How A 5 Pound Weight = Unlimited Confidence | Dr. Aziz - Confidence Coach

Can lifting a five pound weight help you massively increase your confidence in every area of your life? Yes. The answer is yes. And in this short video, I'm going to share exactly how you can use this to master confidence in any area of your life. Your dating life, your business life, your social life, whatever matters most for you. Welcome to another episode of the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. I'm your host, Dr. Aziz. And in this episode we're going to talk about a five pound weight and how you can use that to master your confidence. So let me share, let me dive right into what I mean. We recently just had a live event and at the live event I was working with a participant there, student who wanted to, I mean, he wanted to approach women. He wanted to get more comfortable going deeper in his social life and with colleagues at work. And he's afraid to be real, afraid to be vulnerable, afraid to let his emotions out, afraid to express himself, just a lot of fear. And then his mind had lots of stories about how he couldn't do it and it was not possible. And when we uncovered what he was trying at home, it was the equivalent of a 70 pound weight. So when you go to the gym, you notice they have all the weights racked up, all the dumbbells, right? There's like the 5 pounds, maybe even less, maybe the 2 pounds, 5 pounds, 8 pounds, 10 pounds, 15, 20, 25, 30, blah, blah, blah, all the way to those jumbo weights, maybe even more, maybe they have like 90 pound ones, I don't know. But those 70 pound weights are like these massive things. And whenever I'm at the gym I'm like, who's throwing those around? I mean, there's got to be some people that use them, but I'm not using those. But that's what he's trying to do in his life. I want to go really express myself here and then share this and then approach that woman and then do this and then do that and he's not doing any of it. And I said, well, what about starting with a five pound weight? What's a five pound weight? I said, well, if you really want to create an extraordinary relationship with a woman, why don't you start by giving some women a compliment, Strangers you don't know as you walk by, Compliment her on something that's a five pound. Is that a five pound weight for you? I asked him and he said, yeah, I guess. Said, you don't seem so certain. He's like, well, it doesn't seem that hard. I said, well, that's the point. That's a five pound weight. And then he said this. And as I'm saying this, I bet you're thinking about what your 5 pound weight in whatever area you want to master in your business, your personal life, your dating life. Even if you're in an intimate relationship, we still got to be taking risks, being bold, to be more authentic and be more real, to deepen and sustain that connection. And he said, yeah, but what's the point? I mean, it's gonna be really easy. It's not gonna do anything for me. Have you ever told yourself that? And I know I have. So when I heard that, I just smiled and I said, are you sure? Are you sure it would be that easy? Because there's a lot of stuff where it sounds easy when we're in this room, but in about an hour or so, you're gonna have an opportunity. I do this at all my lab events. People have an opportunity to go out and try stuff out. I said, you're gonna have an opportunity in about an hour to go try this out. Is it still a five pound weight? He said, maybe it's a ten pound weight. I said, great, let's make it even easier. And he didn't like that because he's like. And you could see it on his face, he's like. And I was like, yeah, where are those 70 pound weights? I don't have time for this shit. And the truth is that's just our mind because it knows that we're not going to lift a 70 pound weight. And so it tells us that we don't want to waste our time with anything else. But then we're not going to do the 70 pound weight. So we do nothing. And he was doing nothing. And you might be doing nothing. I know I did for years, give me the 70 pound weight. But we got to take the five pound weight and we got to go do it. And here's the thing, we actually notched it down because there's kind of different kinds of compliments you can give women, right? You can give her a compliment on her beauty. And how sincere you are is more vulnerable, right? If you say like, wow, you are absolutely beautiful, I wanted to come tell you that that's a more vulnerable compliment than nice bag, right? So the five pound weight for him was like, nice bag. 10 pound or 15 pound weight was actually commenting more on something more sincere or vulnerable or deeper than just their accessories, whatever it is. He went out and he did this in the world. And he came back in and he was just his like huge smile, ear to ear on his face. He was glowing. It's like some pep in his stomach. So of course we had to find out what happened. Turns out he went and did this way more than compliments. And this is what I found again and again is when we go out with the intention to lift the 70 pound weight, which for you might be like, I'm going to go approach 10 women and get 50 dates or, you know, I want to go make a thousand sales today or I'm going to go storm into that meeting and just lay down the hammer and be the man. And whatever you, you know, the vision of the 70 pound weight is you can get there. I'm not mocking that. I'm mocking our desire to just get there instantly without lifting the small weight. Because the truth is if I tried to pick up those 70 pound weights and curl them, I would probably just fall over. But if I start with a lower weight and eventually, eventually build up, maybe I'll be curling £140. I don't know, maybe I'll never get to that one. But whatever it is that you want to get to in your life, you can all these things, your relationship, your business, your career, those things are possible for you. So he came back and he did way more than what he set out to do. He started with the five pound weights. The next thing I know he's having extended conversations. He went out with a buddy, we paired them up and the two of them are having this extended conversation and exchanging numbers with different people and like going to meet up with some people later in that day. It was just way beyond the five pound weight and that's why he was so excited, because he was doing stuff, he was in action. And that's what you can do too. So what's your 5 pound weight? Share below in the comments. What are you going to do? What action can you take? And of course subscribe so you can watch more of these videos until we speak again. May you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. I'll talk to you soon.