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Dr. Aziz says you need to ask for more yeses and give more nos. State what you want, ask for preferences, set boundaries, decline requests. Notice moments of desire or discomfort and say them out loud across friends, partners, and work.
Dr. Aziz says you need to ask for more yeses and give more nos. State what you want, ask for preferences, set boundaries, decline requests. Notice moments of desire or discomfort and say them out loud across friends, partners, and work.
If you're too nice and you want to become more bold, confident, assertive, feel like you're in charge of your life again instead of just doing what everybody else wants for you, living in fear, then there are two things that you need to get one and give one. You need to get more yeses and you need to give more no's. What do I mean by that? Well, getting more yeses means you ask for what you wanted more, you've stated what you wanted more. And this doesn't have to be more complicated. And our mind wants to overcomplicate this, but it doesn't have to be that complex. You just listen in and notice when you have that sense of, ooh, I want that, or I don't like that. Can I have this instead? And that could be with a friend, partner in your sex life, at work, anywhere. Can I have more of this? Can we do that? I would prefer this. That's getting the yeses and giving more no's. Hey, I need you to do this. I'm not available for that. Hey, can you get this for me? How about this instead? So you're giving more no's and you're getting more yeses, and your life will transform.
