Dr. Aziz delivers a short coaching monologue advising viewers to build self-belief by identifying specific skills they have already used successfully (for example, authenticity and honest communication in friendships) and applying those skills toward new goals like forming a healthy romantic relationship. He instructs viewers to pause and list two to three concrete skills to reinforce confidence and produce bodily, lasting change.
Maybe you want to create a romantic relationship. You're like, I can't be in a good relationship. All my relationships have been all dysfunctional. Well, here's what you do. You say, well, where have I been very functional or healthy in a relationship? I have a couple friendships that are really good. Okay, great. What do I do in those friendships that make them really good? Well, I'm authentic or honest in my communications. Great. So I have the ability to be authentic and honest in communications. That's gonna serve me in creating a relationship, a romantic relationship. Do you see what I'm doing there? So what you want to do is you want to look for whatever that thing that you want to create that you've never done before. You got to find specific skills, specific abilities, specific things that you have done that you have verified faith for, to be able to use that towards the bright faith. Does that make sense? So it might make sense right now, but it's not going to really make a shift in your body and your core and your confidence until you do it. So right now, as you're watching this video, just pause it. Or at the end of this video, take a moment to really think about what are at least two or three specific skills that will help me to do that new thing that I want to do. Then I already know that I have those skills because I've done it in the past. And that is how you will actively believe in yourself. And it feels so good. It is so worth it.
