Bold Confidence Confront The Issue, Solve The Problem | Dr. Aziz - Confidence Coach

Would you like to know one simple phrase that can help you rapidly build confidence? And not just once or twice, but continually. Imagine if your confidence didn't go up and down and up and down and up and down, or just continually down, but it went up and then up and then up and then up in a never ending cycle of increasing confidence, what would that do? If your life, what would that allow you to create, to experience and to feel? If you're excited about that, watch this video. Welcome to another episode of the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. I'm your host, Dr. Aziz, and this is the show for you. If you want to maximize your confidence in every area of life that matters, your social life, your dating and relationships, your career, your finances, even your health, everything comes back to confidence and how much you believe in yourself. Confidence is a doorway to all success in all areas of life. And if you're enjoying these videos and this video and you want to find out more and just keep getting more and learning more and growing more, click, subscribe, because I got tons of great stuff coming out. And let's dive into one simple phrase that you can use to massively increase your confidence exponentially and forever. It can keep going up. Here's what it is. You ready? Confront the issue. Solve the problem. Confront the issue. Solve the problem. Now, in the last video I talked about how learned helplessness, and you know, that's a situation where like, well, there's nothing I can do. I'm just helpless. And we've learned to be that way in a certain area. And I said in that video a really powerful phrase which is every problem has a solution. Every problem has a solution. And that's true. Every problem has a solution. Now this phrase, this video is confront the issue, solve the problem. And here's how you can use this to massively increase your confidence. Because if you think about it, any area where you are struggling to have the confidence that you want to get the results that you want, there is a problem there, right? There's an issue there, isn't there? So you have a challenge with an employee, you have a client or a customer, you have a challenge with a boss or a supervisor. You have a challenge in your health, you have a challenge in your dating life. You don't have the options that you want. You feel social anxiety. That's a problem, isn't it? That's an issue. So what we want to do is we want to confront the issue. Now, this is different than what many people do, and this is what I unfortunately did for many years. Which is we avoid the issue. We avoid the issue. So I had tons of social anxiety and instead of confronting the issue, I played tons of video games, smoked pot. It was pretty fun. But it was extremely limited too. It was fun while I was doing it, but I didn't have a love life. I didn't have a sense of career, I didn't have a sense of direction. I didn't feel any sense of power, social power, personal power. I felt inferior all the time to other guys. I couldn't speak up in groups. So extremely limited in life. I was not confronting the issue. I was sometimes worrying about the issue, sometimes telling myself I was doomed and kind of feeling sorry for myself about the issue. That's not confronting the issue. That's just like rolling around and ruminating in it. No, I'm talking about confront the issue. I have social anxiety. I get angry all the time. I feel depressed and dissatisfied in my life. I don't like my boss. I have no idea how to manage that co worker or that employee. I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to sales. I don't know how to handle this. That's confronting the issue, not dancing around it, not pretending like it's not happening. Confront the issue now before we go any further, just that first part of the sentence, confront the issue. That's going to start building your confidence. You know why? Because when we turn and run from something and we hide from something, we drain our confidence, we drain our self esteem. Because on some level we're sending a message to our subconscious mind that's saying, I can't handle that, I can't handle this. And when we tell ourselves we can't handle it, we start to feel more fear and we feel less confident. Versus when you have the story and the identity. I can handle anything that happens in my life. I can handle anything that happens in my life. You feel a lot more confident and you are a lot more confident and you are a lot more powerful. So that's the first part. Confront the issue. What's the second part? Solve the problem. Confront the issue. Solve the problem. So now I'm going to go in, I'm going to figure out what the problems are and I'm going to solve them. So I have social anxiety. What's the solution to that problem? I don't know how to manage people. What's the solution to that problem? I get angry. What's the solution to chronic anger? What's the solution to chronic pain? Now where do we find these solutions? I Mean they're out there right now. Here's the thing. When we get resourceful like this. Yes, they're everywhere. And when to not see them, we have to have this going on. There's no solution. I'm just totally helpless. There's no way I can get out of this. I've tried. What? Tried everything. And that's what make sure my eyebrows are not ruffled. I've tried everything. Is that really true? Absolutely. Absolutely not. Look at this. This is just a small fraction, a tiny fraction. In fact, these days I almost never even buy paper books. You know why? Because freaking audible baby. Everything is audiobook and you can listen to it on double time. It's amazing. 1.5. If it's dense, it gives me. It's like brain jarring if it's too fast, but just taking in information like crazy. Every problem has a solution books. And if books aren't enough, which they depending upon the problem. If it's a minor problem, books are great. If it's a more major problem, you got to go further. You got to invest in further study. Now for me, that was tons of coaching that I've done. A big recipient. I've learned from tons of teachers. I am constantly investing in myself and, and mentorship and training and coaching so I can confront the issue and solve the problem. I don't know how to do that well, let me learn from someone. I don't know how to do that well, let me learn from someone. And when you do that, you start to get this never ending increase in your confidence as you confront each issue and solve that problem. You get to a higher level problem, you get to a higher level problem and you get to better and better and better experiences in your life. So you can do this too. Confront the issue, solve the problem. If one of your problems is social anxiety in any form, you're inhibited, you're shy, you're held back, you can't go talk to people. You don't have the social life you want. It's affecting your dating, your relationships, your career, any form of that. The best solution in my opinion. I have a book called the Solution of Social Anxiety. But even better than that, and I think honestly more effective than that is my full scale involved program Confidence University. Because that's taking like a book that there's no accountability, you're just kind of reading it by yourself and maybe doing it maybe not to an interactive program where you're guided step by step, day by day on exactly what to do. And there's assignments there's interactivity, There's a group, There's a whole bunch of people that are with you, helping you along the way, including coaches and myself and calls and everything we can do to help you. And it's extremely accessible. I designed something that I was like, I want to be able to help anyone. I don't want money to be the object that stops people from having the life that they want. So I created this program, Confidence University, and you can find out more about it. Just go to Confidence University, Confidence University, and find everything about the program, how it works, and it's extremely accessible because I want what stops you to not be money or an excuse. I want you to realize, like, oh, I could choose to do that, but I'm not. And then it's on you. And eventually, I think you will choose like, I'm gonna solve this problem. Confront the issue. Solve the problem. Start doing that in your life today. Share below how you're doing that, what you're gonna do that is what's the issue you're gonna confront? What's the problem that you're gonna solve? And then can you do it today? I would say yes. And if it's something that for some reason, logistically can't happen today, well, this week, can you schedule it? Can you figure it out? Can you start working on it right away? Because we want to do this as fast as possible. Confront the issue as soon as we see it, solve the problem. The faster you do that, the faster your confidence is going to grow and the faster your life is going to become magnificent. So until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.