A short YouTube video by Dr. Aziz addressing the common habit of replaying conversations and overthinking what one said. He links the behavior to perfectionism and an anxiety loop (scanning for social danger), describes it as a distorted self-perception, and offers a simple reframe: name the distortion and tell yourself the moment is over so you can move on.
Do you ever overthink what you just said? Replaying conversations again and again in your head? Then you have to watch this because it's going to help you break that pattern. Trust me. I used to do that pretty much in every conversation. Even just casual hangouts with friends I drive home and I'd be worried about it, like combing through it to make sure I didn't do anything wrong or bad. And what's happening there is this perfectionism and it's an anxiety loop. Needing to control. It's like looking, scanning for danger. Because you perceive that anything other than perfect is dangerous. And your idea of perfect might be totally unrealistic, not even clearly defined. So it's just any. Anything could be danger, could be behind every closet, every corner, right? And so it ruins your social life, your connection, and your just, well, being. So the key here is to realize that it's not real. The perception you're having of yourself is this awkward fool that everyone's judging. It's not real. That's not how they're seeing it at all. It's a distortion. It's like a fantasy, it's like a nightmare. It's a bad trip. And when you name that and just say, I don't replay conversations, that moment is over and I'm safe, you'll be able to move on.
