Dr. Aziz explains how your internal social story—the belief you hold about whether you're charming or awkward—shapes how you actually behave and how others respond to you. If you see yourself as desirable, you act more engaging. If you see yourself as awkward, you pull back and get negative reactions.
This one thing makes or breaks your social life. Worse still, it's invisible. And you might not even be aware. What is it? It's your social story. This is the idea you have about yourself and how you are socially around other people. Am I desirable or not desirable? Am I ugly or beautiful? Am I funny or am I boring? Am I suave or confident? Or am I awkward? And your social story has an amazing property to it. You want to know what it is? Whatever you think it is, it. It's true. So if you think you're awkward, you are awkward. If you think you're charming, you do become charming. Now, I'm sure in this moment, you have a question and say, wait a minute, Aziz. What if I think I'm charming, but really I'm not? Well, guess what? When you live your social story out, you become what you expect. So if you imagine I'm confident, people like me. Of course I'm charming. You're going to show up way more engaging and way more charming. And the flip side, if you imagine, oh, I'm so awkward and people aren't going to like me, guess what? You'll get more of that.
