Dr. Aziz gives brief, practical advice for getting someone to notice you: stop performing a ‘polite persona’ (excess smiling, over-politeness, avoiding controversy, laughing too hard) because that grasping, high-stakes energy repels others. Instead, shed the polite persona and show a more confident, authentic self — which reliably attracts attention, connection, and affection.
If you're being ignored right now, here's what you can do to get that other person to notice you. See, what's happening that makes them ignore you is that you're trying to be on your best behavior. You don't want to mess it up. It feels like it's too high stakes. And so you smile a lot. You're polite. You don't bring up controversial topics. You laugh extra hard at their jokes. You hope that they like you. And this energy, this grasping, desperate energy actually repels people. And it also doesn't bring out the most confident, authentic version of you, which is what really attract that person in the first place. So you are much more attractive than your polite person Persona. And as soon as you start shedding that polite Persona, people are gonna stop ignoring you, start paying attention and start wanting more from you. More connection, more love, everything. Just try this out and see what happens.
