How To Do The Impossible! Step #3: The Dramatic Attempt

Quick question for you. What do you think is impossible for you? What would never be possible for you to do in your social life, your dating life, your career, your physical health, your finances? What is impossible? And what if you were able to do that and much faster than you think? If you're curious, watch this episode. Welcome to another episode of the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. I'm your host, Dr. Aziz, best selling author and creator of Videos Guy. And here I am to talk with you about how to do the impossible in four steps. We are on step three of those four. It's getting very exciting. If you haven't watched step one and two, go back and do that because it's builds, it's a series. And I'll be referencing things that you might not understand. So check out steps one and two. They're free. They're on YouTube. Do it. So this is where we really start to put things into practice. In step one, you start to really question your stories about what's impossible for you. Step two, you surrounded yourself. You immersed yourself in the world of people who are doing what is impossible. And in this day and age, you don't have to know them personally. Maybe you have a mentorship relationship where you actually see them or interact with them. Maybe they're just people you watch on YouTube, podcasts you listen to. And my favorite personal favorite is Audible audiobooks. I'm addicted. I love that stuff. It's awesome. So you surround yourself, you immerse yourself in their world. And that's what I started doing. I started listening to these stories. I'm fascinated by running. I want to see how far I can take my body now that I realize that I'm not broken and that I'm healthy and strong. And so I listen to these books and then all of a sudden, one day, so everything in my life is already starting to shift. Like, instead of driving to the gym in the morning, the gym is about five miles from my house. I start walking to the gym every morning. And then occasionally I start running to the gym in the morning. It's like, why not, right? And I would usually run in the afternoon or something like that. But I was like, I run to the gym in the morning and then I could run again in the afternoon. What even that would not have been something I would have thought of or thought of as possible or safe or good if I hadn't been listening to stories and books about these people doing way more than that. And so I'd already thought about and then registered for doing the Portland marathon, which is 26 miles. 26.2. And that was coming up and I was doing longer runs and starting more training for that. But then I'm hearing this story after story of all this crazy stuff people are doing and I'm like, what can I do? And so I'm walking to the gym one morning. It's like four in the morning, it's dark outside, it's a long walk. It's about a 90 minute walk to the gym. And I get there or on the walk and I think to myself, I wonder how far I could walk in a day. Like, what if I just walked all day from like 3:30am to bedtime? I started calculating. I was like, well, I walk about 3, 3.2 miles an hour. Okay, start calculating miles. And then I was like, that sounds fun in some weird, crazy way, right? Like, what can I do? So all of a sudden this becomes something I want to try out. And that is step three of doing the impossible. I call it the dramatic attempt. Step three of doing the impossible is the dramatic attempt. You've questioned the stories, you've surrounded yourself with people doing stuff that you would love to be able to do that always seemed impossible. At some point you got to try something out. You have to do your own dramatic attempt. And I call it dramatic because it is. Because all the stories and fears and doubts that maybe you thought you overcome are going to come back out of the woodwork like little cockroaches, just bleh, you know? So sure enough, I think about it and like, how far could I go? And my mind's like, oh, you can't. Oh, you're going to injure yourself, right? And it got more and more intense. I picked a day, a week out that I was, or maybe two weeks out that I was going to do it. It was going to be a Friday. I was going to not go to work that day and just walk all day long. And as it got closer and closer to that day, the stories and the fears and the doubts, like it culminated the night before. I was like, oh, this part of my body hurts. Oh, I'm gonna get injured. Oh, I don't have the energy for it. Oh, something bad's gonna happen to me. So whatever your thing is, when you get closer to it, it's like one of those exponential curves. The discomfort or fear or doubt might get more and more intense as you get close. And most people will just stop at that point, but you gotta pierce through. So the dramatic attempt could be a one day thing. Like for me, it Was like, how far can I walk in a day? But it might be a more drawn and maybe for you, the dramatic attempt is to go approach that person who you really are attracted to to go into that high powered meeting like a badass. Or maybe the dramatic attempt is something that's a little more drawn out. It's not just a one moment or one day thing. Maybe it is to go start your own business, in which case that's a mini day, mini month affair. Right? So the doubts and the fears and stuff, it's more drawn out over a period of time, but it's still a dramatic attempt and you want it to be dramatic. Sometimes we fight it in life, like, no, I just want this to be easy. No, I just want it to, I just want to feel only good and confident. It's like, no, the drama is, that's where the meaning and the purpose and the juice comes out. Because you face, you fear the fears, you face the demons and, and you slay them, you stab them in the heart and then emerge victorious covered in gore and victory. And so that's what I wanted to do. So it gets closer and as I realized a couple days before I'm going to go do this walk all day thing, I'm like, you know, if I ran in the morning and then walked, I could cover a lot more miles. So I started thinking about that. So that's the plan. Turns out that we have an awesome opportunity to get a babysitter for a good chunk of the day, which is somewhat rare these days, but we were able to. And so Candice, my wife, was going to be able to walk with me for a good chunk of the daytime portion of it. So I get up early the morning of the dramatic attempt. Body's hurting, I'm like, oh no, I'm going to die. And then I face the dragons, face the demons and I go out and I do about a 12 and a half mile run. Then I come back, hang out, have a couple hours with my kids, eat some breakfast, play with them for a little bit and then we get a bunch of stuff ready in our little day packs. And then my wife and I trek out and walk all day from about 9am till about 5pm and we stop once for lunch at this little hippie vegan place and it comes to the end of the day, 5pm, get back, relieve the babysitter, you know, make the kids dinner, whatever, hang out. I'm feeling fantastic. Broke through all kinds of stuff part of the way when I was walking, I was like, oh, my ankle hurts. Oh, I'm gonna die. And then, like, three miles later, it's like, my ankles feel better, like they're tired, but I'm not dying. Like, I had such fear of injuries, such fear of I'm gonna break myself, right? Because those stories, they don't just go quietly into the good night. They're gonna come back out like the cockroaches, right? And so you gotta keep learning to overcome them. That's why the dramatic attempt is so valuable, so essential, and you must be willing to do it. And sometimes it might be dramatic attempts, plural. In any case, we get back, I'm feeling great. And over the course of the day, I traversed 30 miles, which to me was awesome. I'd never gone that before. How incredible is it that my body can go 30 miles and I can still be standing and feeling great? So we eat some healthy food, do, like a recovery smoothie with tons of antioxidants and greens and kale and spinach and blueberries and all kinds of good stuff to help my body recover. And then we put the kids to bed, and then we hang out a little bit, talk, do other stuff and go to bed. And as we're trying to fall asleep, I'm just wide awake. I'm wired. Because when you've broken through on the other side of the dramatic attempt, and maybe you've done this, this is happening in a guy in a mastermind group. He is, like, pursuing. One person in the group is creating, you know, has an opportunity to create their own business and is pursuing it, and they're excited. Another person is pursuing a relationship opportunity, and it's panning out, and it was kind of a long shot, and it's like they're on fire. And I was feeling that way. So when you do the dramatic attempt, it can be one of the most exciting things in your life as you've done it. So I'm lying there in bed, I'm wide awake. I'm having a hard time sleeping. And Candice, she says to me, well, who knows? Maybe sometime the next time you do this, you'll just walk all day and walk all night. And right when she said that, I was like, I'm so awake, I can't sleep. Right when she said that, I felt like my body relaxed, and I just went, wow. Yeah, it sounded so good to me. And then she said, and who knows? Maybe you'll sleep for a few hours and get back up and walk all night. And then I had this big smile on my face, and I just Laughed. I said, yeah. And I got tired and I fell asleep. Sure enough, three hours later, 11:30pm Bing. I wake up and I'm awake. I wouldn't say I'm like, totally refreshed, but I ain't going back to sleep. The energy's there. It's strong. I get up, my body's a little tired, but feels pretty good. I know what we're doing. So I get some food, get a snack, put a backpack on, and I walk all night until the sunrise and see, the question is like, well, how far can I. I said, how far could I go in a day? How far can I go in 24 hours? That's a day, right? And walked all night. And it just made the dramatic attempt that much more dramatic, I guess. But it was me just following what my heart wanted to do. And when you get into the realm of the impossible, you're gonna have to start following your heart more and more because your mind doesn't know what the hell's going on. It's never done it before. It's not certain. It's not predictable. It's not safe and under control. And that's why we tell ourselves that we can't do something. Not because we can't. We tell ourselves that's impossible for me. Because we want to stay safe and in control and into the guy, the blanket, the warm, cozy blanket of our stories and the safety police. Because if we were to go out and do the thing, we'd have to be out of our heads. We'd have to be out of our comfort zone, out of certainty, out of predictability, out of control. I don't know what's going to happen next, but when you're willing to do that, there's so much more fulfillment and juice in life. And so I stumble home like 6am like, everything's hurting a lot more now. And I fell asleep for like an hour. And then the kids were like, daddy, wake up. And I was like. And I was tired. I was definitely tired the next day. But man, energy was low, but spirits were high. And the total in 24 hours was 44 miles, which was, to me was like, what? Incredible. And what. What can my body do? And just a further shattering of, oh, I'm broken. That's not possible. So when you do the dramatic attempt and you get to the other side of it, those stories get less. The old ones that used to hold you back become less and powerful. They have less and less ability to hold you back because you've proven them so wrong. So what is the dramatic attempt for you? Are you ready for that? If you haven't done steps one and two, it's going to be hard. You might not even know what your dramatic attempt is unless you've immersed yourself in people's worlds who are doing what you want to do. So you have to work on steps one and two. But then when you're ready, do the dramatic attempt. And you might want to even do the dramatic attempt a little before you're ready. Quote ready. Just when it's when you can do it, pull it off, take that dramatic attempt and watch how your world transforms. Awesome. So share below in the comments. I'd love to know what your dramatic attempts might be and then also the results of you doing them. And even if it doesn't go well, even if you go down in flames, even if that person rejects you, even if you try to start a business and it fails and you lose money, even if you do try to go on a ultra marathon or whatever and your toe falls off, like, you will recover from that and you will be stronger for it and you will benefit. In life, boldness is rewarded. Even if you fail, you're gonna be rewarded because in the long term, you're gonna become the kind of person who takes those big steps, takes those big risks. Big risks. And your world transforms. Awesome. So share below and thanks for being with me. And in the next episode, we're gonna talk about step four of making the impossible possible. Till we speak again. May you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. I'll talk to you soon.