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Dr. Aziz teaches a technique to interrupt self-criticism: when you catch yourself judging harshly, speak to yourself like you'd defend a friend. Say something like "I don't attack myself" to stop the negative spiral and restore self-compassion.
Dr. Aziz teaches a technique to interrupt self-criticism: when you catch yourself judging harshly, speak to yourself like you'd defend a friend. Say something like "I don't attack myself" to stop the negative spiral and restore self-compassion.
The truth is you cannot beat yourself into confidence. And here is a powerful phrase that I use when I'm becoming self critical and judging myself, attacking myself, and ultimately preventing yourself from really going out there and being who you really want to be in life. Because that fear of other people's judgment is actually a fear of your own self rejection, your own self judgment. And so when that starts to rear its ugly head, oh, you made a fool of yourself. Oh, that looks so bad. Oh, those people think this about you and you're attacking yourself. The key thing to do, and ideally out loud, if no one's around, is to say, whoa, whoa, I don't attack myself. I don't turn on myself like that. And you can do it in your head too, but claiming that, reminding yourself of that, hey, I don't do that. Just like if someone was, you know, a friend of yours or a loved one or a child, if you have kids and someone was like verbally attacking them, you'd say, hey, whoa, whoa, what are you doing? It's messed up. And we want to have that reaction to protect and defend yourself. And when you do, you can stop the self criticism in its tracks.
