Never Feel Socially Weird Again—Here’s How

Are you afraid of being weird or being judged as weird by other people? If so, you have to watch this video because you're going to learn how to shift this, how to let this go. And that's one of the most liberating things that you can do for yourself. Because letting yourself be seen as weird and not caring about it doesn't just mean you can go out there and do really crazy stuff. Some of the most normal things that you might want to do in your life, you don't let yourself do because you're afraid, oh, someone's going to judge me as weird. I'm talking about starting a conversation with somebody you don't know, being playful, speaking up and sharing your ideas. Be so inhibited because we're like, oh, but someone's going to think that that's weird. And what it's fascinating is when I work with people, they live in this perspective that one, that that judgment is real, and two, that they really need to avoid it. If you try to do that, it's like painting yourself into a corner. And your world gets smaller and smaller and smaller. Because guess what? More and more people could judge you as weird for different things. Maybe one person judges you as weird for these things, but then someone else judges you as weird for different things. And then someone over there could judge you as weird for other things. And I was like, well, geez, I can't be judged as weird by anybody. So now my world's got to get smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller because you right here, you watching. Don't judge me as weird. And this is the absolute wrong approach. The way out is not to avoid ever doing anything that could be seen as weird. The way out is to flip it on its head and have that judgment have absolutely no power over you. So when you no longer are concerned about someone judging you as weird, that when you get to be free, that's when you can do all the things that you want to do in your life. And look, some of them might be strange, I don't know. But it doesn't matter because that judgment has no power over you anymore. Right. Does that make sense? Well, the first thing you need to realize is what weird is and what's really happening with that judgment. So weird just means strange or different, but it's got a negative connotation like, ooh, that's bad. Zap, zap. I'm going to. I'm going to electrocute you. And what's happening is there's something called the cultural field, which is an Invisible force that you and I and every human feels, even though it's invisible, like gravity is a force invisible, but you're affected by it. And this force is created by a collective of humans. And that when you're a part of that human group, you feel the rules and the norms of that group. And then anything that's outside of those norms might be called weird. So let's pick an extreme example that might be a little shocking, which is, let's say you have to use the bathroom, you're a full grown adult, and so you just, you know, pull down your pants and go to the bathroom, take a dump right there on the sidewalk. Most people would frown at that. That's weird. That's wrong. Dr. Aziz is telling you, you get out there and you overcome that fear by taking a dump. No, but I'm giving you an extreme example because there's a. Most cultures in the world would have some judgment of that, right? So the weird is the zap. The punishment to keep people in line. Now, there are a lot of things that we might want to keep people in line for, right? For example, from pooping on block, but maybe from killing each other or doing other things that are extreme, right? So we do want. I'm not saying there's no rules or no judgments or no things that we want to fit in society around. But the challenge is there's a lot of things that actually are not harmful, not detrimental, in no way hurting other people, but are actually bringing a lot of positive to the world. So for example, let's say someone's walking down the sidewalk and they got some headphones in and they're singing as they listen. Oh, I can't do that. That's weird, right? So now we're talking about, yes, you're doing something that maybe others will notice. Maybe it's a little outside of the cultural norm. Maybe. I mean, some cultures, someone singing as they walk down the street is no big deal at all. But in a lot of places in the United States, that's a little unusual, but it's not harmful. In fact, I would say it's actually bringing positive energy to the world. And yet you might inhibit yourself from doing that. Here's another example. There was a client I was working with, and he was struggling in dating. I mean, he built up his confidence where he could approach women he was interested in, but he limited who he could approach. And one of the limits he had was he was about 40 and he's like, I can't approach younger women was how it Started, he noticed women of all ages, 20s, 30s, 40s. And he wanted to approach all of them, but he had, oh, I can't approach a woman if she's in her 20s, maybe if she's in her 30s. But she has to be 35 and older, because I'm 40 and it can't be more than five years. I'm like, well, that's a very specific rule. But, okay, so if he wants to, he's 40, goes, approaches a woman he thinks is beautiful, and she's 32 or 28. And someone out there might say, that's weird, that's wrong. It only affects you if you buy into it as well. And so the path to freedom is not to go chase that person down and say, stop judging me. That person's going to do whatever they're going to do based upon their model of the world. But the key thing is, in my model of the world, in my reality, is it okay to talk to or date someone who's older or younger than me? That's where you determine your own values. You determine the culture that you want to live in. Because here's the thing about the modern world. We're living in the melting pot, man. No matter what society you're in, we're no longer in a tribal hunter gather society where there's 150 other members. And if you are outside of that, you're gonna get excommunicated and go die in the woods. If you do live in a place like that, I can't imagine you have the Internet, so you're not probably watching this. But most of us live in cities or big towns, and there's all kinds of people. There's people that are into that and of this culture and that culture. And you get to determine what culture you want to be a part of, and you get to determine your own reality. And so for this client, if he gets to that place of I can talk to whoever I want to talk to, what's wrong with dating someone who's older or younger? Where is the energy? Where is the passion? Where's the connection? And if someone says, you can't do that, he's like, I don't do what I want. And the example I use with him to help him really see that it is his own reality. He's the one has to take a stand here is, well, let's say someone said to you, you can't date a white woman because you're brown. Would that affect you? And he's like, no, I just tell him to, you know, buzz off. He used a stronger language than that. But. And I said, okay, so why would that not get to you? Because he doesn't buy into that. So what is it that you're buying into? What is it that's weird, that's not okay. Who taught you that? Where did you learn that? And when you really see that and you start to claim, look, in my reality, it's okay to. And I did this with dozens of things I used to be afraid of. It's okay to sing in public. It's okay to approach someone I don't know, it's okay to make jokes. It's okay to be silly and spontaneous and strange. And that actually really served me when I had young kids because it made me fun to be around. Right? Nothing's worse than an adult who's around a young kid who's like, I cannot be silly. How do you do? Young 5 year old? Are you attending your school duties? Right? You watch that, you're like, ah, dude, just loosen up, right? And that's time for all of us just to loosen up, be you, and let yourself be free. And if someone judges you as weird, realize it's not their judgment, it's your own judgment of yourself. And you get to redefine the culture that you're a part of. All right, let me know in the comments what you're finding most valuable. If this is speaking to you, if this, this is inspiring to you, want to take things further, go to my website, draziz. Com. Draz. Com. You can find about my 12 month mastermind program where I help people to radically transform this and so many things in their lives, as well as other programs and free resources. Thanks for being with me today. Until we speak again. May have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.