This is a short transcript excerpt from a YouTube video (Dr. Aziz) about why people feel easily hurt or offended by others' comments and how to change it. Dr. Aziz explains that over-relying on others' judgments means "living in other people's reality," causing sensitivity; he recommends building a solid internal center (knowing one’s own thoughts and feelings) and introduces the clinical-psychology concept of "differentiation" as essential for healthy relationships.
Do you find that you're easily hurt or offended in social interactions when people make comments? Even if people making jokes or saying.
Things that are not even.
Directly towards you, you feel hurt and upset afterwards. You kind of hold on to things, and even if it's coming at you directly, oh, my God, that may ruin your week or your month, and you just can't shake it. If you're tired of being what feels like too sensitive to people's judgments or comments, here's what's going on and how to change it. What you're doing is you're living way too much in other people's reality. So if John thinks this, if Tina thinks that, that's how it is. So John thinks those people are dumb.
Oh, no. But maybe I agree.
With those people. Oh, no, maybe I'm dumb. And we walk around and we're just constantly hurt and offended because we don't have a solid center. And the key is to build that center, which is, here's what I think, here's what I feel. I understand.
John's going to be different. Tina is going to be different.
This is called differentiation.
In clinical psychology.
And it's essential for you being a healthy, full human who can have relationships with others.
