Dr. Aziz says outgoing people speak more freely and judge themselves less. He recommends a concrete exercise: deliberately blurt things out and aim to speak up three times in a group to build spontaneity and have more fun.
Speak up three times in a group conversation (blurt three things out).
There's only one thing you need to do to become way more interesting, fun, to be around and outgoing, and that is this. Turn your filter down. Because if you think about outgoing, fun people, are they the ones who are really restrained and quiet and judgmental? No. No. They're the ones who are more free. They're more fun, they're more relaxed. What does that mean? That means they're not judging everybody. They're not judging themselves. They're just saying things. They've turned down the filter. And there's a secret word I want to share with you, which is blurt. You need to blurt things out more. I mean, saying whatever comes to your mind, overthinking, without wondering, is it going to be funny? Is it going to land? And here's the thing. Funny, outgoing people don't need every joke to land every person to think what they said was great. They just keep going. So volume here. Say more things. Turn the filter down. Set a goal for yourself. The next time you're around a group of people, say, I'm going to speak up three times. I'm just going to say things. I'm going to blurt three things out in this conversation and notice how much more free you feel and how much more fun you are to be around.
