Dr. Aziz describes how people treat worthiness like something to earn through achievement, then offers a mental exercise: imagine it's already there, unconditional, like a key on a table. This shift changes how you relate to others and stops the exhausting chase for approval.
A fun way to bypass this is to ask yourself, if worthiness were irrelevant, or if my worthiness were already there. I know it doesn't feel like it's there. Yeah, because you have a bunch of conditions on it. I have to be this and I have to be that and I have to achieve this and these people have to respond to me this way. And then I can feel it. It's like this elusive code you got to type into a safe. But what if, what if, just a thought experiment, you didn't and you just like, the safe was open, there was no safe, it was just sitting there on a table. How am I worthiness? Like your keys, just pick them up and get out the door. If that were the case, then how would I go approach this person?
