Dr. Aziz argues that guilt functions as a protective mechanism—a "shield" or "armoring"—used to avoid the discomfort of accepting that we will sometimes disappoint others. He challenges the idea that guilt reliably makes us "better tomorrow," and recommends allowing the inevitability of disappointing people as a path to diminishing guilt and gaining freedom.
If you often feel guilty, then you have to watch this video because guilt is not what you think. Guilt is actually a shield that you use to protect you or try to protect yourself in life. You might think that guilt about, I'm going to be a good person, I'm going to feel guilty because I didn't do that thing, or I shouldn't have said that thing, or I should have been more in that situation, and that's going to make me better for tomorrow. How long you been running that strategy? Like 10 years. Is it working? Right? No. So it's not really about that. It's actually an armoring. Because as long as I am in the illusion that tomorrow I want to be this perfect person and. And I'll never let anyone down and everyone's gonna be never upset with me, then you can be avoiding the discomfort of the fact that you're kind of going to always disappoint people. Not all the time, not every day, but sometimes in all your relationships. Sometimes people will be disappointed, Sometimes people will be upset with you. And the more you can be okay with that, the more you can just allow that to be, the more the guilt disappears and the more free you become.
