some very rigid. So you got different ends of the spectrum, right? You have people that are very rigid. Then you have people that are just loosey goosey, whatever. And then most of us sit somewhere in the middle. Some of them are very rigid and don't like change. I just think they, they have this. And again, when you're going against your belief system, that's a very hard thing to do. It is not natural for us to go against our own belief system. And so it, it pushes, it, it pushes buttons for them and, and goes against their belief system and makes them uncomfortable. I really think it's about their comfort zone and their ability not inability to really see outside of their own little world. Like they just, they're on that rigid side of like, no, this is how it's be, supposed to, supposed to be this way. It's always been you, you know, and you're not, you're not playing by the rules basically. And those people either aren't at a point in their life where those doors have opened for them yet. Because I do feel like a, I suddenly when I turned 50, it was like when I called an awakening. It was just like all of a sudden there was a door that unlocked for me that was never, never there before. You know, it just was not there. And I think some people aren't there yet and maybe some of them will never get there. I just give people things to chew on, things to think about that hopefully maybe you'll help them find their way there because life is too short not to really live and embrace and be happy and find joy and all those things. Life is just too short. And I feel sorry for some of those people that probably are so rigid they'll never find their way out of that space. And so I do think it's because I make them uncomfortable. You know, I, I, that's probably what it is. It's, it's my, my rebellion, my freedom, my, my big middle finger that I throw up to, to everything it, that makes them uncomfortable. And, but the majority of people sit more in the middle where they're, they, they agree but still a lot of them haven't found that door. And that's, those are the people I want to be able to try to help, to help them find their way to that door so that they can experience more of life now instead of living in the past or worrying too much about the future and just kind of living in the moment. And I spent most of my life living elsewhere besides. Right.

Totally. So I noticed, I noticed when I, because I, my business for a long time, my whole brand was around fitness and fat loss for years. And I, when I would get hate around that Stuff I. What I used to realize is that it was triggering something in women, that if they saw me as fit and they were not fit, they would. That they'd automatically go to, oh, you're Photoshopped or you're taking whatever, steroids or whatever.

I get that now too.

It's always like, something, you know, and. And I used to get super triggered and one hour. And then what I realized is it's, oh, they just haven't seen the possibility in them yet. They have not seen it in them.

So they.

Yeah, so they think it can't be a reality for something else. So I think it's the same thing with. With right now, like, Jenna X or you and I stepping into possibility and enjoying our life. Like, it's. If they haven't seen that possibility for themselves yet, it feels very confrontational or triggering for them because they don't believe that that should be. Should be possible or it is possible. And so, like, what you said, it is a mindset thing. And I think if you are listening and you find that you have done that, like, just really look at people that are sharing content online. They generally want to help people. Like, they want, like, I don't know, a person that would genuinely ask me, like, hey, what are you doing? Or can you help? Like, I would help. So. Versus I'm gonna say, you know, screw you for asking. Like, that's not the case. But it's interesting. They are quicker to want to tear down versus saying, let me learn from that. Maybe I can learn something here.

Yeah, the. I. I get. I do get occasionally where I'll get a little bit of that. The majority of people are people that want to. They. They're like. They want to know more. They're like, what is your story? How did you get here? They want to know. They feel like it's some kind of secret. It. And I thought that for a long time, like, there was some secret that was being kept from me to being happy. There was a secret that was being kept from me to understanding what it meant to have joy in my life, like, to feel what freedom really felt like. And. And, you know, I think there's so many people that want that for themselves and don't know how to get there or how to find that. That secret door that's there. And I'm just trying to help them, like, identify those things in their life that they need, those barriers that are in their way. You know, the things that, I guess the. The stuff they need to move out of the way so they can see the door. And a lot for a lot of our generation, I think it's a lot for anybody. But I know specifically because I talk a lot about our generation. There's a lot of unhealed scars there. There's a lot of them harboring a lot of resentment and anger and pain. And they haven't forget, they have, they don't know how to find forgiveness, you know, and, and I always say forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It's not a gift you give somebody else. And so when I learned to finally forgive and just let go like that letting go process of things that I couldn't change, things that were holding me down, things that were holding me back, so much of my life changed for the better. And so it's trying to help people understand how to let go, how to forgive, how to move past that pain that's holding them in the past and live in the now, be present now. Because what, as I said, what's in the past is that it's behind you for a reason. And there's so many of them. I, I, the comments if on any of my videos, if I ever and I haven't even talked about the really dark stuff, I tend to avoid that because I don't want to trigger people and I do know some of them get really triggered. But I have made a few videos that are a little bit more on the topic of like things like, you know, the punishments that we had as kids or yeah. You know, the, the weapons about the.

Belts like we'd be putting down now.

Weapons that were used on us that would put you in jail today.

Like it was standard that your parent could take a belt off and slide. You know, it's like that was normal actually.

Anybody could hit you with a belt. It wasn't even just your parent. I mean you would get whacked in school, you know, Remember that?

Do you have to ever have to go in the corner? The Duns Hat.

Yeah. Black people on the hands with, with rulers and, and they hit us with wooden spoons. And so I, I, I've made content around that.

Yeah.

And the, the comments are just always insane, insane comments that really hurt. Like I, I just, I can feel, I feel the weight of the pain. Like what kind?

Like comments that in denial or like.

Saying no acknowledging and then like, like putting their own comment about into them.

The trauma.

Yeah, the trauma. And you can just, and you know, mental health is not something that's easy for our generation to, I feel like we should be talking about it more.

Because we had to be tough.

We weren't.

It wasn't like, it wasn't like everyone had a therapist.

It was.

You just had a tough time when.

He had a therapist. Nobody had a therapist. It was not a thing. No, it was, it was, stop your crying, suck it up. Oh, yeah, be tough. If somebody was bullying you, the solution was to go fist fight it out. And it just, we didn't have that. And there was a lot. There's a lot of stigma attached to mental health when it comes to our generation. And so many, so many of people in our generation, I think, could absolutely benefit from therapy. Me, myself.

Yeah.

And so reading those comments, I can just, I can feel the pain from these people, like that they're carrying the things they're carrying with them that they're harboring and that the relationships that they don't have with their parents who are still living and the, the, that, that the things that they're holding on to that are, I know, impacting their current life. And those are the, that I'm trying to chip away at little by little, make fun of at the same time so that it's easier to digest. But there's an underlying message there of like, listen, we, we don't, we're not there anymore. Like, we're all hitting our, we're getting into our 50s now. It's. It's time for us to live, to enjoy life and be happy and let that stuff go. I don't know if I, I generally swear a lot and I'm being really, really good.

Yeah, no, it's good. It's good.

I'm holding back. Did you catch?

Okay.

Myself, but that's the stuff that I poke fun at because I want to flush it out so that we can talk about it, we can have dialogue about it. And people, they, it's very therapeutic to love. The more you speak about it, the more free you become. And, yeah, it's. So I, I'm, I used to make a lot more Gen X content. I'm very selective now when I make it. It's not every day I'm, I'm careful because usually if I, if I go down a certain path, I just know it's going to open up a Pandora's box. And so I'm, I'm careful because I realize I probably trigger people and I don't. That's not my intention, but I do think we need to talk about it more. Mental health is absolutely a topic that we should be talking about.

So it's interesting because not you are funny on social media, but you ha. You also have this underlying therapeutic tone. So it's making sense now talking to you, because you are very intentional. Like, you're not. She's not the one that just gets on and does dumb trends. Like, you're literally.

You're are.

You are either responding to something that came up that had you thinking, or you're speaking into, like, a lesson or something that you're observing. And it's. It's really informative and at the same time, kind of funny, especially when you're putting somebody in their place.

Oh, I do enjoy that. People are like, why do you. Why do you feed the trolls? I'm like, because it's. It makes me feel good. Yeah, it just makes me feel good.

You all have to check her out. This out, because she'll literally say, listen, I know you're 20 and you're a man and you don't. Or a boy and you don't understand yet. Or you'll say, she just speaks into. She has empathy for who's messaging her. And then she shares from an enlightened state.

Like, I do. I try. I try. I. I've been nicknamed the Sheriff. I didn't give myself that name. That's what other people have given me, that nickname, the Sherapist. Because they're like, they need their sharepie session because it's entertaining. And it also, again, like I said, it gets them thinking because at the end of the day, that's. That's. I mean, for me, if I'm gonna make content people like, well, why do you do it? I'm like, because I just want to help people. I just. Yeah, because I enjoy it. I don't get paid to do it. I don't get paid to be an influencer. And that's a lot of people. They. They're like, well, you know, you. You get paid to do this. I don't. I don't get. I get pennies from tickets.

Is your. Do you have a business that's totally separate from everyone?

I do. I have two. I actually have three businesses.

What is your business? Like, what do you do?

I own an online boutique called Feather and Vine, and then I own a skincare company, and I get a lot of hate for that if I share that with people because they, you know, they're naturally like, oh, she's a sellout. And I'm like, it's my company.

Oh, my gosh.

You know, but they think I'm repping for some skin care company.

But who cares if you were. This is what people don't understand. Like, if you, like, if you wanted to rep for companies, who cares?

You've.

You have an audience. Like, that's how we learn about things.

Oh, I get so much. Gen X. People in Gen X will say, oh, we're Gen X. We don't. I mean, they literally will call themselves out and say they're Gen X and that, you know, we're. We don't sell out like that. Like, I don't, I don't need, I don't basically don't need to be repping for a company because we're not. That's not who we are. And I'm like, I'm glad they work for free. I'm glad they work for my bills. I still got to pay. Somebody's got to keep the lights on around here so I can. And the Internet so I can record these videos for you that you're digesting every day for free. But anyway, I own a skincare company. And then I, I. What has come of my social media platforms is a Snark Junkie. So I own, I own a novelty, essentially store called Snark Junkie. That is just like, that's so fun. Shank a bitch coffee. Oh, I love that. I didn't even know I designed them. And then I'll put like, some of my quotes on stuff.

Oh, fun.

Yeah. So, but yeah, and I've been in business. My boutique has been in business for seven years, my skincare company for almost four. And in my skincare company is called Wholesome Hippie. And so people always like. But people ask me, like, well, how does your skin look?

Yeah, your skin's amazing.

I only use my own. That's all I use. I just. Yeah, but it's not just, it's not just beauty. We sell like a bunch of homeopathic stuff for pain.

People are so opinionated and asking why. You're like, I don't believe anyone works for free. So that's a very weird comment.

I get a ton of that.

That's really funny. I saw somebody, I was reading some thread the other day. I don't know whose that was on, but. But somebody wrote underneath it. They said, my toxic trait is I don't buy from any links that any influencer shares. And I'm thinking, well, that's weird because you wouldn't have learned about the thing if it wasn't for the person that shared the content. Like, why would you intentionally say, I don't want to help them?

I don't want them. There are people in the world that. Again, I'm. I scratch my head daily. Yeah, the people. There are the people. The people. I don't even like people. I joke around. I mean, I do, but I don't, I don't like. I like them at a distance because I read stuff like that too. And I'm just scratching my head and I'm like, why you love. Or the fair. I call them the fair weather fans that love me until I say one little thing that makes them uncomfortable.

Now they're triggered, unfollowing.

They always announce their departure. And I'm like, this is not an airport. Not need to announce your departure. You can just leave.

Better yet, as if you even care or notice with all the followers you.

Have people who need to tell me that they're leaving. You know, that I just. First of all, I get thousands of comments a day on the three platforms that I'm on. I'm like, you're. If I, if you're lucky enough that I actually do see your comment telling me that you're leaving, you know, I'm probably going to make content out of that because that was lucky.

I have people that unfollow me because of something my husband posts. So I get that. My husband's not even on social media. He's got like his own personal. But he's, he happens to be an opinionated husband. You don't always agree with your spouse. But he'll, you know, he'll post something and I'll get screenshots. I'm unfollowing because your husband.

I'm like, okay, well, there you go again. I don't know. I don't know. And a lot of them are people that are in our, our generation. Which is why I'm like, again, all I do, all I can do is remind myself all the time. There's a spectrum, okay?

Totally.

Most of us sit in the middle. But you do have people on beach far end. Those are people. I don't really care. I don't actually want you following me. Hello. I'm glad you're leaving.

Social media is so weird because in real life this would not happen. You wouldn't be at a party and someone walked up to you and says, I am no longer your friend.

Like, it just wouldn't happen. Exactly. I made a video, not, I guess maybe last year kind of about that where I had. I was getting a bunch of hate. I don't remember what it was about, but I finally was like, you know what the Internet is an amazing thing. Back in our day, the way we solved beef was not through some comment that you left on somebody's video. You, we threw hands. Friends, okay. Like you, you would be like, meet me at the park at 4:00'. Clock. And not only did you meet them at the park, all your friends came and everybody watched. And that's how we dealt with stuff was you got punched in the mouth that. We don't do that today. People are hiding behind their keyboard or behind their screen and they feel very empowered to say things to complete strangers that they would not say to somebody's face. And that's the thing where I'm like, I can tell you this, this what you see with me is what you get. If you meet me on the street or you meet me, you meet me in a restaurant, I'm going to be the same person. It's just who I am. But there are those that do troll or, or are very negative on social media. And then in person they're.

It's like the road rage concept. It's like road rage. You know, you see people get like full, nasty road rage.

Yeah.

I mean, I think we all do at some point. You know, like someone cuts you off and you're like. And you're. And then you're really nice at your appointment. So I think it's, it's kind of like that same thing. You're in your little bubble and you think you're hiding and it. And then. But it is weird. And it's bravery.

They. They have a lot of bravery when they, when they're, when they have a screen that. There is just a screen. That's it. They don't, they don't.

They always have a picture of a flower or a pet as a profile or.

No picture or. No picture whatsoever.

Yeah.

User.

User. 15, 7, 9 4.

Something. I, I don't care to spell out because it's just not worth my time. But, but no, there are, there are. It's always, it's always those type of people for the most part that have either no content or no followers or whatever, which doesn't matter. They're. They're a lot of them create, I think create accounts just intentionally.

Oh yeah.

And to, you know, they just want attention for whatever reason. And so that's why people always. Why do you give them the attention? I'm like, well, every once in a while I just, it's. For me, I don't do it them. I do it for me. It makes me feel better for sure. Because when you asked me earlier about, how do you deal with that, that sometimes I do get in my head. Sometimes it does get to me. It makes me question, like, well, maybe it's me, you know, And I think a lot of people do that. Like, other people project their stuff onto you, and you internalize that, and you start questioning yourself for sure, and you start questioning if it's, is it me? Am I the problem? You know, and it. So once in a while, I. It just makes me feel good to just respond and get it off my chest and I can move on. You know, I put it behind me and go back to my happy life.

I think it depends where my hormones are for the day.

There's.

It depends on the.

That's what I'm saying. It does definitely. That definitely plays a part. You know, it depends on where I'm at. Am I having hot flashes that day?

Yeah.

You know, it just depends. And. And I've been making a lot more content about that. About menopause.

Oh, yeah. That's a whole nother fun topic.

Oh, my gosh. The women. You know, I mean, the stuff we are going through. Physically wild.

And you. You're a little luckier than me because your kids are a little bit younger, but I got the lucky combination of a daughter going through the hormone shifts, you know, pms, all the stuff. Teenage. Right at the same time.

Mine is 12. Okay. See you right there.

So you're getting there.

Her and I are like this, like, literally almost.

16 is like a whole nother. Yeah.

I'm not ready. And I've got two of them. One's nine and one's 12. Now my son. My oldest is. He's a. He's a boy. I raised a boy first, and he was easy. And these girls are gonna. They might be in the grave. They might be. The thing that. That just. Just offs me, you know, because I. I look at them and I'm like, I don't understand. I don't remember being like that. I'm sure I was, but I don't remember it. Okay. And I'm just. They're. They're just. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not wired for.

I was. I was telling my husband about. I was telling my husband how I was afraid to talk to my daughter sometimes. I'm like. I don't. I don't know what I'm gonna get like. And he's like, well, now you know how I feel. So I guess I'm doing the same thing to him.

Touche.

We're both going through it.

Well, you know, the guy always, I, I, I sympathize, but at the same time, I look at them and, and I'm like, But I, I don't really have a lot of sympathy for you. I was having, we were, I was live last night and joking around. I was talking about my mammogram recently, and I had a little bit of a scare. I had to go back for extra screening, which, Everybody, get your, get your mammograms or your ultrasounds or your 3ds. Just get it done. Anyway, it's important. I had to go back for additional screening. And I was talking about how, how painful, like, how they.

Oh, yeah, they pancake you down.

Mash like a pancake, right?

Yeah.

And I had some guys in there, and so I started, I said, I just want to know, like, because they started talking about how they got to get checked, and I was like, well, do they smush them in a pit like a pancake? Like, are they, are they putting them in a vise, basically telling you not to breathe and not to move? And they were like, no. So we came up with a new name for the men. It should be, they should have to go get a testogram instead of a mammogram. They should need a testogram. And that if guys had to, actually, because we, I was like, I just need to know, like, what do they do? They just kind of, you know, I said, they just touch them for you. Because if you guys had to get them smashed. Yeah, you guys, they would, you would never go. They would never get it done. They just would never do it. And the stuff that we have to go through, just in general, about hormones and our bodies changing and menopause and mammograms and gravity. What's that?

And gravity.

All gravity. And I mean, if you've had kids, you know, there's all kinds. There's a whole different set of things that come with having kids.

And sneezing is not the same.

Your. My body's never been the same. Ever since I was 17. It was just never, it's never recovered. But, yeah, the stuff we go through, and it's, it's funny. So, guys, I, I feel for you guys, but I don't. At the same time, I'm like, don't look at me for sympathy because I, I, I just, I, I'm empty. I, I have, I have none for you. Yeah.

So what I love about you, too, is you do something that I, that I do. And I look for in Other people is you do. You poke fun of it without it bringing you down. So it's like this note of, like, yes, things are changing. We're not saying it doesn't change. Like, I. I'm not. I can't. I don't like when people say, like, nothing changes. It does. Of course it changes. But it's. We can laugh at it. We can. There's more to our lives. There's more to it. There's a lot of so many. There's so many benefits with aging, too. Like, we know so much more now than we knew in our 20s and our 30s and.

Oh, gosh, yes.

Like, so much.

Take this wisdom and be 20 again. That would be. Right. But that's the thing is, that's why I say to be older is to be wiser, but to be young is beyond measure. Right. So just because I'm older, I have the benefit. We have the benefit of wisdom, of experience, of resilience, of what it means to persevere to, you know, to. To what it. What it means to get ahead in life. We've exp. We've had those experiences under our belt. And I wouldn't trade those to go back to 20. No, I don't. I wouldn't repeat my 20s because they were taught tough 20. 18. Your 20s are. Is. Is a tough decade. And I didn't really start feeling like I got my. My life even remotely together until I was in my 40s.

Yeah.

You know, so I tell people, too, don't. Don't be afraid of your 40s. Your 40s might be the best decade that you've ever had. Because for me, it was the best.

I feel the same way. My 40s were pretty epic. 50s kind of hits you. It hits in a different way. I feel like it's literally a whole different thing after 50 as. And in 40s, it's. It's really a whole different thing. I mean, you're definitely changing things in 40s, but it's a whole different. And I've. 60 can be the same way. So we will find out.

But I've been told now I'm told that the. The pain level goes up when you hit 60.

Great.

I have heard, because I do poke a lot of fun about the pain. Pain. Everything hurts for no reason all the time. Yeah. And I'm told it gets worse. So I was like, okay, well, I'm not really looking forward to that. But I have been told that it just gets better is what I'm told.

Yeah. Maybe we just stop caring as, as much. Or we can't hear everything. So we stopped.

Maybe we can't. We can't see it and we can't hear it. It doesn't matter.

And we start going to bed a lot earlier.

If I can't see it or hear it, it doesn't exist. How about that? It just does not exist. We'll just cross that off. That doesn't. Didn't happen. No. I do think that things get better because of what you just said, which is that we still care anymore. Like, that's the other big. That's my number one go to right there. That's my biggest lesson I've talked about on social media more than ever. Everything is to stop.

Yeah.

Giving your.

Yeah. Because like no comment on your hair or my hair is going to affect. Like, I don't. It really doesn't. I laugh at the person saying it, but I'm like, it doesn't make. I'm not going to go change what I look like because you said that.

No. If anything, I'm going to go make my hair even more purple and blue. I'm going to get more tattoos. Okay. I'm going to swear more because I can. It's my life. It's my this is my world called and I tell people, you have the power to silence me in your world, but you do not have the power to silence me in mine. And I will speak how I want to speak. So you have the power to just block me. Okay. I don't, I don't. I. You can just make me disappear. It's so funny to me. The people in my comments are like, why do you keep showing up in my feed? I'm like, well, clearly I'm in your feed because you don't know how to use the block button. You, you can just block me.

I think you're messaging them personally.

Yeah, right. I mean, I, so that's a good idea. Should best be like, hey, you could just block. I just usually block them. Them. Yeah. On my end. So do them a favor.

But I've had people ask me, like, why I keep sending them. I'm like, I'm not. They don't know how to use their social media. Like, I'm not sending them anything. They think I'm putting it in their feed.

I, I, There are people who tell me I'm sending them things too. And I'm like, I don't. I'm not sending you anything. I promise. I'm sending you zero things. I, I don't anything. I don't even know you is automated. It's not for me. Okay or it's not me at all. It's somebody pretending or they're stalking all.

Your comments so the algorithm knows they want more of it.

It.

So there you go.

The other thing I tell well you're you keep seeing me in your feed because you keep engaging with my content. You keep commenting just like I see.

Baby cows every day and send my husband I'm because I like baby cows and I look at them every day.

Yeah, my feed is a disaster. My all my social media feeds are just a so Sherry one of the.

Best things I did and anyone listening I cleaned up my especially my Instagram feed. Like I really wanted to follow other uplifting midlife life fun women like I I like my feed is either people I actually want to learn from and watch and make me smile, laugh or it's a baby cow because I think they're cute and fun. But I anything that doesn't make me feel good I've gotten rid of and I think anyone, everyone should honestly do that because it's like that way I don't get stuck in the scrolling and emotions and whatever. I just, it's just it becomes an uplifted curated place for me. Like I follow a lot of Gen X midlife women now that make me laugh. Half that are fun.

I have a lot, I have a lot of them in my feed. My tick Tock feed has gotten a lot better. My tick Tock feed used to be a disaster and now most of my tick tock is just full of what I'm talking about which is mindset and uplifting empowering things, messages, things that I hope find me that will resonate with me. And my Instagram is mostly just what you just described. Yeah probably it's my Facebook feed that's.

A. Oh yeah, I got off Facebook for two years other than I had a business based Facebook that I pushed up to but I literally and I just went back on it the other day I hadn't been on two years and I my first post on there was something about I signed off two years ago and I because of all the politics and all and I just it's still the same. It's literally still the same. Like nothing changed.

I unfortunately I have almost 800,000 followers on Facebook and I I so I, I try not to spend a ton of time there digesting because it's so toxic.

That's how yeah mine has 2 million on my on my page but I don't even see that they not do you. Do you. Is yours a page?

Because you should.

I don't even see the feed.

I have a pay well it's my personal Facebook I've had since 2000 that has 800. I have a fan page as well.

Got it.

But my businesses are on Facebook which is why.

Oh yeah, yeah.

And so I have to I Facebook business and so I But I'm careful. Like I let Instagram auto post over to Facebook for the most part.

Right.

I try to go on and I'll just try to just watch my videos for reading. Watch my videos but read comments. I try to respond to some occasions but I don't spend a ton of time there because it's. It is. That's probably where the majority of the toxicity is a lot of for sure the hate and stuff that I get comes from over there. So I spend most of my time on Tick Tock or Instagram just you know, digesting content from those two platforms.

Not really digesting for people listening that are maybe not creators and are. I mean I say if you. One of the quickest ways you can start feeling better is to intentionally look at what you're bringing in feed wise. Like whether it's social or news or books or all. I mean because I know what like what has really changed and helped me so much tremendously in the last two years is what I read, listen to, follow, watch, who I interact with, who I interview on my podcast. Like just I'm very intentional so I don't let myself get into those conversations that I don't want to have.

I completely agree. I'm the same way. I don't watch the news at all ever. I have alerts set up on my phone. If anything like a disaster would happen, I would get notified of otherwise I don't die. I do not watch any mainstream media whatsoever because I did during COVID It just had me so awful, out of control living in this state of fear all the time and I just don't choose to live there. And same with, same with the stuff I digest in social media. If it's something that I just don't want my feed, I just not interested or I block it. I just don't see it. But books, same way, things like that, whatever content, whatever any kind of media or anything that I'm allowing in front of me. I just want it to be the things that resonate with me. I hope to get messages from it. I hope for it to enlighten me. I hope for it to make me laugh. Yeah you know, and I. I'm completely with you. Everybody should do the same. That's why I tell people if I am, I'm not for everybody. And I get that.

I am not.

And that's okay if you need to decide who is for you and who is not. And it's okay for you to block and lesson release, you know, bye. I don't needs you in my life, which is why I'm becoming more. I never really used to block people on my end, but I'm becoming a lot more free with my block. Yeah, I block, you know, because it's just, it. It disturbs my piece and I'm not going to allow it to disturb. And anything that disturbs or disrupts my peace. I agree.

So I feel if something's consuming me, if it's not just a quick, like, I can just glance over and ignore, if it's, like, consuming me, then I'm going to block because it's.

You're going down a rabbit hole and you're just like, I know occasionally I'll go down a rabbit hole and I have to. I have to tell myself. Myself to stop.

Yeah.

Because it will. It'll erode at your. Your mental health. It'll erode at your state of mind. It'll erode at your. Your. Your good, like, feeling good. It can. It can make you feel good or it can make you feel really crappy.

So I'm so intentional about this that I've even. I had guests scheduled on my podcast that when I saw them do something like, out of that, I ended up not having it on my podcast because I'm so committed to what I want to curate into my world right now. I love that there's only so much we. There's so much we can't control, but there's some things we can. And if I can control that, I'm going to.

I always say, focus on the things you can control. Let go of all the rest, because they're, you know, you. That, that. And that's why I tell them, you are in control of your world. You are not in control of mine. You know, so you have the power. You wield your power how you choose. And because in my world, I this. I am my own universe. Okay? And I am in control of my own universe just like everybody else's. And people don't understand that. They can. They can be in control of their own space, their own. They have the power to control the things that they allow in their life, and they're also in control and have the power of what they don't allow in their life. And, you know, I just. I want more people to understand that. And I didn't. I didn't know that. I didn't figure that out until later in life. And now that I have, I think that's why I have the platforms that I have. I have the voice that I have. I'm writing a book. Like I have. You know, all this stuff that's going on in my life that's positive, it's good for me. I never in a million years thought I would write a book. And somebody reached out to me and said, I think you should write a book. And so I was like, all these things have come to me because I've let go, I feel like. Because I. And I have just allowed myself to be in the now and share my light with other people, share my laughter, share my light, share my. My wisdom, my experiences in hopes that it'll help somebody else. And at the end of the day, the way I see it is if I help. Help even one person, then it's worth it for me.

Sher, you are fantastic. I'm so glad I got to know you a little bit better.

Likewise.

Everyone, you've got to follow her on. On Instagram. She's the real Slim Sherry. I'm going to link it up, down. Is it same thumbnail? Is it same name on Tick Tock?

I'm the same on Tick Tock. Okay, same on Tick Tock.

And I'm gonna link up all of your sites and everything. So, people, I've got to know about your skincare line now and all the things, because I will send you some.

I'll happily send you some. Yeah.

That's amazing. Amazing. So, everyone, you've got to follow her. She's hysterical. You will be so inspired by her, so empowered. You'll love her. I'm going to link everything up in the show notes so you can find her. Thank you so much, Sheri.

Thank you. And I hope we stay in touch. It's been. It's been a pleasure. Where. No, I didn't even ask. Where are you? You're on the west coast, right?

I'm on the west coast, yeah.

Well, I'm on the east coast, but we should stay in touch, you know.