Dr. Aziz (speaker) draws on 20 years of personal study and experience helping thousands of clients to explain the "secret of self-worth": no one outside you can determine your worth. The excerpt warns against basing value on others' opinions (exes, bosses, friends) and urges choosing internal validation — being on your own side despite imperfections and mistakes.
After studying this personally for 20 years and helping thousands of clients with self confidence, let me tell you the secret of self worth. It's that nobody outside of you can determine your own worth. And the biggest problem, the reason you might feel like you're less than and suffering and struggling and hoping to be acknowledged or loved or approved of, it's no, I'm not worth it. All that suffering, that drama is because you've placed your value based on the opinion of someone else. And it gets worse, right? Because maybe you have a bad breakup or a divorce or you get fired and that person's like, you suc suck and here's the reasons. And now you're like, oh God, now there's external proof that my self worth is terrible. And that's actually just further proof that you're looking in the wrong place. You're looking to your ex, you're looking to your boss, you're looking to even your friends. You have to look and find and choose inside. And instead of choosing to say, I'm the greatest, you just say, you know what? I'm going to be on my own side no matter what. I'm not perfect. I'm going to make mistakes. And no matter what, I'm going to choose to be on my own side.
