Do You Practice This Negative Confidence Habit?

Do you have a habit of saying no to yourself? You know, a lot of people that I talk to and work with have a hard time saying no when it comes to others. People have requests for them. People at work want something from them, family members, friends, anyone, really. And there's a general veering towards yes, like, okay, if you want that. Accommodating people. I want to be responsive, I want to be generous, I want to be kind. I don't want to be too selfish. I got to be nice. And so we end up taking on a lot and, and having a hard time saying no, being afraid to say no with others. But, you know, at the same time, I'll ask people like, you know, is it easy for you to say no some places? And I might say, like, no, no, it's hard for me. I don't. It's really uncomfortable to say no. I said, well, my guess is that you're actually saying no a lot. And you're doing it really easily and really frequently. In fact, you're doing it so much not even thinking about it. And let's say, like, where, where am I doing that? Like, well, how about with yourself? You know, how much are you saying no to yourself? No to what you want, no to, you know, a sense of possibility of what you could do or could create, know, to, you know, does that person want to spend time with me? Can I ask that person out? You know, can I ask my spouse for this thing? You're just perpetually, I'm guessing, check in with yourself if that's true. Do you say no to yourself a lot? And if so, what's going on there? Let's just bring a little bit of attention to that. That's the purpose of this video, is to have you just notice a pattern that's usually running in the background. And, you know, what's the story? There's, is it I'm a kind person or oh, I don't want to be too much or I'm not selfish, or I'm not this or I'm not that. And underneath you're just saying no to yourself again and again. And you know, there's a term for that in psychology and it's called self denying. And that's where, yeah, you know, you're not selfish and bad and one of those people, but at the same time, you're not really thriving. You're not really nourishing yourself, not really giving what you want. Because the truth is, life is about exchange and transfer of love and energy and back and forth, right so if you're always saying no, no, no, or regularly saying no to yourself, then you're not filling up, you're not getting charged. How do you have more to give if you're not able to receive for yourself? So that's my invitation for you for this week, is to look for opportunities to receive. To receive more willingly, to receive more openly, to receive more with less friction and resistance. Just like, okay, you know, and that's receiving from others. But also like, maybe you're like, hey, you know what I want to do today? I want to go do this thing, or I'm going to, you know, go check out that new program or do that thing online or, you know, just take an hour to be by myself. If you got a family or whatever, just take some time for yourself. So find that. Look for that. Say yes to yourself. Give yourself something. Give your, you know, listen to you and your own needs. It's powerful. And then, you know, you just might start making a habit of it. So thanks for being with me today. Until you speak again. Till we speak again. Till someone's speaking again. Remember that you are awesome and to be who you are. Because when you are being who you are, you're bringing something of great value to the world. And that's just not like a catchy sign off or something. That's. That's true. So you can really ponder that as well. Like, the more you are bringing you out in the world, the more others benefit. All right, talk soon.