Dr. Aziz explains why you stay silent in uncomfortable conversations: your nervous system treats speaking up as a threat, not a confidence problem. The relief you feel after avoiding it reinforces the pattern, making willpower alone ineffective. Understanding this wiring is the first step to actually changing it.
Now's not the right time. Ah, it's gonna bother them. They're not in the right mood. Is it even that big of a deal? I probably shouldn't say anything. And then the moment passes and it seems like you just dodged a bullet, right? There's a part of you that feels like it was dangerous to speak up in that situation. This isn't a confidence issue. This is a threat in your nervous system issue. This is in your wiring. And that's why if you've ever tried to just push through and just do it, How often does that work? Maybe you could pull it off once, but you're gonna discover exactly why you can't just push through, and that's going to help you stop beating yourself up about it and actually learn what's going to be most effective in shifting this and, and why this pattern keeps happening despite your best intentions.
