How To Defeat Doubt! | Dr. Aziz - Confidence Coach

How much does doubt come up for you on a daily or weekly basis? Do you doubt yourself? Doubt your abilities? Doubt your ability to perform or do something at work? Doubt your ability to follow through? Doubt that someone might like you? Doubt that people might love you? Doubt in your self? Doubt in your future? How much is doubt coming up for you? And how much is doubt stopping you or diminishing the quality of your life? And if the answer is a little or a lot, it doesn't matter. Watch this episode because doubt is the biggest force that stops us in our lives. And in this video, you're going to learn a powerful, fun, energizing way to blast through doubt, to defeat doubt once and for all. Stay tuned. Welcome to another episode of the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. I'm your host, Dr. Aziz, and. And subscribe like this video and stay involved, stay engaged in this, because if you're working on this, if you're studying these videos, these can help you transform your life. And there's a number of reasons for that other than my great insights. But also it's the fact that you're studying this stuff and confidence is a skill. You can learn this. That's the one thing that I want to get across to as many people as I can before I die, which is like, look, you can transform this. The stories that say it's not possible for you, the. The doubt that tells you that it's not possible for you is complete and total bullshit. The truth is you can radically shift in your confidence, in the quality of your life and the relationships that you create, the career that you pursue, everything you want to create for yourself is possible when you learn the skill of confidence and you practice the discipline of confidence. And today we're going to be talking about the biggest thing, hands down, that stops people from. From doing that, and that is doubt. And a lot of people are surprised to hear that because they'll say, no, no, no, the thing that stops me is that person's opinion, or, there's no opportunity here, or I'm not able to do this, or it's not doubt. It's just I know that I can't do that, which is doubt. So we want to strip away all the reasons and excuses why out there is preventing us. And look in here, because the truth is the biggest force that's stopping you is doubt. It's the idea, it's the story in your mind that says, I can't, I can't do that. I can't learn that. I'll never be able to do that. They'll never say yes. Those people will never like me. So what is it that you're telling yourself right now that you cannot do that is not possible for you? For some people, it's like, I'll never be able to walk up to someone confidently and comfortable in my own skin and have a good connection with them. Romance with somebody, a woman you're attracted to, a guy you're interested in. I'll never be able to do that. Or I'll never be able to speak up in front of a group. I'll never be able to speak up in a meeting. I'll never be able to have a direct conversation with my boss where I'm not all scared and quakey inside. I'll never be able to public speak well. I'll never be able to be more intimate, be more vulnerable in my conversations, have more empathy and connection with others. Why? Well, there's just something wrong with me. I don't know. There's something different about me. Why? I don't know. Because I've been working on it forever and you find out, like, how long is forever? Well, I read a book, like, two years ago and didn't really do much of what it said, but forever. Doubt. The only demon is doubt. That's the thing that stops us. I know this well, man. Doubts. Been huge in my own life. And not only does doubt stop us in our tracks, like, you can't do that. It could also just be a steady stream of, like, poisonous worm tongue input. Like, by the way, I was talking about this with a friend recently. He'd never seen Lord of the Rings or read the books, and I was telling him about Wormtongue, and I just assumed everyone had seen those or read those books. So I was like, wormtongue, blah, blah, blah. And he's like, who? And I was like, wormtongue, you know, he's like, no, no, I don't know. What's Wormtongue? And I was like, oh, well, you know. You know, there was this king in Lord of the Rings. I don't remember that much. But, you know, Wormtongue was his advisor, and he sort of poisoned his mind over time. And the guy, my friend was like, his name was Wormtongue. And I was like, I think so. And then I was like, yeah. Hmm. It seemed like people in the court of the king might have known something was wrong when his advisor was named Wormtongue. But I don't know. Maybe his advisor wasn't named Wormtongue. Maybe that's just what people called Wormtongue, but behind his back, like, oh, that's that Wormtongue guy. And maybe his name was like, you know, Julius Xavier. I don't know. So if you have comments on this, share them below. Was it really Wormtongue? Is his name Wormtongue? This is important. I need to know this. We all need to know this. Back to Doubt. The voice of doubt is like Wormtongue. If you don't know Wormtongue, I'm sorry, go look up Lord of the Rings. And it's like poisoning our mind. And it just. So maybe you're still able to take the action, but inside it's just like, you. You didn't do that good enough. Oh, people are gonna see that you're not good enough. Oh, who are you to do this? And man, I've seen this come up in my own life a lot. It's coming up in. I've talked about this before, but sometimes when I do live events, leading up to the live event, you know, in my day to day life, I'll be helping clients all day long and doing sessions, and they feel really good, and I see growth and progress and it's awesome. But like a couple of. Maybe like a week before the live event, the Voice will start to kick in. It's basically saying, you have nothing to offer anybody. You can't help people. It's not going to go well. And what it's trying to do is it's trying to get me to not do the live event. Now, that doesn't make any sense because we've already sold all the tickets and we have the room space and everyone's flying in. They already have their plane tickets. Like, we're not canceling that live event. You know, the show must go on. But there's that voice. Doesn't matter. The voice is just trying to stop you in your tracks. And here's a fascinating thing about doubt that I want to share with you, which is doubt works through inversion. Doubt works through inversion, which is something that's been just fascinating for me over the last maybe three or four months. I've really studied it. Doubt works through inversion. So what inversion is. Is a complete opposite of the truth. And so one of the best examples of this is in 1984, that sort of dystopic science fiction book, if you've ever read that. And in it, it's sort of in the. It's in the future. And, like, the world has sort of aggregated. The countries of the world have aggregated into like three, really just two Gigantic nation states and they're always at war with each other. And there's, it's like total oppression, total mind control. Total totalitarian state is sort of the nature of the country that the main character lives in. And they have this slogan that they have people like recite and it's sort of known to be the truth. And it says, let's see if I remember them. War is peace, freedom is slavery, Ignorance is strength. And you read it in the book and you're like, that's a weird thing to say. Like, why would they, you know. But it's just showing the level of total mind control they have over the population. And people are like, yes, you know, it is. We must be at war always to be at peace. That's actually not too far fetched from the United States. But anyway, don't get me started on that. At the very least, doubt works in the same way through inversion. So here's what doubt will do. Doubt will tell you the exact opposite of the truth about you and get you to believe it. So if your doubt says you're totally not, you're not articulate at all. You can't even come up with good words at all. You, you know, what I found is the truth is you are actually more articulate than most people, right? Or doubt in my mind saying, ah, you can't help anybody. The truth is like, I have a powerful ability to really help people, right? And so it works through inversion. Or doubt says you're ugly and so gross and unattractive. And the truth is you are like really beautiful. And people would find you very, they'd be very drawn to you. Do you see that? So doubt works through inversion. It's insanity. And when you start to see this, it's crazy. The level to which it can reprogram us and convince us of something. And there are many ways to deal with it. There's sort of benign or more mild techniques like you converse with the doubt, cbt, write out the doubtful thoughts and challenge them. And look, there's a lot of stuff that could work, but I want to share one with you today where. Which I find extremely fun. We actually did this at my last live event. And it is so. I found sometimes this is just the thing that I use because that voice is so pervasive, so persistent, so convincing, so annoying that we need something. I need something dramatic to challenge it. Because the goal is not to have that voice turn off. I mean, maybe, sure, that's the ultimate goal for me and everyone else. To live in a Doubtless state to live in a state that's like, basically enlightened and free and just totally in the moment. Sure. That's awesome. Sign me up. I'm working on that one. But in the meantime, the goal is for that voice to not have any power over you, to have it come up and just be like, pff, get out of here. Right? So it tries to come up now and then you're like, no, thanks. And not like, oh, no, oh, shit, you're back. You're battling with that doubt for hours and days and months and years. No, it's kind of like, oh, you're back. Yeah, whatever, I'm moving on. So that's what this technique can help you do. Then over time, maybe it doesn't come up at all. So here's what I want you to do. Stand up. I know. Maybe you're in your car, whatever. Pull over and stand up. Or just do it in your car, but shake your body out. And we're going to get activated right now because we. Doubt is an oppressive force, and an oppressive force you need energy to combat an oppressive force. And we're going to say some things together out loud right now that are going to empower you, that are going to strengthen you, that are going to help you affirm what is actually true. You ready? Here we go. Just repeat after me casually in this voice tone. I am the captain of my ship. Make sure you say it after me, because if you just watch this, it's going to be awkward because there are going to be these silent moments where I say, I am the captain of my ship. The. And I'm waiting for you to say it, and you're just like, it's going to be awkward. Just work with me. Just say it. I am the captain of my ship. I am the master of my destiny. Good. Say it with more power, force and gusto. I am the captain of my ship. Maybe stand upright as you do. Ready? Go ahead. Say that now. I am the captain of my ship. Good. I am the master of my destiny. Does that feel good to say? Let's amp it up even more. Use your body. Put your full body into it. Ready. Use gestures. Use your voice. Use your face. Use your volume. Double your volume. Ready? I'm going to say it, then you say it. Ready? Here we go. 1, 2, 3. I am the captain of my ship.

I am the master of my destiny.

Good. Now keep repeating after me.

I defy doubt. I defeat doubt. I destroy doubt. I am the captain of my ship.

Keep repeating after me.

I Am the captain of my ship. I am the master of my destiny. I defy doubt. I defeat doubt. I destroy doubt. Good. Say it again. I defy doubt. I defeat doubt. I destroy doubt.

Good. Use your body. Use your energy. Notice how do you feel right now in this moment. If you're playing full out on this exercise. And look, if you're not, doubt will own you forever.

Doubt is the thing that's stopping you.

From even saying these things. It's like, oh, no, I'm too constricted. I'm too scared. Let it go, man. Don't you want to live? Don't you want to be liberated in this life? If so, play full out. One more time. We're going to do this, and if you want to re watch this part and do it again and again, I highly recommend it. At the live event, we must have done this for, like, 10 minutes straight. Sometimes I'll do this in my car because it's a way to activate your power, your energy. It's a way to stand up to that oppressive voice inside and say, no, I defy you. And when you do that, you gain power. And when you gain power, you can use it to go after what you want to take the risk that you want to create the life that you want to not have doubt hold you back. So let's do this one more time. Full power, full energy, full intensity. In fact, shake your body out. You don't want to bounce up and down and just say out loud the word yes. Good. Say it again.

Yes.

One more time. Full power.

Yes.

Good. Here we go. Count three. Repeat after me. One, two, three.

I am the captain of my ship. I am the master of my destiny. I defy doubt. I defeat doubt. I destroy doubt.

Good. One more time.

I am the captain of my ship. I am the master of my destiny. I defy doubt. I defeat doubt. I destroy doubt.

Good. Feel that power. Feel that energy in your body. And if you want to capitalize on this, go do something right now. That doubt tells you that you cannot do that. You're not capable of that. It won't go well. Fuck that. Defy the doubt. Take the action and do it right now. When you're in this state, that's where the power comes from. And if you want to use this in your car, do this on a daily basis. You will not believe how much this simple action, this simple activity can turn so much in your life around. So subscribe. Like this video. Go out, take some action. Leave any comments you want below. After you take your action and we'll see you soon in an upcoming video. Until then, may have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that. That you're awesome. I'll talk to you soon.