Short coaching clip by Dr. Aziz presenting a reverse-psychology-style confidence technique: give yourself explicit permission not to act (e.g., tell yourself you don't have to approach/speak), which reduces fear and self-criticism and paradoxically makes taking the desired action easier. The clip also suggests adding light encouragement or a playful challenge alongside the permission.
Here's a secret hack to get yourself to do things that you don't want to do because confidence is a byproduct of actions, specifically the actions that you're probably hesitant or scared to take approaching that person facing that challenge, speaking when you're scared to. Right, that's where the confidence comes from. So how do you make yourself do it when you're scared? Most people make the biggest mistake of attacking themselves, criticizing themselves, saying come on you better get it or else using more fear, piling it on. You want to know the secret life changing trick is to give yourself permission to not do it. Say hey you can approach those people but you know what, you don't have to and it's okay. And I bet you can throw a little bit of encouragement, a little bit of playful, maybe even challenge in there and with that freedom and space to not have to plus the challenge, watch what happens.
