Time Management Mastery for Midlife Women with @SandiGlandt

How do we get it all done in a day, in a week and a month? And how do we keep ourselves out of overwhelm and self beat up when we feel like we're behind and we're not getting it done? We're right in that season of resolutions. We start the new year the first quarter with these ideas of all these things that we're gonna do, do, do, do. We're gonna do all these things and then what typically happens is we lose motivation. We get behind, we start feeling like we're overwhelmed and we fall into this idea of lack. Like something's wrong with us. We did something wrong. Well, I had to have glance on because not only is she a high performance productivity coach, an author, a TV host, but she's got a whole list I could put behind her resume and title. I mean, she's a mom of two young boys. She was a pageant winner last year. I couldn't even believe. It's like in her busy day as being a coach, a business owner, a mom, a wife, all the things she found this time to go and compete in a pageant, I could not believe it. So she is the most organized, highly productive person I know, and she keeps it together, all while looking glamorous, having it all together. Sandy, thanks for being here today. I need some help here. We all need some help here. Thanks for talking on midlife conversations today.

I got you. I'm so excited to dive in.

I want to back up a minute. Like, first of all, you must be missing the ADHD gene or the unorganized gene, or have you always been so together and like this? It's wild. Like, you're so organized.

Okay, so I have to tell you, I definitely have ADD or adhd for sure. Just ask my husband. But I will tell you that I did not grow up like this. I think that's the biggest thing that people are like shocked to hear is I grew up the complete opposite. So it's good news for all of you listening that are like, how do I go from like, where I am now into some more organization, some more structure? Because I did not have that in the beginning. I had to create it. I actually grew up very disorganized home where I was the last kid picked up from gymnastics and ballet and all the things. So I've lived both lives. And I'll tell you on this other side, it definitely gets more and productive things done in a way that also feels so much easier.

So do you think that kind of came from this because you had like a disorganized life. And you had to figure this out and find structure and why it's so interesting that worked for you because sometimes you hear the opposite where someone's raised in chaos and they just continue that chaos.

Yeah, well, I knew from a young age being in it, like, it made me feel chaotic. You know, it gave me so much stress because, I mean, think about it as a little kid, like, if you're always the one picked up last from ballet or whatever it is, soccer, gymnastics, there's this, like, feeling that you get. It's like anxiety inside of you. And I just remember always feeling that and always feeling, like, on edge. And it wasn't just that. I mean, there were so many other examples that I can give you, whether it was in the home, rushing out the door, homework, projects, and then even into college, where I would save things to last minute. And I thought I would tell myself, oh, well, I work well under pressure. Well, that wasn't the case. It's just a story that I made up because everything I did was so chaotic and that I let myself operate that way for so long.

Sue, how. What was the change? Like, what kind of forced you to figure this out and make a change versus just sort of surrendering to the chaos?

Yeah. So when I met my husband, which was back in 2013, our lives were kind of fast and furious from the get go. His business, he's always traveling, he's on the go. I have my own business now, but this was also before I had kids. So I knew I didn't want to run my home, my family, my business in the same way. So I knew things had to change. Like, it wasn't an option for me. It was, I'm going to figure this out because I cannot live like that for the rest of my life. Especially when you're not feeling good about it, when you're feeling anxious and when you're feeling, you know, like, that's an uneasy feeling. So I knew I definitely, I was almost like, forecasting my future self of how I wanted to be as a wife and as a mom and as a business owner, because I just knew the chaos was not going to continue to work for me. Especially with, you know, when you have little babies, it's. Everything's unpredictable.

Totally. So I was not the mom that had, like, the full structure with my daughter. Like, I always, like, envied the moms that had it all together and did that. But I find there's almost more people like me where they just kind of like, surrender to the chaos. Right. And then after their kids are grown or they're older, that's when they start saying, okay, wait, now it's me. Now I want to focus on getting myself organized. You sort of did that in the middle of that. So help us out here. Like, how did you help us with some, like, real steps? Like, what did you do? Like, what do we do? Because I'll tell you, most of my listeners, like, we're in it, even though our kids are not little anymore.

So. Yeah.

What are some practical things we can do?

Yeah. Well, I want to back up for a second, because I think the first step for me was actually having the breakdown. So you're not alone. I had. This was so early on with my first son, postpartum. And, you know, you're hormonal and you're not sleeping, and you're just going through all the things. And I remember having this breakdown moment of, like, how in the heck am I going to run my business? And my husband's, like, off and gone and traveling and do this, you know, pretty much alone for most of the time. Run the business, be there with, you know, my baby. This was my first son. And cook the dinners and do all the things. Like, I just had that breakdown moment. And I remember thinking, like, okay, I'm going through this, because I've got to figure this out for all the other women that are going through this. So I was kind of my own guinea pig, you know, to be able to figure this out. So the first thing. And I remember this was my very first program that I ever had. It was called the Magic Mom Morning Guide. The very first thing was planning my night the day before. And that changed everything for me because.

Planning your night the day before. Planning your day.

Planning my day the night before.

Okay.

Planning my day the night before. So. So let's say, you know, it's Sunday night. We'll just. We'll work off of a fresh week. It was Sunday night, and I would put my gym clothes out for the next morning. My vitamins. Actually, my vitamins were, like. Are, like in one of those, you know, containers there. The whole week, they're already, you know, set out for me. But even down to, like, now, I mean, that my kids are older, it's the lunch boxes. It's their actual water bottle. So anything that I could prep ahead of time, that was always set up for me in advance because I knew if I could get ahead of the day, even just a little bit, that I was going to see success in those small little moments.

Okay? I'm going to ask some weird questions. They might be weird to you, maybe they're not. And this is coming from me as an ADHD brain. And I'm very much. I struggle with. I love my add. I think of it as superpower. But what I struggle with is when I don't feel like it. Like, I look for that dopamine, right? So when I think of, like, the night before, like, you're saying, plan it out. I don't know if I'm alone here or if it's just an ADHD thing, but if I don't feel like it, it feels like so far ahead. Did you deal with that? And how did you kind of turn that on to just do it anyway? So does it make sense, what I'm asking?

Yes. No. This is so good. And I feel that too, right? So for me, the. I don't want to do it now. That for me, turned off when I realized that the pain of tomorrow being behind was greater than me just saying, get up and do it now. Okay, so like, for instance, like last night, the kids placemats are set up on the table for breakfast. The next morning, their forks and their spoons and their water. Like, it is all. They're.

You're like Mary Poppins. How do you do?

You know, I have one of these, and I'll have to, like, send you a photo, but I have this, like, organizer in our laundry room, and it says Monday through Friday, it's their uniforms, so socks, pants, shirts, underwear. All the things are in there. I have two little boys, so it's all in there. Everything is set up. Because for me, the pain of being behind for the next day is greater for me than the discomfort of, okay, if I. If I don't feel like doing it now because I. I get up, I get my workouts in. Like, I don't know about you ladies, but, like, I need my workouts for my own mental clarity. Like, that is my time. For me, when nobody's like, mommy, mommy, mommy, or the work calls are coming in, so I get that done first thing in the morning.

Like, what time? First thing. And how regimented are you with that?

So, okay, so now that I'm not competing, so I just did a fitness competition, I'm like, of course you did. My very fitness competition.

It's your busy schedule.

So when I was competing, I was waking up at 5, between 5 and 5:15, okay? Now that I'm not competing, I get up at 5:45, and I'm working out from 6 to 7. First thing in the morning. Because first thing starts at 7:00'. Clock. Mm.

So you just work out at home or do you go somewhere?

We have our own home gym, so I'm working out from home. But I have. So my trainer, I follow an app that she has, you know, upper body one day, lower body another. So, you know, that's all serious regimented there. Okay. So, like, I don't even have to think about what I'm doing. I just open up the app and it's right there.

Okay. So let me just tell you how my morning went. And just. This is like my own personal therapy session, but hopefully somebody will relate to. So I. When I teach, like, morning routine and best practices, I always tell people I do it most of the time. Because it's true. It's not every day. It's most of the time, like an ideal world. I would get in my sauna, I would drink my hydrogen water. Like, I have, like, my ideal. Right.

Yeah.

But then there's days like today where I was extra tired. I a little overslept. I knew I had specific things to do. But I decide in the middle of it all that I'm going to do a video where I have no time to do the video because I realized, oh, wait, I promised I would get this video up. So then I take like an extra 45 minutes I didn't plan on to do this video. And then I'm scrambling, going, wait, now I'm late for this. So did you ever have that kind of noise in your brain? And how do you shut that off? Because I might say that as an ADHD person, but I think there's a lot of. Maybe I'm wrong. I think there's a lot of people like me that they get sidetracked with the. But I feel like. Or this thing feels more important.

Yeah. So one thing that's really helped me with that, and my husband can attest to this because of our Amazon bill. But when I think of something, it could be like, something on my grocery list or a cleaning product that I need to order, or, like, something that I need to do if it's not, like, already on the schedule, because most of it is scheduled. I try and do it right. When I think of it, like, let's say an email comes in, I don't open it up and, like, save it for later. I do it when it presents itself.

Okay.

And that does two things. Number one, it saves me time because then I don't have to go back and reread it. Or reorder it or, or. Because a lot of times I remember like I would lay in bed and I'd be like, oh my gosh, there's all these things that I have to do the next day.

Me every night I have to order.

Thing or, or oh my gosh, we have a birthday party tomorrow and I have to get a present. Like it's. When I think about it, I do it and it might be like, okay, I'm adding it to this list of like little microhabits. So this is another great tip that I don't think is talked about enough, which is microhabits, which is like little things that you can do in one to five minutes. If you can do them in one to five minutes, you do them. Now. You don't wait, you don't put it off. You do it immediately because you're putting something off that you are literally just compounding more and more, more, more, more on your to do list.

Okay, so give me like a real type something example. You're picking up your sons, you're like, you're at an activity. I don't know, you have a few minutes. Do you pick up your phone and look at it and go, there's an email and I'm going to deal with it right now. Or do you just not look at the phone so it doesn't even come up? Like, how do you do that?

Yeah, so great question. Because a lot of times we're like, I gotta be plugged in all the time 24 7. So I have a rule for me. At 4 o' clock, I shut it down and I'm not responding. My team might be responding to emails, but I'm not responding to them. My kids, we do a homeschooling program, so they're in school only until 12 o'. Clock. So they come through the door about 12:30 and they're like, mommy, mommy, mommy. So I take my work day to 4 o' clock and then I take them to sports, you know, activities, whatever. So after that point, I'm not checking it. Like I said, my team may be checking in and you know, responding to things, but I don't do it after that time because I really, really, really try to be intentional with my kids. And my husband hates it because he's like, I cannot get a of you.

Like I said, like you turn your phone in airplane mode or it's just not even on your phone or how does that.

It's on me. It might be in my, in my purse or whatever, but I just I've got into the habit of just getting off of it at a certain time and honoring that because I look at it like this. If I'm on my phone responding to emails, team messages, things like that, I'm not with my boys, right? And to me, like, and I'm sure a lot of the ladies on here, it's so important to me that I'm spending quality time with my family. Like, that is my number one most important priority in my life. And, but also, like, so is my self care and so is my time in my business. So I'm really, really intentional about where I am being 100% there. But my boys also know when they come home, I'm in my office working. That's not mommy's time to play, you know, that's my time to get my work done. So I'm just really intentional about being where I'm at and then trying to just block off, turn off, put it away, you know?

So I seriously want to be you when I grow up. And I'm 53, so I, I got to catch up. This is definitely not me. So I want, I want some help here and I'm sure listeners want some help. So let's talk through this a little bit more because I really want some practical things here. So what I figured out is if I remove email from my phone, like if I literally delete it, then I will not be bothered by it and I'll look at it at designated times, but that doesn't last because then I in a moment will redownload it.

Yeah, you're like, what's my password? Yeah.

Yeah. So that's what I do. So how like, do you time block your day? How do you like, walk us through? Like, how does your day actually structure? Because I am so baffled right now as you're like, I'm like, you run a business, you coach people. You have two young kids. You did. I knew you did the pageant. I didn't know you did a fitness contest on top of it. Like, I'm like, how do you get all this in?

Yeah, so, okay, number one, I have an amazing support system. So I have in laws. I'm very grateful and I know not a lot of people have this, but I'm very grateful that I do. I have a very close support system. In laws are close by, so they help pick up, you know, with school for the kids. So that number one, also with my team, so I have a team that knows what my working hours are. They know what to respond to. What's for me. What's for them? And I also have like, every day has like, we'll call them theme days, right? So like my Mondays are only for my academy. So I have a high performance academy. And that day is just for high performance academy, those ladies that call new prospective members onboarding.

So you're focused on that one group on that day. Mondays, like the only thing you're looking.

At right then my middle of the week, my Tuesday, Wednesday 30. It's a mix between my one on one clients and podcasting or any kind of media. And then my Friday is what I like to call my flex Friday or like my freedom Friday, where it could be a mix of a VIP day for a client, it could be a content day. Or sometimes I'm like, you know what? I'm taking the day to be with the kids, because that's my.

This is unbelievable. I'm laughing because when I, when we were trying to book this podcast recording, we decided we were gonna do like a back to back. I was gonna view her, she's gonna interview me. And she said, she said to me, Sandy says to me, what day and time do you do recordings? And I'm, I'm like, what do people do that day and time? I do it when I feel like it. What? So that was my first sign that we are not the same.

Okay.

So that's, that was wild.

But the other thing is too is like, if I waited till I felt like working out or cooking dinner or whatever it was, I would never do the damn thing. Like, okay. Because.

Because I do do things, I think, like I'm, I think I'm very productive. I could be more organized. But I'm very proud. I get everything done.

So I just know for me, like, there's times when I'll, like, for instance, I'm not the best cook. Like, I. I've been learning to do it. Okay. But it's because I put on my calendar, okay. Between 5 and 6pm, you know what recipe you're doing? You have all the ingredients? Yeah, I've ordered. And again, I can show you this system that I have in my house as well. I have like a laminated sheet that says Monday through. No, it's, it's actually, it's every day. I only use Monday through Friday because normally weekends we go out or whatever.

Yeah.

But I write out like what we're having for dinner every week, the ingredients that I need. And then I go into Instacart and I order them. So like every. For me at least personally Everything has a system. Because I find I have so much more flexibility when I have these systems in place.

I'm so curious. I actually, we're recording this podcast live right now, so I have a few members on. I'm not going to unmute you guys, but if you're in a place where you can chat, I'm just curious, like, do you relate more to me or Sandy? I'm just really genuinely curious. Like, am I the one that's crazy or is Sandy crazy?

Everybody has a way of getting things done, right? So if yours works for you. Because I also have clients that are like, how are you doing that? You know what I mean?

I want to learn. I want to learn. I'm like, this is really wild. So somebody just commented. Liana just commented. I'm in the middle of you too, so that's cool. Oh, my God.

Oh, wow.

I'm surprised, Lawrence. And 99% of the time, Sandy, wow. I am not this. Okay, I'm going to learn. I'm committed to this. This is good. So do you ever feel overwhelmed, Sandy?

100%, I don't think. I mean, first of all, we wouldn't be women if we didn't feel overwhelmed, right? Like, I look at my schedule today, I'm like, okay, I see all the things that I have to do, but I also know that I have to get my kids to a birthday party this afternoon. I ordered groceries, so they're coming later on in the day and I gotta cook dinner tonight. Like, I gotta take the kids, they have golf lessons later today. So, like, yeah, I also look at, okay, what do I need to get done that's gonna move the needle forward? Because there's little micro things that we all do throughout our day that are just like, I wouldn't say busy work, but it's just not moving the needle forward. So I really look and prioritize that what can only Sandy do. So then when there's things that are on the list or that need to get done, I can also go to my team and say, you can handle this or this, you know, someone on my team to make the content. I'm hosting an event next month. Okay. I teamed up with someone, I'm collaborating with them. What can she do? What can I do? You know, so it's really like, it's the best of both worlds because you get to have the freedom in business, but also show up and be with the kids or the self care days or days with the hubby. You know, you get both.

I want to talk about business for a little bit there because you said you have a team that is very clear on their, their roles, the times and all that. Any tips there? Like, how did you figure out what you needed? There is this, like, do you look for this skill with them? Do you train them on the skill? Like, tell us a little bit about your hiring technique and how you run that.

Yeah, so it's a little bit of both. So number one, I always hire to their strengths. So for example, I have someone on my team that's like my video editor. I have someone else who's my content creator. I have someone else who's like my backend online business manager and she's helping with all the funnels and the things that are, you know, not my zone of genius. So I hire to their strengths. I would never go to my online business manager and say, hey, here's a video, I need you to edit this for me. She'd be like, what? Like, I don't even know where to begin. So what I do is I hire based on the skill set, what I need. And then I also run through like what my expectations are of them. Like for example, my videographer. These are the deliverables. When I'm at an event, Sandy needs xyz, you know, before, during and after the event. So everything is very clearly laid out. And then we also, the team as a whole, we look at different stats from month to month on where we're showing up, what we want to focus on. And then I also ask them for feedback like, hey, what's working? What's not working? So, you know, we can edit and audit that as needed.

And then do you set sort of boundaries with them on communication? Because I imagine they, they need things, they need answers on things. So how do you do that?

Well, they know they've been with me for my, my, the team member that's been the like most recent hire with me has been with me for three years. So they've been with me for a long time. One of them from the, even the beginning, like eight years ago. So they know like Sandy's offline, she's not going to answer until tomorrow. So they know if they need something, they know the hours that they can reach me. And also they have each other. So like my online business manager, she's like kind of like the second in command when I'm not there. The team knows they can go to her for most, pretty much anything that they need. She's kind of like the go to.

See, I can see the problem right Here I'm seeing this as I'm, as you're speaking. I'm like, my team knows they can pretty much reach me whenever they have a question.

Yeah.

And I, and I kind of like it like that because I'm like, I don't want that because otherwise it weighs in my head. Like, right. I want to give them the answer. So unless I have a real reason that I'm not available, that's I'm doing that. But at the same time, I can see where that personality and if you're listening, you can relate to me a little bit, then we probably stress them out too, because then we're shooting out messages whenever we feel like it too. So there's like. So do you control that too, Sandy? Like when you, like, do you just put questions that you have whenever you want to put them or do you kind of. How do you do that? How do you get it out of your brain and organize that so?

Because it's like pretty much in that same window. I would say like 10 to 4 is the window that they know they're going to hear from me. I'm going to respond to them. Outside of that, they're really not going to hear from me unless it's something urgent like, oh my gosh, oh my.

God, he's going to want to go work for you now, not me.

You know, we need a piece of content. We need something right now for a sponsor. We need like, because again, like all the things that I know I need to get done for the day, I already know ahead of time. I know what I'm focusing on. They know. And then also we do monthly meetings where we say, okay, these are the promos that are going out. This is the content. Like, they all know ahead of time what's expected of them, what are the deliverables, what they can expect from me. Like, everybody's pretty much on the same page. Again, if something random comes up, if something is needed last minute, that's kind of like an anomaly. But everything else is pretty. And it's very systemized. So, like they know where to go. We have, you know, all of their SOPs, so standard operating procedures of how anything and everything works in the business. So it's pretty straightforward.

Now, is your husband similar to you personality wise or do you help him and kind of oversee this with your.

Personality in the house, the way that the house operates, I'm pretty much running the whole like, show in the house. He's like, whatever works for you. Okay, you do that now because he has he works for someone else. He's the president of his company. They have their own systems. They have their. Which I don't even know about those. Like, that doesn't even enter my world. So the biggest thing for us is like we'll sit down and I know this is going to blow a lot of minds, but we'll sit down. Like January 1st, we plan out our entire year. Like, wow. We put vacations on the calendar. We already know the kids school schedule. So we'll say, okay, spring break, we're going to go to the Bahamas and June for the summer we're going to go last year we did Montana. And then we're going to go to Europe in August. Like we plan all of that out. January 1st in about an hour. Everything is planned out. And now look, things change. We revisit the monthly, but pretty much the whole year is planned out in one day. January 1st.

Okay, I have a weird question before I get into like some practical health here. What happens when circumstances pop up or chaos? Like, do you. Does that completely rattle you? Are you prepared for that too? What happens when there's change of plans of the structure?

Yeah. So like I said, things, everything changes, like for the, for the most part. Like, and that's why we, we revisit monthly. Because one business event that he has that we think is going to happen one week, it changes to another or you know.

Yeah.

So I, so I would say, like, you do have to have flexibility within the systems. That's like one of the biggest things that I even had to lean into more was, oh my gosh. Because I'm so structured, like, I have to be more flexible. Which is where I'd say my husband is really, really good at that.

Okay.

So it's a good like Y. Yang because I'm super structured and he's like, he could change his stuff could change at like by the minute.

Wow, this is so foreign to me. I don't know if my listeners think I'm crazy right now or if they're like, this is just so foreign to me. I'm glad I'm asking these questions. Okay, I'm gonna pivot a little bit into like what I know my audience is struggling with time wise. And if you help coach us help with.

Yeah, let's do it.

What I typically see, because mostly midlife women is. Are my audience is they don't have young kids anymore. They want to take their health into consideration. They want to advance themselves. And what comes up a lot is I don't have time I don't have time. I'll tell you, even women that go through my programs, when they commit to like eight weeks with me, their biggest worry is I don't have the time. How am I going to make the time? Because now they're adding new habits. They want to. So help there. Like, where would you start? Somebody that is in that space and they're like, I, I need to start being a detective with my health, I need to start adding this in. Give us some advice there.

Yeah. Okay, so I have to give a little bit of tough love. Is that okay?

Yeah, no, that's great.

Okay. All right. So just permission to give some tough love.

Yeah.

Everybody is busy. Everyone. Every single person that you meet is facing a challenge that we can't see. Every single person that, that we encounter, including ourselves, says, I don't have time. That's like the number one excuse is I don't have time. But are you going to say to yourself, I don't have time, or are you going to make the time? For example, I'll give my own real life, you know, example. I did this fitness competition. And this is recent. This was a month ago. I did this in December. So very, very fresh. I thought to myself, how am I going to do this? I don't have the time. But guess what? For me, the goal was so much bigger than my excuse of saying I don't have the time. So when normally I would sleep in until 6 o' clock and, you know, do a quick, you know, 30 minute workout, whatever. Now I. And it blew my mind how I found the time. So. And you've done competitions, so this is not new to you.

I mean, like 30 years ago, so.

But you know, that commitment and the discipline that goes into it, I mean, I would wake up at 5, 5:15. I'd get the first part of my workout in, which was my weightlifting. I would get breakfast made for the kids, drop them off at school, come home. I had a desk like my peloton, this acrylic desk that I would put on top of the peloton and internal work, like, like team or content or whatever. I'd be walking with a weighted vest, working on my computer.

Wow.

Walking for whatever, 45 minutes to an hour to get that in because, you know, two weeks out from the competition, you're. You're working out two hours a day. I never thought I had two hours a day to commit to working out until I had to do it and I found the time to make it happen.

Okay. I love what you just said there. And I definitely, a thousand percent agree with that. And I think I've probably coached that without even realizing it and say not saying it that way. But I do think money and time, both of them, we find it for things that we want, regardless of what we think the obstacle is. So I think that with money, I think people find money to pay for what they want, regardless of cost, so they think that they don't. Nobody ever has the extra money, right? Like, they don't. They fight. And I think you're right with the time. When it's of interest to us and we are passionate behind it, we find the time. So I guess to rewind that question some, if that's somebody's story or belief. That's the problem right there, is that we have to first get you really excited about the why and get really clear of why you want this, and then the time works it out. Is that my hearing that chronic one.

Really a thousand percent. And, you know, when I decided I wanted to do the fitness competition, I had again, never done one before. My why behind that was, I work out every day. I do 30 minutes. I wasn't seeing any progress.

Okay.

I'm 37 years old, and I said, okay, I'm waking up, I'm working out. I'm committed to my health, I eat healthy. You know, I can run around with my boys, but I'm not really seeing any physical change in my body. I want to see what's possible after two babies to C sections. Like, what can I do? I want to be healthier and fitter and just like another level.

Sure.

Even before I had kids. So that was my kind of why I wanted to do it. But secondary to that, or I would say even more so than that, I was like, I want to push myself to a level that I've never been before with the excuses that I tell myself, I don't know about you, Natalie, but I have such a sweet tooth. Like, you can ask any of my girlfriends, my husband, like, I am the one that will be like, no to the bread basket. But like, give me the brownie, give.

Me the cookie, give me the sweets.

Because that's my advice. So for me, I wanted to see how far I could push my discipline. That was like the main thing for me that I wanted to really challenge myself in. And I think if we all look at there's so many different areas that. That these things come up again. I don't have enough time. I'm too old, I'm too young. I don't have enough money. There's, there's all these excuses that we can tell ourselves. But the thing that you really want, like if you dig deep and you're like, that's the reason why I want it, those excuses will no longer exist.

Makes sense now. You're get very committed. I've seen when you do competitions and you do these extra things, you'll get up earlier. So how do you then go to bed earlier? How do you adjust that?

Like what?

Talk to us about that.

Yeah. So I'm in bed by nine. It's so funny. I had someone text me last night at like 8:30 and I, I put the boys down between 7:30 and so I didn't even see it until this morning. And I was like, oh wow, that was like 7:45. And I think I already had, you know, the kids putting them down to bed. But I am militant about my sleep. Like if I do not get my sleep, I'm not a happy person. So I need, I need at least eight hours of sleep.

Yeah.

So I'm in bed by 9 and then again up by like 5. Right now more like 5:45. So if I can take 8 hours and 45 minutes, I'll take it.

And do you set an alarm to get up or do you just get up?

So it's interesting. I set an alarm. I do set an alarm, but by the time the alarm is going off, I'm already like waking up. I can, I'm a very vivid dream sleeper. So I always remember my dreams and by the time I get to that point where my alarm clock is going to go off, I'm already like waking up out of that dream to the point where I like remember it, but I'm like waking up and ready to go.

Okay, do you have a system for food prep and meals and how? Because this is another big question that comes up with my women and I talk to them about prepping their, you know, their fridge and how, how we do that and how to make this. But that's another question that comes up around time and how they do it. So do you have a system that you figured out works?

Yeah. So the one thing that is, was and is now very, very helpful to me is planning it out ahead of time again. Like, I have a little laminated piece of paper that just says Monday through Friday on it. And I'll go through like Instagram and I'll find meals that I want to try or ones that I love that I found and I'll say, you know, Monday is a Taco bowl or Tuesday is something, you know, and they're easy. So when I cook, because I'm not the chef, my husband is, it has to check three boxes. It has to be easy, which for me is like, it can't be an overly complicated meal. It has to be healthy, and it has to be an easy cleanup. So it has to check those three boxes. So anytime I think I've even shared a few with you, where they're like a sheet pan meal or like an air fryer or just something that's healthy, easy and fast. Because I don't have time anything more than 30 minutes. Even like the crock pot, you know, like the. What do they call it? Like, the slow cooker. Like that. Love those meals because I can literally dump it in, just set it for six to eight hours, and then it's ready by dinner time.

Wow. Okay. That's better than, like, what a lot of us do at 5:30. We're like, what's for dinner?

I mean, I have that too, but I feel like I have my rotation of, like, my go to's.

Yeah.

No.

How does it work with your boys in this structure? And have they. Do they kind of rebel? Do they like it? Tell us what you've learned about that with kids.

Kids, yeah. So they're four and seven. And it's so funny because I feel like they've fallen into the category where they thrive off of the structure, like, even to the point where it'll be summertime when we're more lax with the schedule. And they're like, mom, what's our schedule today? Like, what are we doing today? You know, so. But they enjoy, like, knowing what's coming, what they're doing, because again, like, they. They want to know, like, is it a playdate? Is it a golf day? Is it a taekwondo day? So I've been see that, at least for now, they are enjoying the structure.

Tell us about the contest you did. Not the fitness contest, but the one you did before, you did a pageant. And where did that come from? And how did you work?

I don't know if you can see there's a crown there. There's a headshot photo here.

I can see it.

So I competed in Mrs. International, first time ever. And a lot of people said to me, like, why, like, why did you want to compete? It was such, like, an out of the box thing to do. Like, why would you want to compete? And my answer to that is, why not? Like, if you're. For me, like, always trying to, like, get to that next level personally, professionally, in the relationship with my family. Like, I want to push myself to see what I'm capable of. So I took the title first of Mrs. Florida International. Hired a coach. Because if you're going to do anything and you've never done it before, you better align with somebody who's done it and can help, you know, show you the way. So I hired a coach, and then I went to nationals. This was in 2022, 2023, and one. My first time ever pageant, Mrs. International. And so for a year, was the representative so wild.

I'm like, how do I have two friends that you did this? And then Natalie Min, who's one of my best friends, did it.

Yes.

Okay. The commonalities. Our friend Natalia. I'm like, is.

I was like, did they just want.

To do a contest, or was it my friend that's friends with both of you? Because I was like, how do I know two people that are. Especially Natalie, My other friend Natalie. And she said that you helped her with it along the way. Yeah.

And I think. I think that the common thread, too, is, like, between all of us, is, like, women who are ambitious and go for it, because there's a difference between, like, okay, I just want to, like, get up and have. Get through the day and, you know, just get through it. But then there's also the other option, which is like, I'm gonna. I mean, my book is called slay your day.

Okay.

So that's like, the book. The. The brand business. So, like, I'm not trying to just get through a day. I want to be in control of my day, and that's the people I'm surrounding myself with. And I don't think it's any. Like, the fact that you and Natalie and Natalia, like, you, all of us combined, have done shows and pageants and fitness competitions. Like, that is a mindset.

Well, I would say I don't see myself doing that now, but, yes, I did. In my early 20s, I did a fitness competition, but. But even then, I struggled with, like, what the organization, because, well, we're all wired so different. Right? We all have different DNA. We're all wired so different. For me, personally, like, I will get everything done, but do I get it done in the most efficient, productive way? Probably not. No. I'm pretty clear that I could be a lot more efficient, but I always get things done. I don't miss deadlines. I don't miss.

Right.

But I do good enough. What I notice with you is you don't just do good Enough like, you. You slay it like your book. Like, you literally, like, you slay it. So that's a big reason I wanted to interview. I'm like, I just wanted to get in your mind and go, how does that. Are you born with it? Do you create it? Like, it's so wild to listen to you Help us with some other, like, kind of practical tips. I know you see a lot of clients. So, like, what are, like, the common themes that come up and where have you. You been able to make the biggest dent with people?

Yeah. So a lot of my ladies in my programs and my academy, my coaching clients, they are at a point where they feel so overwhelmed. Like, they're like, I'm running a business, and I have my kids and I. And I have my own goals and ambitions, but I just don't know, like, what's the first place that I start? And I think the harder thing is, like, getting started once you have that momentum going, that's much easier than just starting from square one. So for anyone that's listening and you're like, I do, like, I would love to go. And for you, it could be start a podcast, write a book. Like, whatever the goal is, right? Like, we can achieve it. And the great thing is this is the beginning of the year. We are, like, so, yeah, we're, like, in a fresh, you know, month and season and year, like, all of it. So there's so much that's possible. I was talking to my. A woman that I'm co hosting my event with, and I'm like, I cannot believe it's still January. Like, this month.

Yeah.

Feels like it's been, like, forever long, but I can't believe it's still just the first month of the year. So, again, for a lot of these ladies, just starting is the hardest part. So I would just say pick. Pick one area that you want to, like, hone in on that you want to hone in on that you want to just kind of test the waters out and see. Like, maybe you want to get up a little bit earlier and do your workout, or maybe you want to, like, pull out a little bit of being plugged into social media and, like, like, on the business thing 24 7, so you can have some. Some personal time or some time with your family. So, like, don't. I think the biggest misconception is trying to do it all at once. Like, that's the opposite of what I. I teach my ladies. Like, don't try and pick 5, 10 goals or things to do. Like, a To do list, focus on one thing at a time, because you start to pile things on. That's when it becomes overwhelming. And you're like, I'm done.

I'm seeing a distinction here, so I want to kind of point it out. So goal achievement, to me, even if you're not completely organized, anyone can achieve a goal, right? So you take a goal and you break it down into steps. And I teach that too. Like, how to take one big goal and break it down in steps and make it happen. Where I feel like this distinction is, that's different that I'm so, like, leaning into. What you're saying is you're not just achieving one goal. You've, like, mastered your day. So you don't go to sleep feeling behind or overwhelmed, and you don't wake up feeling overwhelmed before the day even started. So that's a big distinction. I don't even know if you noticed that, but it's like, this is a big dividing line here, where one of biggest things I hear from midlife women is that the word overwhelm, over. And then what happens in midlife is you add things like brain fog and aging, and so now you've got ailments. There's all these things get compounded. So that word overwhelm comes up a lot. So what happens, especially with midlife women, is they start turning to wine or to, like, we turn to things to shut that off. So what I'm looking for while I'm talking to you here is less the goal achievement part, but, like, what are these little things we can add into our day so, like, we can drop that overwhelm? So what I'm hearing from you is one the night before, getting really clear the night before on what is important to me tomorrow, like, what has to happen tomorrow. That's the first thing I heard. The second thing I heard is having strong boundaries. So, like, you don't look at your phone or your email after 4, so being really, like, regimented there. And then the third thing I heard was really planning in advance. So, like, looking at your year and going, okay, what. What's the important focus or focuses this year? How do we actually get these on the calendar? And then the next thing I heard from you was being really good about systems and delegating. So you mentioned a few things. You said, like your team. You mentioned you have your parents to help. So if you didn't have your parents to help, I'm assuming you would have found somebody to help. Like, you're. That's an important Thing. What am I missing here? Those are like, kind of the main themes I heard.

Yeah. Well, you actually just mentioned something that I haven't talked about, but is a huge, huge, huge part of this whole puzzle piece, which is. So we talked about the sleep, right? Like, I get my eight hours of sleep, for sure. This is going to sound crazy to a lot of people, but just hear me out here. I don't drink. Like, for me.

Yeah.

Wine, alcohol, I. Look, I had that season of my life. Sure. It takes me off, like 100% of my focus. If I am off even 1% in my body. Like, if I have one drink of.

Yeah, me too.

I'm the same way.

It's our DNA.

I will feel. Yes, I will feel horrible the next day. My husband can drink and drink and literally wake up and be ready to run a marathon. Yeah, I will have one drink and be done for the next day.

That's how I am.

So for the past two years, I would say I have cut alcohol completely out of my diet and I've been really, really focusing on the things that fuel me. So, for example. And you kind of touched on this. But, like, what? I'm fueling my body with not just food, but also, like, my supplements. So the supplements that I'm taking. Because even when I was postpartum, I remember consulting a mutual friend that we have, and he was like, you need to get this supplement out of your. Which was a folic acid out of your diet.

Me too. Yeah.

Yes. And I have that. So understanding, like, just the. I guess it's the psychology, but it's also like the anatomy of, like, how my body works and what works for me and doesn't work for me is a huge part of that success. Because I'm working with my body, not against it.

Yeah. I love that advice. What I know somebody listening is thinking, so I'm just going to ask because I don't know, really, the full answer to this is. People get very defensive of their alcohol. And I'll tell you why. And I'm not a drinker, but I actually let women, when they're doing my program still keep it in. Because I feel like if I take it away, it's this big combative, like, argument, but no disagreement that we're healthier without it. No disagreement that we. It's not helping us. What a lot of women will say is if they don't have that thing to unwind, they feel they're worse off. So is there any thought you would give them other than just the Knowledge of. It's not great for us.

Like. Right.

What would you tell them to do instead?

Yeah. So for me, my vice, it's not drinking, but it's working out. So for me, like, if I am feeling anxious, if I'm. Even if I'm feeling tired, like I. The working out, like going for a walk, it could be. It doesn't have to be like a big, you know, weight training session. That is my thing that I can now go to as the vice that I can lean on. That for me helps with that level of productivity and just quality of life. It's not even about productivity, it's about quality of life. So I would say find something that you can, can not like just take it out, but replace it with. So even if it's, you know, I'm taking it out, like, there's going to be a void there. So if, if you can replace it with something else, you're not going to feel like, oh my gosh, I just completely took something out of my life that I can lean on. Find something that's going to help to assist you there that's going to support that better quality of.

That's great advice. I'll tell you for those wondering what I do because my brain is like all the time, I wake up like that and I go to bed. So what I do, what's really helped me is shutting down blue light. So really being religious about blue blockers at night and not. And shutting that down. There is a supplement and I don't have a specific brand. If anyone's going to be like, what's the brand I do rely on for me to shut the noise off. For me, this might not work for everyone, but I do CBD oil because it does shut it off. And I have had to be careful to not do too much. In fact, I went and had a. I had a spa day this weekend massage and I just wanted to shut my brain off because in the middle of like launching stuff and it was a lot, so I didn't read the label. And instead of taking one dropper like you should, I took probably like 15 droppers. I mean, I had a great massage, but yeah, it was a little too much, so you got to be careful. But it does kind of shut off that noise and relax you without it having the alcohol effect.

So, yeah, I mean, look, it's. If you can find that thing that works for you, do it, you know. But I would say just look at what the outcome is going to be and the reason why I. And I Never had a problem with alcohol. Like, I. As a matter of fact, I never feel like I even really enjoyed it. Like, I did it because I was like, it's going to make me feel. Feel a certain way. But I didn't, like, ever really. The taste. Maybe like a. An espresso martini. Okay, I like that. But with, you know, kind of the. The effect of it. That was the thing where I was like, this is not contributing. I live on such a crazy level of just of optimal high performance. Why would I put something into my body that's going to take me off of that and not contribute to that lifestyle that I'm, you know, looking for every single day? And again, maybe like, I just thought it started doing sauna, like doing sauna, you know, once a week. And. And that's, you know, cold, plunging or whatever. There's so many different modalities now that you can tap into that are really, really good for you. And that can be, you know, maybe just a switch. Try it out. Try a few of them out.

So good.

I love this.

Like I said, I want to be you when I grow up. I want to learn. I need to listen. I've not even listened to your or read your book. That's like, next on my list.

Okay, I'm gonna send it to you. I'll send you a couple copies.

So I need to do that.

Your listeners, you can, can. You can give it to them too.

Yes. That's amazing. And then. Okay, so just real quick before we kind of like, I want to make sure people know, where do they find you? What's the best book for them to get? Like, how do they learn more? I'm sure you're gonna have a lot of stalkers now that want to learn how to be in your brain. This is awesome.

So my book and my podcast and YouTube is all Slayer Day. You can find me on Instagram at Sandy Glance. It's Sandy with an I, so S A N D I glance. And yeah, I mean, I have a lot of different, just like free content that you can use to tap into, whether it's like a quiz or a big Money Moves download. You can find that on my Instagram. It's just, it's a way to start. Just finding the right place for you to start is going to be the best step because you don't want to overwhelm yourself. So if you head over to Instagram, you'll see a few different little freebies there and you can get started with something simple that you can incorporate every day.

So good. The next time I have you on Sandy, I'm going to interview all about your skincare and your makeup, because I. I'm not kidding, Sandy. You and our friend Natalia, you guys look like you're photoshopped in real life. I don't know how you use her.

Natalia. Because I use Katya. Love.

Oh, because you use her skincare. Okay. But you both, both of you like, you literally, they look. You look like you have a filter on, but in real life, it's wild. I. I've never met another human like that. Both of you. Both of you. So I need something.

Well, thank you.

Thank you so much.

Natalia and Katya. Love.

Yes. That's amazing. Thank you so much for being here today, Sandy. Than.