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Dr. Aziz and a co-speaker explain why rejection hurts: not the no itself, but the story you tell after. They argue that changing your internal response to rejection shifts both your suffering and what you do next.
Dr. Aziz and a co-speaker explain why rejection hurts: not the no itself, but the story you tell after. They argue that changing your internal response to rejection shifts both your suffering and what you do next.
But what if they don't like me?
This is the most.
Common fear when it comes to putting yourself.
Out there, sharing.
Approaching people. How do I handle rejection?
Here is the most.
Powerful way to shift it.
Because what we don't realize is we.
Think the pain of rejection is in the no. It's in the rejection. That's how it seems.
If they say, yes, I feel great.
They say, no, I feel bad. So obviously the no was the bad thing. That's not true.
To really free.
Yourself, you realize that the no is not the bad thing.
What I do.
In my own mind with the no is what creates all the suffering.
So when you say no to me.
Pay attention to what happens inside.
I call this your default.
Rejection pattern.
And basically what.
Happens is usually very unpleasant stuff.
I tell myself I'm unlovable.
This is never going to work out. My future is going to be awful and bleak because this is obviously never going to work out. A lot of pain. And who is creating that pain? Is the no creating that pain? No. The no is just information.
I'm creating.
That in my own experience. And if you want to shift this, change what you.
Do with the no.
Inside and.
Everything else.
Changes after that.
