Get More Confidence Fast! (3 Secrets From The Mountain)

Do you want more confidence fast? Of course you want more confidence. That's why you're watching this channel. Who wouldn't benefit from more confidence in our lives? But fast. How do we increase our confidence quickly? And I want to share three lessons from the mountain, that mountain right over there. So I'm in Sun Valley, Idaho, and I had an opportunity to snowboard on that mountain a number of times in the last week. I've been attending a training on finances, investing, and in the morning we would go snowboarding. And so I hadn't snowboarded in 15 years, and I went out there and started to pick it back up again. Amazing how much my body could remember. But there are three lessons from snowboarding. I was like, this is exactly. This is all confidence. So here's the first lesson, and this is for confidence, fast. So the first lesson is, when you are snowboarding, you need to lean. And you know this. If you ski or snowboard, you need to lean into the mountain. You need to lean down. Now, when you're going into something that's scary, what is the natural human impulse? Is it to lean into it? Not unless you've trained yourself or conditioned yourself. And if you've studied Confidence University, that's what we train you. How to do is to condition yourself, to lean in. But if you haven't done that, then the natural human impulse is to pull back. And when you pull back when you're snowboarding, what happens is your body gets tighter and. And you lose maneuverability and you actually are more likely to fall. So when there's something that's scary, something that feels like it's going too fast or, I don't know, I don't know if I have control here. What do you do? You lean in. Now, how does that translate to, say, a conversation confidence example? Well, let's say there's a group of people, three or four people, talking in a circle, and you want to go start a conversation with them, join right in. Now, if you lean in, that means you go towards the thing and you do it. Go into the thing that's uncomfortable. You will go faster in snowboarding, you will go faster in your life, you'll go faster in your networking and your friendship building, whatever it is. And if you pull back and you hesitate, you're not only going to not have those experiences, but you're also going to go slower and you're more likely to fall and be stuck or stressed or anxious. So that's the first one. Lean into it. Lean into it. And it's Counterintuitive. Your body wants to pull back. The second thing, and this was fascinating, is. Is that. So I started going on steeper runs. I started with the green stuff. Cause I hadn't done it in 15 years. And I started doing more steeper blue runs. And the first time I'd go down this steep blue run, it looked like, oh, my God, that's freaky. That's too steep. It's too scary. And so I'm tensing up my body and wants to pull back. I'm like, no, lean in. Lean in. And here's the thing. I did that run, and it was really scary and hard. And then I was like, you know what? I'm gonna do it again. I'm gonna do it again. I'm gonna do it again. I did it, like, five times in a row. It was a short run, and literally, my perception changed. So on the third or fourth time, it looked less steep, it looked less steep, it felt less steep, it was less steep. In my mind and my body and my perception now, did the mountain change anyway? Was the mountain face less steep? No. But I. My perception changed. So it's a beautiful example of gradual exposure, repetition, or conditioning or training. So if you do the thing that scares you again and again, it will become less scary. It will seem less steep. And I'm sure you've seen that in your life, right? There's something that you've done that maybe seems so hard or scary to do, and then you repeatedly did it, and all of a sudden it's like, oh, it's less steep. It's less scary. So it's the second lesson. The third lesson. My fingers are freezing right now. We got to get inside. The third lesson is when you fall, laugh. So I'm going down the mountain, and I didn't fall that much. I mean, when I used. When I first learned how to snowboard, it was like fall mania. So I was expecting that. No, I mean, I maybe fell, like, I don't know, five, six times over the course of three, three or four days of snowboarding. And one of them, I took a big tumble. And every single time I fell. Oh, my God. Every single time I fell, I laughed. I didn't have to force myself to laugh. It wasn't like I was making myself. I just. I don't know why. I just found it so funny. And even if it hurt, I just like, oh, my butt. And I laughed. And I thought, wow, what if when we fall in life, we laugh? I don't know if I'm Shaking. Maybe I'm shaking from the cold. Sorry if this video is all shaky. What if when we fall, we laugh? Now on the mountain, I naturally laughed. When someone rejects me or I get a failure or a setback or something's looking challenging, I need to train myself to laugh. And that's what I was doing. Our last live event we just did is having people imagine getting a rejection or a failure and then condition themselves to laugh and to celebrate. I know it seems weird and crazy, but if you do it enough, it really shifts how you respond to failure, criticism, rejection. So you get that negative email right when you open it, even before you start reading it too much, you just find out, oh, this is one of those emails. Oh, train yourself to go and laugh. And it's fake and it's forced. But if you do it enough, it will scramble your response to those rejections or setbacks. So those are three lessons from the mountain. 1. Lean in even when your body wants to lean back. The second one is if you do it enough, it becomes less steep. And number three is when you fall, laugh. So bring that into your life. Translate that into your confidence. Any activity, anything you're moving towards, anything you're progressing and want to face your fear in, it will serve you to thanks for being with me today. I'm gonna get in someplace warm cause my hands are freezing. I love you. You're awesome. Until we speak again, may I have the courage to be who you are and to know inside your heart and your core that you're awesome. By the way, Omos on My Own side is coming out very soon. Get on my email list if you're not already. Go to drz.coM-R-A z I z.com to get on my email list. You'll see about a special early release we're doing on Kindle. There's all kinds of cool stuff. That book is going to be powerful and life changing. I cannot wait till you're reading it and we'll talk soon.