If You're A Nice Person Don't Watch This!

11 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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A short YouTube segment by Dr. Aziz arguing that most people (roughly 70–80%) will not strongly 'like' you or form close connections with you, while only about 20–30% are likely to truly click with you. He recommends investing energy in that minority of potentially extraordinary relationships rather than trying to please everyone.

Questions this video answers

About 80% (spoken: "statistically about 80% of people aren't really gonna like you that much").

About 50–60% (spoken: "probably 50 to 60% of people... they could take you or leave you").

About 20–30% (spoken: "there's probably only about 20 to 30% of people that you're really going to click with").

Chapters

If you're a nice person who wants everybody to like you, you're gonna hate me for saying this, but statistically about 80% of people aren't really gonna like you that much. Now that doesn't mean they hate your guts, but probably 50 to 60% of people, eh, they could take you or leave you. They don't hate you, but they don't want to be your friend. They don't hate you, but they don't want to date you. Yeah, I'd rather go with someone else. That's how they feel about you. And look, it's nothing about you personally. That's how they feel about me. It's how they feel about everybody. The truth is that there's probably only about 20 to 30% of people that you're really going to click with that you could have as a friend, you could have as a date. You could have a partner, you could work together really well. So are you going to spend your energy on the 70 to 80% of people that aren't that interested in you or invest yourself in the 20 to 30% of relationships in your life that could be extraordinary.