How To Be Confident -Overcome Social Anxiety To Extreme Confidence

Foreign. Welcome to the Art of extraordinary confidence. I'm Dr. Aziz and today we're going to talk exactly about that, how to build and create extraordinary confidence in your life. I'm going to share about my story, which I would be to say how to go from sub average to super confidence, sub average confidence, below average to super confidence. And how we do that, how I've done that, and how the people that I've worked with are able to do that. And so if you know anything about my story, I spent many years stuck feeling nervous, shy, anxious, not liking myself, not having girlfriends, career prospects, really being in a cage of comparison and feeling inferior the vast majority of the time. I would say that's sub average. That's not where you want to be. And so what I'm able to do in the world is like this big. So I. It's really small. Think of this as what you're capable of. And can I talk to that person? Can I do this? Can I ask her out? No. It's all outside of this little circular band right here. I stayed there for many, many years. I believed all kinds of myths. And you can check out the myths in another episode of this show I have. But eventually something, some grace helped me realize that I could start to break free and I started to take those actions. And you know how to do that is you do something outside of this band, you do something outside of your comfort zone. I know it's simple, but it's true. You choose the thing that your critic or your scared part of you says you cannot do and you go do it. I can't give that presentation, I can't go talk to that person. I can't just start up a conversation with a stranger that I don't know. I can't say hi to strangers on the street. I can't ask that person out. I can't tell a person how I really feel about them. Whenever your mind says that, you say, oh, that sounds like a challenge. I'm going to do that. So you shift from avoiding the scary stuff in your life to approaching it, from avoiding to approaching. That is the secret. Now you also want to throw in some self compassion and treating yourself better because that's what makes the scary thing so scary. And you can learn how to do that too. But then what happens is it expands and you're able to do more. And then it expands, you're able to do more. And that got me to average confidence where I could have conversations with people. I could, you know, occasionally ask someone out. You Know, sort of what I thought was more normal. Although I question the word normal, because what does normal mean? What everyone else is doing or anyway. But it got me to a place where I was like, okay, I'm a little more like everyone else. But I didn't want to stop there because most of my friends at the time, you know, a lot of them, they wouldn't just walk up to a woman they didn't know and start a conversation with them. Now, then some of them had girlfriends and stuff, but it happened more passively and organically and through a friend of a friend or in a class or whatever. But I was like, what about the people who can just walk up to someone and start a conversation? I want to do that. So guess how I got there the same way. Now my band is this. And I want it to get out to here. So guess what? Just got to do stuff outside of the band again and again and again. Practice repetition, practice repetition. What's the thing I'm scared of? Okay, I'll do it. So I want to do public speaking. So I go to a Toastmasters. Then I get to the Toastmasters, the very first one I was at, and they're like, we had a cancellation on one of our prepared presenters today. Who wants to give an impromptu speech? Bam. Me. I'll do it. I raised my hand even before I knew what the hell is going on. Because I really got. If I really want to change this in my life, I got to move from avoidance to approach, from avoidance to approach, and then it expands, and then you get into the realm of super confidence. Now, I don't mean like that you're some sort of bulletproof human who never feels insecure or down or something like that. I mean, you can just do whatever you want in life. So whether it's going over and starting a conversation with someone approaching a woman you find attractive, taking on more leadership position positions, having an assertive conversation with a co worker or supervisor, being able to tell someone to stop what they're doing because they're treating you not in the way that you want. Being really assertive and bold and direct, starting your own business. I'm actually able to do all those things just by following that exact same pattern. So no matter where you are, if you're like, oh, that looks like a lot of freedom. I'm like this big right now. Guess how you're going to break out of that. Doing actions outside your comfort zone. Guess how you're going to break out of that. Actions. And there's no end to it. And if you look at the most amazing people in the world, like your heroes, the people that are incredible, artists, athletes, performers, singers, leaders in the world, guess what? They've done the same thing. There's a thing that they want to do, they're scared, they do it. There's a thing that they want to do, they're scared, they do it. And you can radically shift this. And if you want some help, if you want some juice to help you do that, you got to check out my program, Confidence Unleashed. Because that's all about how to activate that inner power in yourself so you can get out there and face what you're scared of, break through all the mind obstacles and fears that your mind throws in your way that stops you and just radically blast through that fear to transform any aspect of your life. Dating, relationships, career, work, finances, all that stuff. So check out that program if you want Confidence Unleashed. Now I would love to see you in that program and also love to see you in the comments below. So comment. What are your thoughts about this? Where have you noticed this in your life? You know, what have you seen from the results of this or challenges or setbacks you've had with this? Just share it. I'd love to read those and connect with people. Also, you can like it and subscribe below for more of these videos as they come out. And until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know that you're awesome. I'll talk to you soon.