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Dr. Aziz argues that being nice and being direct are mutually exclusive. When you soften the truth to avoid upsetting someone, you end up apologizing for your own needs instead of stating them clearly, which weakens relationships.
Dr. Aziz argues that being nice and being direct are mutually exclusive. When you soften the truth to avoid upsetting someone, you end up apologizing for your own needs instead of stating them clearly, which weakens relationships.
Your answer to this one question will determine the quality of every single relationship in your life and indeed the quality of your entire life. You want to know what the question is? It's do you want to be respectful and direct or nice? Because you can't have both. If you are trying to be nice. I don't want to upset others. I don't want to displease others. Then when you start trying to be direct, even respectfully, as soon as you see the look on their face of confusion or upset or sadness, you're going to start making a beeline to the left. Here's what I really think. Oh no, no, actually it's really not so bad and it's my fault and I'm sorry. And are you okay? Are you feeling okay? And you've lost your ability to be direct, to be real, to have healthy relationships. So the question I have for you is do you want to be direct and respectful or nice?
