Blitzkreig!

Coming to you from the center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon. Welcome to Shrink for the shy guy Helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination with your host, Dr. Aziz.

Hey, welcome to today's episode of the show. Today is going to be about how you can massively shift and break through any fear or self doubt or anything that's stopping you. It's going to be an extremely inspiring story from one. It came out of one of the members in my mastermind program in a group call and it was so powerful and the results have been so fascinating that I wanted to share all this with you now. And it all begins with the blitzkrieg. So I'm going to tell you a little about what I mean there and how you can use it in your own life. If you'd like to jump into the conversation, go to shrinkforthshyguy.com, shrinkforthshy guy.com youm can send me a message. You can ask me questions there. You can leave me an audio message even with your questions or anything else you'd like to share. And please go to, as a favor to me, to itunes and give the show a great rating because the more ratings that this show gets, the more people that I can reach. And I would appreciate your support in my mission here. And if you benefited from these shows, that would be something that would really help me keep doing this and keep getting the word out there that no one has to stay stuck in fear, self doubt, shyness, social anxiety, that we can shift this and we can shift it faster than we think. And that's the purpose of today's episode. So do you know what a blitzkrieg is? You may remember it from like high school history or something like that, but blitzkrieg is the name that they gave the type of warfare that the Germans used in the beginning of World War II and throughout, throughout a number of battles in World War II. And it's also known as lightning warfare. The blitzkrieg was lighting warfare. So basically what the Germans did, it started with them invading Poland. And what they did is they took a massive overwhelming force of their troops and moved in fast. So it wasn't just a lot of troops and units. Like, they had a huge amount. They had like a couple thousand tanks or more. I think they had like more than a like 1.5 million soldiers. They had tons of massive army they'd built up. But they would use that army in a very specific way, in a blitzkrieg way, a lightning warfare way. So what they would do is they had these tanks, and instead of like having the tanks kind of follow along behind the troops, they would send the tanks ahead and have them just pierce right through the enemy's defenses and just keep going and wreak havoc behind the enemy lines. Then they take their, their airplanes that are part. I love the name of this. The name of their air force was called the Luftwaffe. The Luftwaffe. And they would do a couple things. They demolish the entire Polish air force in two days. And they would also bomb supply chains and reinforcements so their opponents couldn't even bring troops to replenish or to support or supplies. So needless to say, they defeated Poland. I think it was like a month, something super fast, where they defeated Poland, and it was a big deal. And then they went on to use that in France and other places. So they, it was a big part of how Germany expanded so quickly and, you know, what led to World War II, basically. So this is. How is this relevant, Aziz? How is this relevant to social anxiety and confidence? Well, here's how. Because we were in a group call in my mastermind. I have a mastermind program. You might have heard of it. It's called the Unstoppable Mastermind program. It is awesome. It's one of my favorite ways that I work with people and people that are in the program. We do calls each week on the phone and go deep and spend a long. People are in the program for a year or more. Sometimes they re up for a second year. And we also they come to weekends, all my weekend events, and they're just immersed in this stuff and they grow fast. I love watching it. In any case, there was a guy in the group. I'm not going to share his name just for his own sake. We'll just call him Jeremy, although that's not his name. But Jeremy in the group was struggling in his career, and it was a confidence issue. Right. He didn't know what he wanted to do. He didn't progress in the way that he wanted. He wanted to be more accomplished. He wanted to earn more. He wanted to be of a higher level of success. He wanted to be more of a leader, but he just couldn't get there. And about four months prior to this call, the blitzkrieg call, he was on another call. This is four months ago, four months earlier in the group, and he was on the call. And he had an opportunity to network with some people in his industry and meet some people who are doing the kind of work that he wants to move into, have the kind of businesses that he Would want to have, earn the kind of money that he would want to earn. And he got their names and he was going to reach out to them. And we talked about it in a group call and got some ideas from me and other group members about how he might approach them and what he might say and how to do it in a way that's going to be effective. And he was scared and he didn't do it. And then time went on and I forgot about it and I didn't, you know, I wasn't keeping tabs on if he did it or not after that first couple weeks. And he kind of put it on the down low and didn't talk about it in the group. And then four months later, he's talking about how he's dissatisfied in his career. He's dissatisfied. He's not making enough progress in this area. He's sick and tired of it. I said, well, did I remember? I remember that we talked about this. Did you. Did you go reach out to those people? No. Still had their numbers and their names. I don't want to. I'm scared. It's gonna be. I don't know. And it was that state that night, his emotional state, that led to the invention of blitzkrieg. No, not the invention of blitzkrieg. The invention of this version of blitzkrieg, which I'm going to share with you. And it was life changing for him. So stay tuned. We'll be right back right after this. Thanks for sitting through the history lesson. Now we're going to learn how Jeremy used blitzkrieg to transform his career path and his life. Stay tuned right after this.

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So welcome back. So it was in the call and he's kind of like, oh, I don't know. I'm a little scared. It's hard. I don't want to. And then we talked about the importance of it, that, you know, this is how he's gonna get to where he wants to go. And he's like, okay, well, I'll try to reach out to them this week. And that's how he said it. I'll try it with a sigh like, okay, I'll try To reach out to them this week. And I said, okay, let's hear from the rest of the group in a moment. I want you to everyone in the group who's on the call, and there's a maximum of 10 people on the call. I want everyone to call out a number from 0 to 10, where 10 is how likely you guys think that Jeremy is going to do this. Ten being absolutely certain. It's totally certain. It's virtually done. And zero is no way in hell he's going to do it this week. He's going to reach out to these people. Let's give a number. Shout it out. And then people shout it out. They're like, you know, the number was like, 3, 5, 2, 4, 8. It was all below 5. Everyone could hear it in his voice. And I was like, what number would you give it, Jeremy? And he's like, yeah, shit, you know, it's low, man. I don't want to. It's hard. It's scary. And he kind of went on his jag again about how hard and scary and doesn't want to and he's frustrated and so on and so forth. And then we worked on how can you resolve with more certainty, like, and you don't have to do this, man. So I told him, like, you don't have to do this. I'm not saying this is. You have to go reach out to these people. I'm just reflecting back that you say you want to make a shift in your career, that you want to have the confidence to go after what you want to meet people, to reach out to them, to connect, but you're not doing it, so you don't have to. Do you want to? He's like, yeah, I want to. I was like, well, then you got to commit. So say it in a way where you commit to it. And he said, all right, I am going to reach out to those people sometime in this week, and I'll reach out to a couple of them and I'll try to get a hold of them and blah, blah, blah. And it was like a little, you know, there's more. I think I rated it and other people rated it as like a five or a seven or maybe a five or a six. Like, yeah, you know, there's still a lot of, like, I'll try and I'll sound vagaries. Like, I'll reach out to some of those people. I was like, dude, here is how shit gets done. We say with complete conviction in our voice, by next Wednesday, I will have reached out I will have sent an email or I will left a voicemail to three people that are potential connections for my career. So you have a time by this date, and you have a number, these three, and that you could use that with anything. By next Saturday, I will have approached five people that I find attractive. For example. So he said it, and he was saying it for one person, though. He's like, by next, you know, Wednesday, I will have reached out to this person, and I was like, great. And it sounded more certain, and everyone gave it a high number. You know, eight, nines, tens. It's like, great. I was like, you know what, though, man? This is like, maybe you'll pull it off. But it's hard. The first one is the hardest. You need to. And then the word blitzkrieg came into my mind, and I don't know why. I'm not like a world war, despite my, you know, reciting of World War II statistics there. That was just some shit. I watched some YouTube videos afterwards because I became so fascinated by the term, but I was. The name came into my mind. Blitzkrieg. I was like, you don't. You don't want to just approach one person, dude. Jeremy, you need to blitzkrieg. He's like, what? I was like, you need to blitzkrieg a strong, powerful, decisive attack where you storm across enemy lines and you explode through the defenses. Now, this isn't encouraging some sort of warfare, right? This is exploding through your own defenses. And guess what? The first one is the hardest one. So you can battle and get all that energy and commitment and, okay, I'm gonna do it. And then, ugh, call that one person and get a voicemail and be like, ugh, whew, I'm done. And, yes, you'll have taken one step. Is that gonna transform your life, though? Probably not, because guess what? You're not just gonna take one step. You don't need to take just five steps. You need to take 500 steps. And blitzkrieg is the answer to that. So you take massive, bold, powerful, excessive action, excessive force. So what would that look like in this situation? I asked him, and he said, I don't. I don't. I'm reaching out to five people. And I said, yes, that's more like it. That's more like a blitzkrieg instead of saying, oh, you know, because the first one's the hardest one. Don't just stop with one. I'm gonna reach out to five people by next Wednesday. You know, I used to do this when I would go out and do friendly greetings, or I was just scared to look people in the eye and say hi to them. And instead of going out and saying hi to three people, I would say, I'm gonna go say hi to 50 fucking people. And I would just walk up and down the streets of San Francisco saying hi to people. Or you go out and say, okay, I'm gonna work up the courage to talk to one person that I find attractive, One woman that I find attractive, one man that I think is handsome. Ah, it's a lot of work, and the first one's the hardest one. But if you say, I'm gonna go talk to 10 people that I find attractive tonight, Holy cow. That's a blitzkrieg. That's how you get power. That's how you get momentum. That's how you radically shift things in your life quickly. And that is exactly what Jeremy did. He blitzkriegged. And he told us about it. He said, I'm doing it. He made a commitment. He posted. We have a private Facebook group where guys can post their progress or challenges or updates or share books they like or whatever. And he posted in there that he was doing it. He was gonna get this done, he was gonna shift that. And he took those actions. He kept us posted, and he did it. And what's fascinating is what came about as a result and the results that he got short term and long term from doing this. And I'm gonna share those in a minute. We're gonna take a quick break, and I'll share those. But before we do, I want you to think about in your life, do you blitzkrieg? Are you doing it, or are you kind of just slowly paddling along? Maybe I'll get that. I'll reach out to that one person. Not this week, though. Maybe next week. And then your life is like molasses and shit. Changes really slowly. And then you develop a story that says, change takes forever, and I'm never gonna get there, and I can't anyway. You can shift at all when you blitzkrieg. We're gonna take a quick break, and I'm gonna share the results that he got from the blitzkrieg right after this.

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Welcome back. So, like Germany's victory over Poland, Jeremy had a powerful, swift victory over his own fears and doubts when he finally decided to blitzki. Remember, this is months of kind of maybe sort of wanna on the fence. And then in one week, he reached out to five different people and had a fascinating series of events. One was that a couple people didn't get back to him. And that's to be expected. And that's part of the process. It's rejection tolerance. You're not going to get a yes from everybody in every area. That's ridiculous. So it's rejection tolerance. He learned that he could handle it. He had one person that he reached out to was someone who had interviewed him for a job and told him no. But he reached out to them because he wanted to, you know, they were a great connection in his industry and he wanted to see if they could, he could build a relationship with them. And he ended up talking to this person for two hours. And she shared tons of insights as to how he could have landed the job better in the interview, gave him some great feedback, really wanted to support him, and then introduced him to some like, bigwig in their industry that's like, oh, you should know this person and you know, that can open up all kinds of doors for you. She really liked him and wanted to help him, all because he reached out to her. In addition, I think this was a couple weeks later, actually. So as a result, you know, he reached out, but he kept the blitzkrieg energy going. And in addition, he wanted to apply for this job, you know, because he was taking massive action to get control of this area of his life. He was sick and tired of it. He was blitzkrieging. And he goes and he applies for someplace, doesn't hear back within like a week and he finds out where it is and, and he shows up there and knocks on the door and it's like, hi, I'm, you know, Jeremy. I applied for this position. I haven't heard anything back. I just wanted to follow up. They invited him in, they talked to him for 30 minutes, offer him the job on the spot. And they even commented. The person interviewing him even commented and said, wow, no one has ever done this. It's really impressive that you showed up in this way. It's taken a lot of initiative. It's blitzkrieg, baby. And then this is the part that makes me smile on the way out of the job interview. This is like from a movie or something. On the way out of landing the job through sheer, you know, obviously he's talented and qualified, but the only reason he probably got that immediate response was sheer boldness. As he's walking out, knows he's a baller, he's walking out and he sees a beautiful woman. And this is a guy that, if you've known him, man, before this blitzkrieg, one of his biggest things was he approached women and dating just like he approached career. I kind of want to talk to her, but I'm scared I'll maybe sort of work up the energy to do it once in a blue moon. But everything has shifted for him. So he's walking out of the interview, sees this woman, walks right over to her, she's like inter gaging with like several other people. He's still in the workplace environment, engages with several other people and just starts talking to her. Hey, you know, you work here too. What's your name? Oh, great. You know, I'm gonna be starting to work here and I just wanted to, you know, start asking her about the environment, what she liked, and he says she'd like turn and talk to me for like 15 minutes. And, you know, stopped doing her work duties to chat with me. I think I might even got her number. I don't remember at this point. I think he got her number too. Anyway, it was just like night and day difference. And it all came from that decision to not just kind of do it, but to fucking blitzkrieg. To do it over the top, to do it excessive. And that's what we wanna do. That's how we make massive shifts. That's if you're wondering how I went from being really stuck and full of social anxiety to being way more confident and being able to do this and talk and speak in front of groups and approach any woman and talk to anyone and do all kinds of things that used to scare the shit out of me. It was not just from kinda slowly working on it. Maybe it was from fucking blitzkrieging it. That's how you make those massive shifts quickly. And that brings us to your action step.

Time for action.

Your action step for today is to blitzkrieg. So you probably saw that one coming, right? But it's to do that is to find one area. Maybe it's your career, maybe it's your dating life, maybe it's your friendship, maybe it's something where you're going to not just kind of work up the courage to do it. Maybe once. And in three weeks, it's doing it, you know, setting a time, setting a commitment by X date, you know, preferably like a couple days or a week out. So it's very close. I'm going to do this blank this many times. Make it something that scares you. I'm gonna go say hi to 50 people three times. I'm gonna go out and say hi to people, you know, 50 different people. That's once. And then I'm gonna go out for three outings of that. By next Saturday, I am going to approach 10 people that I find attractive in the next 10 days, I'm going to one guy in the group set up this challenge. I'm gonna do four bold things a day. That's a lot of bold things. That's what I said. I said that's a lot of bold things. Right? So whatever it is for you, you gotta set that and you gotta blitzkrieg it and take massive, powerful, radical action. And when you do that, I mean, this is the best part. I wanted to share this earlier, but I forgot I'm gonna share it now. When I asked him, I said, jeremy, when you think about reaching out to people in your industry to contact them, how do you feel now? Is it scary? And he's like, not really. I mean, it's a little. I feel a little scared, a little nervous, but nothing like what it was. I said, damn right. That's the power of this. And this is true for anything that we're scared of. We take massive action, we face it, we completely shift it. We completely shift our fear of it and our relationship to it and any other story that says that's not gonna work for me. That's not possible. All I can't do that is probably a cover, a distraction to prevent you from taking action, and that's exactly what you want to do. Awesome. Thank you for being with me today. I'm curious. I'd love to hear about your blitzkriegs. Share them at shrinkfortheshyguy.com you can also go to facebook.com SocialConfidence facebook.com SocialConfidence to post, share, and follow all the different happenings, including the podcast episodes. So thanks for being with me today, and until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. I'll talk to you soon.

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