YouTube video by Dr. Aziz (Art of Extraordinary Confidence) teaching a simple technique to interrupt social anxiety by noticing and changing the internal "mental movie" you’re playing. He explains social anxiety as a learned pattern of thoughts and imagery, demonstrates a three-step practice (pause → ask “What mental movie am I playing?” → experiment with creating a different movie), and briefly promotes his paid program, Confidence University, for deeper step-by-step change.
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Did you know that when you're feeling social anxiety, you're actually creating that experience? And in this short video, I'm going to share one secret question that I've learned over the years that can help you eliminate that process and turn it all around. Stay tuned and watch in this video to learn how. To. Welcome to the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. I am your host, Dr. Aziz, best selling author and the founder of the center for Social Confidence. And you are probably wondering, what does he mean that I'm creating social anxiety? Isn't it something that just happens to me? I mean, I'm just an anxious person. It's in my DNA, it's in my genes. The answer is no, because social anxiety is just a pattern that we're running. Just like everything that we do. They're patterns and they are patterns of thought. You know, what we think to ourselves, what we focus on, what we pull out of the world to bring our attention to how we feel and how we respond to all of that stuff that's going on in us and then how we act in the world, all of those are patterns and we can go deep into that. I have whole courses that go into that. But let's talk about one key thing that you can use today, which is one super powerful question to interrupt the pattern of social anxiety and give you a lot more power, freedom, confidence and control. How does that sound to you? If you're in, say yes. Yeah, I know it's just a video, but still, say yes. It's going to engage you and we're going to get right on the same page. You ready? If you're in, say yes. Okay, I'll just assume that you said yes because, hey, I can't hear you at this point. So here's what we're going to do. When you are anxious, think of a moment where you felt social anxiety. It could be recently, it could be every day, it could be right now, it could be a month ago. When whatever it is for you, that's a moment where you felt anxious about interacting with others, about being social. Okay, now pause. Here is the million dollar question. What mental movie are you playing? What mental movie are you playing? Because in order to create social anxiety, what we must do is we must generate some visual story. Sometimes it's words of what's going to happen or what is happening. And when we're anxious, it's a scary movie. So for example, you have to go to this party and you're nervous ahead of time. Pause. What mental movie am I playing? That's the question I want you to ask again and again. Every time you're anxious, what mental movie am I playing? And this isn't just social anxiety. You're anxious about anything. You're anxious about a project turning out a certain way. You're anxious about, is this going to work or is this not? Is this deal going to go through or not? Are we going to, you know, am I going to lose my job or not? Whatever it is you're anxious about in the future, am I going to run out of money or not? Right. That is something you want to stop and say, what mental movie am I playing? Because what you'll find is, in the example of the party, there's a mental movie. And most likely if you close your eyes and tune into it, you'll start to see, oh, I'm imagining there and I'm alone in a corner and I don't know who to interact with, and I feel anxious. And you'll actually see this whole thing playing out. And sometimes for you, it's full on movies. Sometimes it's just images, sometimes it's, you know, phrases or words. You might hear the voice of someone laughing or ignoring you. Whatever it is, it's your representation of what's going to happen. And guess what? We react to that. We react to that movie big time. And what do we feel? We feel anxious, we feel tense, we feel dread. We don't want to go experience that. So that's the first most powerful question you can ask yourself when you're feeling social anxiety or any other kind of anxiety. Pause. What mental movie am I playing? And just pay close attention. Then you want to say, wow, I am creating this. I am a fantastic, amazing, creative person who can generate out of thin air, an entire movie. Maybe I should move to Hollywood. And we create this whole story. And that's what we want to remember. We want to realize, I am creating this. And then we can say, can I create something different? Just for fun, Could I create a different movie? And just. Just try, Just see now, if your mind's like, well, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. That movie, that shitty one, that's reality, man. I'm not gonna create anything else. I'm just gonna focus on that one. Where's that gonna get you in life to just keep seeing? Maybe it happened in the past, Maybe it was reality in the past, but is that what you want for your future? Is that gonna serve you next week, next month, next year, for your entire life? Or do I want to choose Something different. Do I want to use my creative power to come up with a new mental movie? And if you were to ask yourself, could I do that just as an experiment? You close your eyes and you imagine, how would I like it to go? And watching that unfold and if your mind says, I can't, I can't, I can't, that's something you got to turn around because you absolutely can. Social anxiety is a pattern. It doesn't matter if you've been running it for like five months, five years or 50 years. It's a pattern that can be interrupted and it can be changed and it can be radically changed and transformed. For you to have way more confidence than you ever imagined is possible for you. And this isn't some dream or some hype. That's been my exact experience and I've helped clients do that exact same thing. And I've seen thousands of people and gotten emails from people who are applying this stuff and, and experiencing that too. And guess what? They're no different than you. You can get this too, just like I have, just like clients have. And if you really want to get this, like step by step on exactly how to do this kind of thing and like, okay, what do I do on Monday, what do I do on Tuesday? How do I completely turn my life around then I highly recommend you check out my brand new program, Confidence University, which is the most powerful in depth confidence turnaround program in the world. The most dynamic, responsive, like this is not some sit back, passive, read a book kind of program. This is an engaging experience. We call it a university for a reason, because you're going to get in there and you're going to show up and it's going to involve homework and interaction and that's what's going to transform your life. So if you want to find out more about that, you can click below. It's also just Confidence University, Confidence University. You can find out all about it, how it works. I'm super excited about it because it's helping people all over the world and it's an incredibly dynamic program and it's been designed based upon years and years of doing this stuff and saying, okay, what worked with all my clients, all my groups, everyone let me smash it down and deliver it so anyone all over the world can experience it. So check that out if you want to go deeper. Confidence University. And in the meantime, ask yourself, what mental movie am I playing? And share below. What do you notice? What are some of your experiences? Let's all support each other in the comments below. And until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.
