Dr. Aziz explains why shy men get stuck in cycles of worry and self-criticism, and why social confidence is learnable, not fixed. He walks through the pattern: anticipatory worry, discomfort in the moment, rumination after. CBT and EFT can help break it.
Welcome to the center for social confidence. I'm Dr. Aziz. And if you're a man who is feeling stuck or held back due to a lack of confidence, you might describe yourself as shy, or you might feel like you have social anxiety. Then you're about to learn something in this short video that can radically transform the rest of your life. Because once you learn this one thing, then nothing is the same ever again. And that might sound extreme, that might sound like hyperbole or something, but stay with me for just a minute because I really believe this is the beginning of a transformation for you. So if you're in that place right now where you're held back by shyness, you feel nervous before an interaction with someone, whether it's a stranger or even an acquaintance at work, someone you know fairly well, you feel afraid that they're not going to like you, that you're going to do something strange or embarrassing, and they're going to criticize or judge you or reject you for it. And you might spend a lot of time before interactions feeling nervous or worried about them. During the interaction, you might feel uncomfortable or tight, like you just got to get out of there. And then afterwards, you might be beating yourself up. You might be replaying awkward moments in your mind, telling yourself that you did it wrong. Or maybe you just beat yourself up because yet again, you were too scared to go talk to that person and really getting down on yourself. Which only makes things worse, right? Because the more you beat yourself up, the harder it is the next time to go start a conversation with someone. Someone. And what I've seen is a spiral in people, especially the men that I work with, where they get more and more down on themselves, feel lower, lower self esteem, lower levels of social confidence, and then it's even harder to climb out of that pit. That's what I want to shift for you right now in this video. Because there's one thing I've learned. Whether it's in relationships and you're afraid to go talk to that woman and start a conversation, or you're in a relationship and you're afraid that the person's going to leave you because you think you're not good enough, or you're held back at work because you can't adopt a leadership role or speak up in meetings because you're held back by the fear, whatever area it's challenging you in, there's one thing that needs to shift before your life can change, and that is that you have to, on some level, open to the possibility that things can be different, that there's nothing so fundamentally wrong with you that you're stuck like this forever. Because if you believe that, that you're stuck like this forever, then you will be. You know, what was that line from Henry Ford? Whether you believe you can or you can't, you're right. And that's the thing that you need to realize. Even if it's the only contact you have with me in your life, I hope it shifts something for you, that it is possible. And this center, this center for social confidence is my effort to make that shift in the world, make that shift for you, to help you realize that it is. And there's dozens of tools and tips and techniques, many of which have been validated in empirical research and double blind controlled trials, which is the gold standard of psychology research that shows they're effective. Whether it's CBT or EFT or all these crazy acronyms and names. You don't have to get into it now, but there are so many things that radically shift shyness and social anxiety to help people feel more confident in all areas of their lives. Whether you want to improve in dating and have that strength and certainty in yourself that you know you can walk over to that attractive woman and be charming and like yourself no matter how it goes, even if she says no, you feel good about yourself. Or being able to speak up in a meeting at work and share your ideas, or hey, even speak to a group of 300 people in a keynote speech, it doesn't matter. You can build the level of social confidence that you need because social confidence is a skill. It's not something you're born with. I've seen this in myself, which you'll learn a lot more about my story as we get to know each other. I've dealt with a lot of social anxiety in my life, but the hundreds of men that I've worked with, it's convinced me beyond a shadow of a doubt that I Social confidence is a skill that you can learn. You can start learning it today. If you enter your name, your email on the right, I'll be able to send you a free ebook which will start your journey. It'll help you realize that you can make a shift. But not only that, I really want to make this impactful for you. Because as I said, the key turning point in your life is if some part of you says, maybe something can be different. Maybe I'm not stuck like this forever. So to help in that shift, after you get this ebook for free, I'm going to also send you five free follow up coaching videos, which is the equivalent of five coaching sessions with me, which is an over $700 value. But I want to have this go to you for free, because I want you to make that shift. Because honestly, I remember the pain of being stuck in shyness. I remember how much it just hurt on a daily basis. And the most painful thing about it, I it wasn't that I couldn't go talk to that person. It wasn't that I was being held back in my life. It was the hopelessness. I felt that nothing could be different. And I'm on a mission to help you break free of that. So go ahead and enter your email on the right. Get started today. Make that shift right now, and I look forward to speaking with you in the future.
