Dr. Aziz explains how replaying conversations feeds anxiety and insecurity. His fix: notice when you're doing it, tell yourself to stop, then name one thing you did well. That shift rebuilds confidence for next time.
Have you ever replayed a conversation in your head 50 times, wondering if you did it right, if they liked you, if you sounded dumb? Here's the thing. You cannot leave that experience feeling confident. If you're overthinking, you're going to feel anxious, insecure and inadequate. There is no other way. So you have to interrupt that pattern. Here's what you need to do instead. When you catch yourself, say, oh, I'm overthinking or I'm replaying conversations and remind yourself, I don't need to do that. I don't do that anymore. And then instead, if your mind wants to keep going over again and again, then focus it on what's something that I did Well, I know there's 10 things I did wrong or oh, they were so bad. Okay, great. What's one thing that I did? Well, because that's going to help you feel more confident and in your next conversation have a much better connection.
