The Secret Ingredient To Unstoppable Confidence

Would you like to know the secret ingredient to unstoppable confidence? Of course you would. That's why you clicked the video, right? I'm going to share with you in just a moment. What is your guess? You obviously want more confidence. I mean, who would not benefit from more confidence? I've been studying confidence obsessively for the last 20 years. What is the secret ingredient? You know, some people might say it's, well, it's taking action. It's talking well to yourself. It's being on your own side, and it's having courage. What is it that you think? What do you think is the secret ingredient to unstoppable confidence? And that word is important. In fact, I even have it on my wrist. I wear this thing 24 7. It's a little wristband from a mastermind program that I run. It's called the Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind. The word unstoppable has a lot of juice for me, a lot of meaning. So what is the thing that acts as unstoppable confidence? What's your guess? We'll see. I'll share it with you. Now, it is to embrace discomfort. To embrace discomfort. And that's important because you've probably heard of the concept of the comfort zone, right? And the comfort zone is what's familiar to you, which you've done a lot before. What is not too taxing or demanding. Mentally, physically, emotionally, relationally. In order to create something new in your life, you have to step into the unknown. Maybe you've never had a certain kind of relationship before. Maybe you've never started your own company. Maybe you've never spoken up in a certain way. Maybe you've never had a certain level of realness or authenticity with anyone in your life. Friends, family, dating, relationships, work. And you want to go to that next level. You want to be less nice and more you, more real. All of that is stepping into the unknown. And stepping into the unknown is outside of your comfort zone. And if you are going outside of your comfort zone, what does that automatically mean? You will experience uncomfort. Not comfort, discomfort, Right? Comfort is now gone, and you're experiencing some sort of unpleasant sensations. Anxiety, stress, uncertainty, rejection, loss, embarrassment. Ooh, yum. Doesn't that sound great? You might hear that list and you're like, no, no, thank you. I don't want that. Right? So here's the thing. You must experience this. Now. It's not some suffer fest, right? Because when you take those positive risks, it can go well too. So you can have someone Respond positively. You could have a new friend. You could have a new lady friend or guy friend of that sort. You might have new success in your career or earn more money or grow. So it could be all these positive things, but you're also going to get these uncomfortable things. And do you know what you're going to get? No. So you got to be willing. And that's where the other part of this. It's not just experience discomfort to get unstoppable confidence. It's embrace discomfort. Because if it doesn't go the way that you want, which it inevitably will not every time. And then the discomfort happens, and you're like, oh, man. They said, no, this is terrible. I'm never going to get it. It's awful. I hate myself. I hate them. Like, that is so much turbulence, and that is going to slow you down so much, and you're going to run out of steam and momentum, and you're just going to go back into that settle zone, the gray zone of the comfort, easy. And that's why we've got to embrace the discomfort. So when the discomfort comes, which it will, what do you do? Bring it on. Let's go. Here we go. And you lean into it, you push into it, you attack it. You bring your courage, you bring your strength. And knowing that is really helpful, because when the discomfort comes, you say, great, this is making me stronger. Because as soon as. If the discomfort comes and you're like, oh, no. Oh, no, let's say you go, put yourself out there in a workplace setting and you take on something where you want to lead this project or speak up or do more leadership, and then maybe it's not going well. Maybe you feel like you're losing the team or you guys didn't meet a deadline or you dropped some ball, or you're really nervous talking in this room full of people that are powerful or intelligent, right? And here comes the discomfort. You're feeling embarrassed, you're feeling, you know, rejected, whatever it is. Oh, no, oh, no. And that's how we often react. Oh, no, oh, no. Oh, no. That's when you shift it and you say, embrace the discomfort. Bring it on. Let's go. Yeah. All right. That's intense. Okay. Right. I'll even say that to myself. Sometimes when a strong feeling's coming out, I'll be like, okay, all right, here we go. And then you want to lean into it, you want to attack it, you want to embrace it, allow it, give space for it. Know that it's making you stronger. It's seasoning you. And what's going to happen is on the other side of that discomfort because they're always going to be on their side. Nothing gets worse forever. It's not going to just completely consume and destroy you. It's going to move through you and you're going to get stronger. You're going to learn new tools or strategies on how to deal with rejection or loss or a problem with the team or an upset partner or whatever it is you need to face a problem with your kids or your parents. You're going to learn how to face all of that and get stronger and stronger. And now your comfort zone is expanding more and more and more and bigger and bigger. And you're becoming. Well, you're becoming a badass. So share down in the comments below. What are you going to do? How are you going to take on discomfort? What discomforts are you willingly going to expose yourself to in order to create an extraordinary life of unstoppable confidence? Fantastic. Thanks for being with me. Until we speak again, may I have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. We'll talk to you soon.