The voice that tells you who you can be

27 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Dr. Aziz describes an internal, self‑critical voice that dictates who you are "allowed" to be. He outlines how this voice silences you, discourages you from asking for what you need, warns against showing humor or emotions, and predicts failure in career risks. By enumerating these limiting messages—"don’t say anything unless it’s nice," "don’t ask for things or you’ll anger others," "don’t be open or you’ll be seen as needy," "you’ll fail at your career move"—he illustrates how the voice reinforces negative self‑talk and blocks authentic behavior.

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just to be super clear, this voice is telling you who you're allowed to be and who you're not allowed to be. You're not allowed to say that. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Don't say no to people. Don't ask for things. If you ask, they're going to get angry at you. Don't be yourself around that person. Don't share your humor. Don't go walk over and talk to that person. You can't do that. That's inappropriate. They're going to be upset with you. Certainly don't show your feelings towards that person. Don't be open and loving with that person. They're going to reject you. They're going to think you're needy and desperate. Don't go for that thing and risk in your career. It's not going to work out. You're going to fail. Oh, look, you're already failing at this thing right here. Look what's wrong with you. Why is that not working? Of course it's not working. Look at you, right? That's a little snippet into that voice.